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re: Dealing with a break up as a father
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:10 pm to TeamCKennedy
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:10 pm to TeamCKennedy
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Any other fathers been then this scenario and have advice or words of encouragement for this hard time?
Mine were just over a year old and 1 month old when She left me. It broke me but made me value the time I had with them more. I was able to get 50/50. Fight for what you can get. Call them. FaceTime them. Make sure they know daddy loves them more than anything.
It’s not ideal but it’s better than the fighting I guess. Better they get a better you some of the time than a worse you all the time.
Keep your head up. You’ll make it.
ETA: I wanted to make it work. I wanted to go to counseling. I wanted to fix my faults. But she had already checked out. Happened during issac. I never had a chance.
This post was edited on 9/12/18 at 5:15 pm
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Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:10 pm to ChenierauTigre
OP, how old are you and your wife?
Man up and put your foot down. Be a man for God sakes.
Step up and find out as to why shite is going down hill for y'all. 
If need be, get outside help.
Man up and put your foot down. Be a man for God sakes.
Step up and find out as to why shite is going down hill for y'all. If need be, get outside help. 
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:11 pm to TheIndulger
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He's already made up his mind and is looking for encouragement in his decision
He shouldn't be encouraged to make a decision that he will ultimately regret.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:11 pm to TeamCKennedy
Stop being selfish. Your daughter will soon have another daddy figure in her life that she can wake up to and come home to smile to.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:12 pm to TeamCKennedy
Yes, get over yourself and make it work.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:12 pm to TeamCKennedy
Have you tried fam counseling?
If not, try that.
Since your daughter is only a yr old it won't be as traumatic for her.
If you and her mother split, try and spend as much time with your daughter as you can.
If not, try that.
Since your daughter is only a yr old it won't be as traumatic for her.
If you and her mother split, try and spend as much time with your daughter as you can.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:13 pm to TeamCKennedy
If you and your wife truly put your child first, you can make it less painful for all of you. I agree with the counseling suggestion if you haven't tried it already. If you can't stay together, it may help you both devise a reasonable and agreeable plan in caring for your daughter and keeping her close to both of you.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:16 pm to TeamCKennedy
My daughter just turned 1. I cannot imagine separating and not being able to see her whenever I want. I would do ANYTHING to try and reconcile my marriage before I let that happen.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:18 pm to TeamCKennedy
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advice or words of encouragement for this hard time?
Post pics of your new piece!
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:18 pm to Gris Gris
Good Lord forgive me, but I just hate people that quit. Life is NOT easy.
Life is NOT easy. 
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:18 pm to TeamCKennedy
How do you feel about your daughter stripping?
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:19 pm to Sao
Be prepared to spend 20-30k for competent representation if you want that outcome. It is impossible to place a monetary value on time with your children. It took over a year, but I got 50/50 and sold the boat.
This post was edited on 9/12/18 at 5:20 pm
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:20 pm to GEAUXT
I've been trying. My wife refuses to let my daughter visit my mother. Calls her names.
Always is negative no matter what. Finds the littlest things to blow up and yell and cuss in front of the baby. I refuse to argue in front of my daughter so I just leave the room bc there is no calming her down. It's very toxic.
I've tried alot. But definitely will look into to counseling. I'm willing to try anything. Just for the sake of my daughter.
Always is negative no matter what. Finds the littlest things to blow up and yell and cuss in front of the baby. I refuse to argue in front of my daughter so I just leave the room bc there is no calming her down. It's very toxic.
I've tried alot. But definitely will look into to counseling. I'm willing to try anything. Just for the sake of my daughter.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:22 pm to GEAUXT
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My daughter just turned 1. I cannot imagine separating and not being able to see her whenever I want. I would do ANYTHING to try and reconcile my marriage before I let that happen.
It’s a 2 way street. If you want to stay together and she doesn’t, what are you gonna do? You can’t force someone to be somewhere they don’t want to be.
Before my divorce I was completely against it. I posted about it here, how you made vows of til death do us part and all that. But it’s easy to talk when you aren’t in the shite.
When you are really facing it things change.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:23 pm to TeamCKennedy
I don't have any advice because I can't even imagine how tough that is going to be but I'll say a prayer for you guys.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:24 pm to TeamCKennedy
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I've been trying. My wife refuses to let my daughter visit my mother. Calls her names.
Always is negative no matter what. Finds the littlest things to blow up and yell and cuss in front of the baby. I refuse to argue in front of my daughter so I just leave the room bc there is no calming her down. It's very toxic.
Was it like this before the child was born?
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:25 pm to TeamCKennedy
You should stop thinking what is best for "us" and think what is best for the baby. Being an adult is more than sex and eating out.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:25 pm to TigerOnTheMountain
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Be prepared to spend 20-30k for competent representation if you want that outcome. It is impossible to place a monetary value on time with your children. It took over a year, but I got 50/50 and sold the boat.
I think the fact that my ex was so amicable and agreeable about it made things so much easier. I was able to get 50/50 custody, the house, the nicer car, no alimony and no child support.
It cost me, and I shite you not, the humor of this is JUST Hitting me as we speak and I have no idea how it’s been 6 years and i’ve Never made the connection.
My divorce cost me $350.
Holy shite. Honest to god.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:25 pm to TeamCKennedy
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But definitely will look into to counseling. I'm willing to try anything. Just for the sake of my daughter.
Thank you young man.
Posted on 9/12/18 at 5:25 pm to TeamCKennedy
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Always is negative no matter what. Finds the littlest things to blow up and yell and cuss in front of the baby. I refuse to argue in front of my daughter so I just leave the room bc there is no calming her down. It's very toxic.
This woman is going to make your life hell and will do everything in her power to poison your daughter’s relationship with you. Like the others have said, fight immediately for 50/50 custody. Don’t go for anything less.
Divorce is horrible. Like the others have said, do everything you can to make it work. If she’s that unhinged, try what you can to make it work. If she acts that way when you’re around, imagine how much worse she’ll act when you’re not.
This post was edited on 9/12/18 at 5:27 pm
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