re: Dear diary, tired of living (update pg 15)

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TexasTiger08

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I've already posted twice in this thread, but I want to add this:

You must be intentional about taking authority over your own life and making your well-being a priority. That means physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually to become the best person you can be. 

You choose your attitude. No one can make you feel or act a certain way. You decide how your day, week, and year will be.

I recognize that this is very difficult for you, and I don't expect you to understand or fully grasp this in your current state of mind. However, as others have said, life has the potential to get better, or worse --- a good portion of this is in your control, but you won't have the option to experience what all life has to offer if you don't get yourself some professional help today.

If you are using a therapist, and you haven't built a connection with one over time, find another one. Just like good doctors, there are bad doctors. Just like good electricians, there are bad electricians. The same holds true for therapists.

Find a way to remain positive and grateful. It looks like this: Today may be difficult, and I may have obstacles that come my way. There may be people working against me, but I know I can take care of this. I know I can handle it. See, because I can count on me. I can rely on myself, I can trust myself, and I can do things.

I, like others, would love to hear from you in this thread. My offer still stands (I will share my personal number with you if you want to get some things off of your mind).

Keep it up, it really is one day at a time. There are always shoulders to lean on...and we all need them. Go kick arse!

Thank you for replying.

If you are a spiritual person and believe, something that helped me (through the help of my therapist) is surrendering to God. I realize this may not be for everyone, but it helped me, and whatever can work for you (or anyone else) and isn't hurtful to you or anyone else can't be all that bad.

God is not in a hurry. You are. It’s why you’re tired. It’s why you’re anxious. Furthermore, it’s why you are frustrated, stressed, and disappointed.

Your anxiety may be a signal to pray and give it to God (and having a great support system in place through friends and family, a counselor, and medication).

Even if you don't believe right now that things will get better, lean on the people that you trust because they have a different perspective than you do. The sun will come up tomorrow, and you will still be breathing. Understand that you don't have to carry the weight or burden on your shoulders all day, every day. Take life in bite size pieces until you are able to get some issues resolved to your liking.

One song that I listen to over and over --- and I mean really listen to the lyrics, when I have anxiety come over me is, "Let it Be" by The Beatles. My counselor recommended this to me, and it really moved me (and still does today), because I finally understand the meaning behind the song, instead of just singing along like I do to most songs.

There will be an answer, until then, let it be.

Let It Be

Keep on pressing. One day at a time.

I feel like anything I want to say sounds condescending, but it can be so healing to care for others. Your friends that are hospitalized with serious illnesses…do for them. If they’re local, go sit with them, maybe bring a meal or visit with their family. Talk about the illness-or not-but let them feel your presence. There’s not another person in the world that can offer your unique presence. If they’re not local, call them. Regularly. My husband has been in and out of the hospital all year, and it always cheered him up when he heard from someone. Being seriously ill can be terribly isolating. Stop counting the number of people who care for you and just love the ones who do. In your current state, you wouldn’t feel better if the number was 20 or 500; that in itself will not give you relief. If you’re getting professional help, find another Dr. if you’re not progressing. Ask a minister and your family to lay hands on you, or ask a priest for anointing of the sick. Fight back on every level. Praying for you.

As bad as things seem just remember that there are always folks out there that are in a situation far worse than yours. Yet, they manage to hack it somehow..

You need jiu jitsu. It won’t fix everything but it changed my life and saved me in a way when my first wife left me for another dude.


But more than that, you need a relationship with Jesus

Keep the faith man

I didn’t have a great day today tbh

We go again tomorrow.

What I needed

Granted this was someone that died at 911 but the message is still the same. When I was at the end someone sent this to me, and it really made me realize it wasn’t all about me, and it wouldn’t be fair to my daughter.

Once you look your daughter in the eyes for the first time you will understand no matter what. It is, and will always be hard. Overcome all of that for your daughter.

Daughters are the best!! They will soften you up, and make you 10times stronger all at the same time!! They will always be there for you if you are always there for them.

Don’t give in, and don’t give up!! I’ve been there, and done that. Fight thru this.

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You must be intentional about taking authority over your own life and making your well-being a priority. That means physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually to become the best person you can be. 

You choose your attitude. No one can make you feel or act a certain way. You decide how your day, week, and year will be.

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I was in a post-divorce funk (cheating ex, too) for a while.

Some of the things mentioned in the thread (exercise, therapist, vacation) get me bopping along, but nothing CHANGED until that^^^ clicked with me.

That I had been given an OPPORTUNITY to define who I really was, and who I really wanted to be. That, at least for a minute here, I don't have to answer to fricking anybody - I can write whatever story I want.

I did that - and 20 years on, now - I don't think I could even imagine back then the things I've accomplished, the places I've been, the person I've become.

Your situation is not an abyss - it's a blessing. Take advantage.