re: At What Age Does It Become Creepy to Not Be Married

38 never married. Buy what I want when I want and here lately been living in different areas just because. Go where I want randomly, etc. Don't want kids at this point but have nieces and nephews to spoil.

Call me creepy but I like my life at this point.

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I cannot think of anyone I know who is 35+, socially normal, and never married.

I get the mentality, but I've got no anecdotal evidence of it happening.

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How old are you, I'm married in my 40s and this is far from my experience. I can name many guys who are socially normal who fit this criteria. Most are well educated and have been in serious relationships in the past 10-15 years, just never married.

Also Louisiana is different from many other places, from my experience in DC and NY you were an outlier if you were married with kids before your mid 30s.

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Also Louisiana is different from many other places, from my experience in DC and NY you were an outlier if you were married with kids before your mid 30s.

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Nail on the damn head. Louisiana is a bubble and is many years behind the trends of major cities. That's why you have so many stay home moms with no career skills

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Nail on the damn head. Louisiana is a bubble and is many years behind the trends of major cities. That's why you have so many stay home moms with no career skills

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That's a rural vs major city thing. Nothing to do with Louisiana except Louisiana does not have a major city.

We have debated at what age one of our NOLA friends went from single guy on the make to dirty old man. He had been married in his late teens. Divorced.

Many, many girl friends. Some would have been good wives for him. Now, still single, he hits on girls (the few he hasn't dated) who are young (but still legal) but they don't view him as a settle down guy so he's seldom the only one that his GFs are dating.

The answer for him was between 50 and 55.

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It's creepy that by 35 some woman hasn't lured your stupid arse into it. We are all susceptible to it at least once. Unless you got the gay.

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What if you've seen two older brothers get lured into marriages that ended badly and the one woman that you were engaged to turned out to be a whore?

Is that still creepy that the person above may find the idea of marriage abhorrent? Asking for a friend.

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Is that still creepy that the person above may find the idea of marriage abhorrent?

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Well, to a degree, it is acceptable to eschew the idea forever, particularly if you don't want children. However, it does generally make a male who does this a "taker" - males gain in value, generally (there are always exceptions, baws) through their mid-40s and even right to 50. Females' values peak right around the time of their attractiveness peak, generally 26 to 28, then it dives rapidly, particularly after 32 or so. So, a man who delays in marrying young (say 18 to 24) is building a jackpot, so to speak.

But by 30ish, he needs to go ahead and settle down - or else he's going to be "playing the field" with desperate females over whom he has an adhesive negotiating advantage. Thus the thread.

What kind of question is this? I wonder how many people get married just because they feel like they have to? Some people prefer not to be married. There is nothing wrong with that.

Married to the Corps and country baw

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Married with 2 kids checking in. There are days where sure I wish I could go do whatever the frick I wanted, but last Saturday for example seeing my still single friends still doing the same shite on st Patrick’s day we did when we were 18, I couldn’t still be doing that on a weekly basis now.

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Eh....they sound boring. I'm not boring. I have several hobbies and I enjoy all the time I have.

If all a single person does is drink etc then it isn't much of a life anyway. I can bring alcohol on the boat, trail, camp site, road trips.