re: Dealing with a break up as a father

Is there any chance that your wife has postpartum depression? Or are y'all really young and there is immaturity?

You did not mention counseling or the possibility of it. The most important thing your child wants is your time and attention. If you make the effort through counseling and it doesn't work out, then at least you will know that you did what you could to save the family.

I sincerely hope that y'all can work it out. Good luck.

What did God say when you asked him?

Your wife will remarry and start calling him Dad and you by your first name

It sucks but it will happen

She was not like this for the first 3 years of marriage. She started getting mean and would rage during pregnancy but I chalked it up to hormones. Sadly a year later and she is still negative and very confrontational.

Do yourself a favor, and research postpartum depression.

Next step would be counseling 100% - you have to try everything before you give up.

If for nothing else, do it for your kiddo. One or two rough years is worth being with your child for 18 years.

When I was separated from my kids over 30 years ago it devastated me. I still cry 35 years later when I remember those times.

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I've been trying. My wife refuses to let my daughter visit my mother. Calls her names.

Always is negative no matter what. Finds the littlest things to blow up and yell and cuss in front of the baby. I refuse to argue in front of my daughter so I just leave the room bc there is no calming her down. It's very toxic.

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That sucks, but if this is the worst of it and nothing more nefarious is going on, then counseling is definitely worth a shot.

I have a family friend whose ex turned into a different person after they got married and had a kid. They separated before his daughter was even a year old without trying counseling. Maybe it wouldn't have helped them, but they'll never know now, which is unfortunate.

She’s young enough that if y’all run away and live under an assumed name and find a new wife she won’t remember any of it

Plenty of other fish in the sea and you will think it is better not fighting with Mrs. Kennedy for a while. But it would be almost impossible for me to live with knowing I’d only see my kids every other weekend, every other major holiday and 1/2 a day on their birthday. If that is not bad enough, imagine when Ex-Mrs. Kennedy finds a new husband (after going through a 1/2 dozen strangers to find him) and that man sees/raises your daughter 24 days per month (1/2 of all major holidays and 1/2 of her birthday) to your four days a month. If you can live with those consequences then give up on the marriage. If that concerns you, fight like hell to save your marriage. Whatever it takes.