Men are "Lost"

Warning this does link to a CNN youtube video but surprisingly it's done without any real political rhetoric which is nice for a change.

As someone who has struggled with dating myself I am both relieved and sad. Relieved that I'm not the only man struggling in this new dating world but really sad that we are probably going to lose entire generations of men because of militant feminism.

To me both the man and woman guest speakers bring up points most women don't want to bring up. But more than anything the problem I see is that the roles and rules have changed but no one has told men what the new rules are. As women are now working and no longer need men to be the breadwinner that role has been taken away. As the U.S. loses more and more manufacturing and there is a switch more to services, health care and technology that means less jobs that men would traditionally take and more jobs women would traditionally take.

Education stats are of course well established now and revealing. Women are earning more degrees and in general outpacing men at all levels of higher education. But unlike men these same women refuse to date non college educated men.

You also have the results of the #MeToo movement where the rules of the dating game have changed. Meeting a woman in the workplace, even if they don't work in your direct area and you have no managerial control over them, is now out of the question. Meeting women at bars/clubs could result in you getting kicked out, laughed at or even having the woman do a YouTube video on you to destroy you for the world to see. In most social settings now there's way too much risk for the man to approach, but women still want to have their cake and eat it too and still largely refuse to approach themselves.

When it comes to the dating game the rules have been changed but no one has told men what the new rules are and really have any new rules really been established? It's no different than if the refs at a football game told the teams at halftime that the rules for the second half will be completely different but you won't know what those rules are. It's resulted now in 50% of new relationships being formed with online dating and online dating being the default for dating.

The problem is online dating really only works for the top 20% of men and if you aren't in that top 20% you are essentially invisible.

I also like how they talk about where this will go. We all know that history teaches us what happens to countries where a lot of young men can't date and/or get sex. Those are countries where governments are toppled, violence soars, extremist groups take hold and the economy suffers. The old saying applies, if you have nothing you have nothing to lose.

Think about it this way. We're giving young men (including myself though I'm not really young anymore) nothing to lose. Nothing to fight for. If something really did pop off with China or Iran does the U.S. really think young men are going to fight for a country that does nothing for them? I think it's a big reason military recruitment is down so much. What is there for these men to truly fight for? In many ways they would be fighting for a country that openly hates them.

I don't know if I see any realistic way out of this. Does any of this match what you all are seeing in your lives? If so what solutions are there that could be realistically implemented?