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Posted on 6/22/22 at 9:44 pm to cable
“If you can’t love her at her worst then you don’t deserve her at her best” - unknown hairdresser
Posted on 6/22/22 at 9:45 pm to cable
She’s looking for you to be the dad her kids never had. If it’s for you then do it but it sounds like it’s not. If that’s the case cut your losses and move on. Not worth tying up everyone’s feelings and resources in something “trying to make it work.”
Posted on 6/22/22 at 9:46 pm to cable
Leave this woman. Now. I mean NOW. Like tonight. Right NOW.
Posted on 6/22/22 at 9:47 pm to cable
Deal breaker #1
A little background. GF has two kids from a previous relationship.
Deal breaker #2
Baby daddy is a degenerate drug dealer (who has spent time in prison for such).
What the hell are you thinking baw?
A little background. GF has two kids from a previous relationship.
Deal breaker #2
Baby daddy is a degenerate drug dealer (who has spent time in prison for such).
What the hell are you thinking baw?
Posted on 6/22/22 at 9:50 pm to drunkenpunkin
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I agree with you. I couldn't be with someone who didn't love my kids. OP would be doing them all a favor to end it now.
This is a selfish way to think, IMO. Just because someone is in a relationship with you, they have to automatically sprout feelings of love for your kids? They have to treat them with kindness and respect, yes, but love? Your kids are people. People that your SO doesn’t know, doesn’t remember as cute babies. Expecting a woman (or man) to instantly love them is unrealistic. Expecting your kids to instantly love your SO is unrealistic. All involved have personalities and feelings separate from you and your feelings. How the people involved act and treat each other makes a difference. You have to manage your people and not expect them to just fall in line. The only thing they have in common with each other in the beginning is you.
Posted on 6/22/22 at 9:52 pm to cable
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A little background. GF has two kids from a previous relationship. Baby daddy is a degenerate drug dealer (who has spent time in prison for such). I really don't care for the eldest child - she ran away last year and that resulted in a long and expensive custody battle with lots of drama. This kid is a mean little shite and has a mouth that makes you want to wash it out with soap (not my kid - so can't do anything but try to avoid interacting with the kid).
Maybe she will dump you over this drama and save you from this mess.
Posted on 6/22/22 at 9:53 pm to Hetfield
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Leave this woman. Now. I mean NOW. Like tonight. Right NOW.
I am a hopeless romantic (see my concern with volsout4harambe’s romantic drama thread) but everything about this screams RUN.
I see no way that this ends remotely well for any parties.
Posted on 6/22/22 at 9:58 pm to cable
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GF
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don't want my gf looking at me like I'm supposed to be buying meals and entrance fees to Disney and Universal and shite like that
Why are you dating her? She has 2 daughters that come with the deal. If you don't expect to be the provider, why are you wasting everyone's time?
Posted on 6/22/22 at 9:59 pm to cable
Damaged goods
Return them
Get a new model
Return them
Get a new model
Posted on 6/22/22 at 10:01 pm to Hetfield
I’m struggling to understand why you’re still with her? Are you elephant man or something?
Posted on 6/22/22 at 10:01 pm to Rick9Plus
I didn't say instantly. But yeah if someone said they can barely tolerate one of my kids, that'd be a problem for me. Not like I think OP is a bad person for not loving the kids. Just not the right relationship for either one of them it seems.
Posted on 6/22/22 at 10:04 pm to the LSUSaint
All good points. I will just move on because I have no intention of providing for another man's offspring.
Posted on 6/22/22 at 10:13 pm to drunkenpunkin
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I didn't say instantly. But yeah if someone said they can barely tolerate one of my kids, that'd be a problem for me. Not like I think OP is a bad person for not loving the kids. Just not the right relationship for either one of them it seems.
That’s understandable. I was referring to single parents (like OP’s GF) who raise kids with intolerable behavior, who do horrible shite that you can’t come back from maybe, who expect whoever they are dating to love their kids unconditionally. The thing is, humans don’t typically have unconditional love for people they are unrelated to. To expect OP to step in and be Daddy is unrealistic, especially if the kids are older and the real baby daddy is still living and possibly fking shite up. Just like it would be unrealistic for a person to expect their kids to accept whatever person they are banging as a new parent. The kids should be made to be respectful but you can’t make them love someone they just met. Single parents in my experience tend to be delusional in this area.
Posted on 6/22/22 at 10:21 pm to Rick9Plus
I don't disagree with you. It is unrealistic. But it's also something I've lived through personally and really never expected to find someone who would love my kids as much as I do. I just happened to find someone who fell in love with all of us. And if I hadn't, I'd be single because I couldn't be with someone who didn't love my kids.
I definitely think when you're divorced or older and single, it's really important to be honest with potential partners and yourself about what you want and don't want so you don't end up in situations like the OP.
I definitely think when you're divorced or older and single, it's really important to be honest with potential partners and yourself about what you want and don't want so you don't end up in situations like the OP.
Posted on 6/22/22 at 10:29 pm to cable
This sounds trashy,the relationship. Not so much playing daddy but the reality is this what happens when you date woman w/ baggage I wouldn't want to be an ATM
This post was edited on 6/22/22 at 10:30 pm
Posted on 6/22/22 at 10:32 pm to NotoriousFSU
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Pussy ain’t free. You stupid or something?
Yeah but not worth all that bullshite
Posted on 6/22/22 at 10:33 pm to drunkenpunkin
The youngest is a decent kid - as far I can tell. Involved in a lot of activities. Is pleasant to be around. The older kid that ran away - to her drug dealer daddy - is all kinds of messed up.
This dude has a son with another woman - this son is currently on trial for 1st degree murder for a drug deal gone bad. I could probably write a book on all the stuff that's gone on since I started dating this person. It's really all pretty unbelievable.
I guess I was bored because I got some really interesting shite for a while.
This dude has a son with another woman - this son is currently on trial for 1st degree murder for a drug deal gone bad. I could probably write a book on all the stuff that's gone on since I started dating this person. It's really all pretty unbelievable.
I guess I was bored because I got some really interesting shite for a while.
Posted on 6/22/22 at 10:35 pm to cable
pics and I’ll help you decide
Posted on 6/22/22 at 10:39 pm to BU Bear In BR
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pics and I’ll help you decide
The ones I have would get me banned
She looks like a hotter version of Marion from Indiana Jones - use your imagination.
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