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Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:10 pm to Fishwater
IF you're sleeping together, she's not as Catholic as she's trying to come across.
If you're not sleeping together, you need to look within to see if you can handle her making all big decisions for you from now on. Because she'll make you convert to stay with her then she will have the upper hand for the rest of you marriage.
If you're not sleeping together, you need to look within to see if you can handle her making all big decisions for you from now on. Because she'll make you convert to stay with her then she will have the upper hand for the rest of you marriage.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:10 pm to Fishwater
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Fishwater
It's really up to the two of you.
It's very possible for you to be happily married with two different religions.
Having said that, if you would need her to convert, you need to stop now. That's not something that you should expect and it sounds like she's not interested. Likewise, if she's expecting you to convert, if you aren't willing that's something that can't be resolved later.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:10 pm to Fishwater
PIIHB now while you still can.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:10 pm to Fishwater
All the way
That's the way they go
Every day
And none of their mamas ever seem to know
Hip-Hip-Hooray
For all the class they show
There's nothing like a Catholic Girl
At the CYO When they learn to blow...
They're learning to blow
All the Catholic Boys!
That's the way they go
Every day
And none of their mamas ever seem to know
Hip-Hip-Hooray
For all the class they show
There's nothing like a Catholic Girl
At the CYO When they learn to blow...
They're learning to blow
All the Catholic Boys!
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:11 pm to TheWalrus
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How old are you? Do you have marriage in mind sooner rather than later? It sounds like she's not going to be very flexible if you had kids, etc. You need to either be upfront how you feel and come to some agreement or understand it's going to be her way in the future.
There is zero flexibility for kids religion in her eyes. Doesn't oppose me, but I'm starting to wonder what else will she not budge on.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:12 pm to Fishwater
Any chance you can attend your church service, she can attend hers?
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:12 pm to SouthEndzoneTiger
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If you are both devout to your religion, I hate to say it, but I don't see it working. Even if you "give in", somewhere down the road you will resent her for it. Unless you can agree to "go your separate ways" when it comes to religion, there will be friction. That will be fine for awhile, until children come into the picture. Just my opinion, good luck to you both.
Try reading Rome, Sweet Home by Scott Hahn for an example of two devoutly religious people on their faith journey. Spoiler- they both become Catholic. But there is a phenomenal story that is the best example of a Journey of Faith that I can think of. The author starts as an atheist, winds up as a Protestant preacher/pastor, then a Catholic. It causes lots of stress on his relationship with his wife.
Again, they both become Catholic, so don't be surprised, but it isn't an underhanded attempt to show you Catholicism. Just the best example of the approach to deepening faith and the trials associated with doing so in a marriage (though it starts long before they even meet).
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:13 pm to Hopeful Doc
I'm Methodist and I was once in a serious relationship with a catholic girl. We were together for 3 years. I wasn't overtly committed to my Methodist faith at that point in my life. We were both in our early 20's.
She but more importantly her family were devoted Catholics and it soon became obvious if I was to marry her I too would become catholic.
Luckily we both saw that we were t right for each other and split up. I love my catholic friends but they aren't the most accepting people.
Good luck
She but more importantly her family were devoted Catholics and it soon became obvious if I was to marry her I too would become catholic.
Luckily we both saw that we were t right for each other and split up. I love my catholic friends but they aren't the most accepting people.
Good luck
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:14 pm to Fishwater
Normal for who?
. . . well it obvious what she really thinks of your church.
So
for you ?
Not sure I'd worry bout what a boat load of frickers whom I don't even know thinks? My folks never went to same church (rare occasions) and have made it 60+ years together. And one of them was catholic the other had a Baptist minister for a dad.
quote:
Is this normal?
. . . well it obvious what she really thinks of your church.
So
quote:
down the road how this could unfold
for you ?
Not sure I'd worry bout what a boat load of frickers whom I don't even know thinks? My folks never went to same church (rare occasions) and have made it 60+ years together. And one of them was catholic the other had a Baptist minister for a dad.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:14 pm to AnonymousTiger
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RCIA is in your future
Or, at the very least, Pre-Cana.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:15 pm to Fishwater
Just go to the catholic mass man, make it easy on yourself. Its almost the exact same as Methodist and you don't really care anyway.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:15 pm to Fishwater
quote:Yes.
but she had zero use for going with me to my church.
Is this normal?
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:17 pm to CoachDon
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The core principles of Methodists and Catholics are the same. Shouldn't really be an issue.
Yeah, minus that whole transubstantiaton thing...
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:17 pm to Fishwater
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There is zero flexibility for kids religion in her eyes. Doesn't oppose me, but I'm starting to wonder what else will she not budge on.
Don't be worried about what she won't budge on- it sounds like it's all written in The Catechism of The Catholic Church. Raising children Catholic is a tenant of being Catholic and having children, as is attending Mass. There truly is a manual that will answer your questions as to what she will/won't do/believe from a religious standpoint.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:19 pm to CoachDon
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The core principles of Methodists and Catholics are the same. Shouldn't really be an issue.
Transubstantiation is a big deal to Catholics. To Methodists, not so much.
Methodist doctrine
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:19 pm to Golfer
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Yeah, minus that whole transubstantiaton thing...
In what way to they differ here? I've been to both masses and I thought they both had the line about "body of Christ".
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:20 pm to Fishwater
quote:
There is zero flexibility for kids religion in her eyes. Doesn't oppose me, but I'm starting to wonder what else will she not budge on.
I'm a cradle Catholic and ultimately married one too, but my prior relationships with non-Catholics I made it pretty clear about my intention to raise my children in the Catholic Church and schools.
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:21 pm to Fishwater
quote:
normal
Posted on 11/7/16 at 3:21 pm to Fishwater
Need to discuss everything up front if you plan on marriage. You will not be forced to convert in order to marry in the catholic church. Her family may want you to convert. You will have to promise to raise your children in the catholic church.
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