re: Asking how much money someone makes

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Pretty much this. If it's someone asking about career oppurtunity or a good friend asking for a legit reason I don't mind at all sharing. However, if it's some guy I went to high school with asking to then try to brag about how much he makes at the paper mill I tell him to frick off.

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This is a good summary of how I feel about the situation.

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Third question: "Do you make much doing that?"


Maybe he was making small talk? Could give a vague but friendly answer like "Yeah, we do alright for ourselves." or "It pays the bills."

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ya that could have just been a form of "how's business going"

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how much money you make?

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'Bout tree fiddy

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What’s the best way to respond without being a jackass?

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Why should I worry about impressing an a-hole that I am a jackass?

tell em about tree fiddy.

well......

It is in poor taste. I just respond with, "not enough".

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if someone that I am friends with asked and they weren't being an a-hole or whatever, I wouldn't mind discussing it.

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Had lunch last Friday with a guy who was student employee of mine a hair over a decade ago. We're still close today and I was telling him about another close buddy of mine who is hiding "man-cave" purchases from his wife because she acts like they're poor, despite her earning close to six-figures and him doing okay himself. At one point or another, I said something along the lines of "you're pretty close to six-figures now or over, right?" I assumed as much because I know what he does for a living and who he works for. His response was "over". I don't think he minded saying it, though I probably wouldn't have asked him had I thought it through a little more. Still, I don't think it was a big deal. The point was simply that he and his wife are doing well and living well (within their means) making about the same as my other friends who are pinching pennies and would make you feel like they needed a handout. He and my other friend's wife both make more than me and I'm quite happy for them both.

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and yet people ask it so frequently.

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I don't think I've ever been asked outside of situations where income info is needed (credit, financial advice, tax prep, etc.)

I have people tell me what they make out of the blue. I think they're trying to impress me, but I make more than them.

I was told at a young age. When two people talk about how much money they make, one of them will always walk away mad

Better not to have that conversation