re: Depression is kicking my arse

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Go outside. Even if your just reading. Find a gym. Be consistent. Make one night a week to leave your home and be social. Good luck

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Good recommendations. I’d also add, avoid social media completely, and don’t drink too much because it’ll 5x your anxiety and depression the next day.

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I have a week off of work,

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Bad combo for someone in your shoes


Start your days with a long walk or some form of exercise. Put on a podcast or music you like.


It will give you energy and make you feel accomplished.

Plan out some activities while you are off, even if it is just lunch at your favorite place. Or go to a coffee shop and do a crossword puzzle while you finish your coffee. Go to a museum or a sporting event. The stimulation might be good for you.


Watching tv
Drinking
Scrolling on the phone

Not good

Start bodybuilding. Seriously

I was having a hard time about a year ago and I was severely over worked. No time to go out and meet women in person. It’s hard to make myself go to the gym after working 12 hour shifts daily. I enrolled in online Masters courses in January and I’m hoping to be finished by March.

ETA I also lost 30 lbs from September-New Years and I’ve kept it off

Don’t let her win.

Dude find a god damn hobby and figure out something you enjoy and want to do. Be one of those Sunday bicycle assholes

Get your arse in the gym get a six pack

Then head to Amsterdam for a week

I am sure am pulling for your recovery asap. Breakups are different for everyone. I know it feels like you will never meet someone again, but you will. It's going to take some time.

Lot's of people have given you good advice about self improvement. Working out, working, projects, and all of those things will help occupy your time.

Hang in there and keep checking in with us.

OP you may need help from multiple people in your life. If you were 400lbs and wanted to get to 150, a PCP can’t help you alone, hell maybe not even a personal trainer alone. You need a therapists, and stick with them. You need to do like others say with working out, maybe see about hiring a life coach or whatever they are called. Need some immediate support from friends or family, someone you can trust outside your therapist. Get a primary care doctor. Start paying attention to the present moment intensely, enjoy all of it, work on not thinking about past and future, if you can’t stop, close eyes and focus on breathing. Get into a tv show, preferably comedy, watch on a regular tv preferably. Drop all social media and if you have to even TD for the time being. Set a timer on phone, put an hour limit on everything except text and phone calls.

Look into getting a dog, pay attention to detail around the room you are in. Look for 5 blue items, 4 yellow items, etc when thoughts are racing. Like others say, don’t drink, if impossible to stop, buy a small amount like 6 pack of beer or half pint of whiskey and ween yourself down.

1) Put down the phone
2) Talk to doctor, if you don’t want meds that good, but still go to a doctor and get a discussion started
3) therapist- will take a minimum of 10 sessions on average
4) present moment is all that matters
5) get a pet
6) Family and friend you trust and let them know your situation

Eta: As a Christian I’d recommend praying also but I don’t know your position on that

Lack of vitamin D can cause depression. Not sure how often you are out in the sun, if not much start taking vitamins.

Its unbelievable how such a simple solution can change things for you.