re: Are more parents going to schools during lunch to spend time w/ their kids?

I have a feeling that maybe your kids are acting like bullies. It's likely due to the lack of parental attention. So they ridicule those kids who are receiving the attention they would like to have. And you go along with it because it helps to justify your selfish behavior.

My daughter asks me to come eat with her so I do. stop being such a fricking hard leg.

Nice try. My kids have gotten more attention from my late wife & I in the last 2 years than any other I know. On top of that, they're getting more from my siblings, her siblings, & of course the grandparents.


This entire experience has taught me that there's a noticeable percentage of parents lately that simply helicopter as much as they can or want. And it looks to be that this will only get worse.

helicopter parents. I have friends that are these type--poor kid is so sheltered from the real world, feelings, failure, figuring things out on his own.

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My kids have gotten more attention from my late wife & I in the last 2 years than any other I know

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Have you thought that maybe your own children's attitude towards other kid's parents eating lunch at school with them may be linked to them missing their own mother who they recently lost?

If it's a fresh wound then most adolescents who lose a parent won't tell you how they really feel about it anyway. Especially at such a young age like your kids where they couldnt vocalize such complex feelings to begin with. Often times, whether they realize they're doing it or not, kids will even say the exact opposite of how they actually feel as a way to cope to make things go away and not have to deal. So I strongly suspect that although your kids tell you otherwise it would mean a great deal to them if you showed up to have lunch with them one day, even if they didn't show it or tell you afterwards.

But you obviously know your own family the best, and everybody handles grief differently, so it's also just as possible that they're telling the truth or even that you showing up for lunch could cause them to lash out.

I hope you don't take this the wrong way, and I hate to say it, but I'm also beginning to think that your own reaction to other parents eating lunch with their kids is you projecting your own pain of losing your wife.

My sincere condolences to you and your family. I can't begin to imagine the grief that you all are going through. I truly hope that you and your children all find peace with the situation.

My husband goes once a week to eat with our daughter (first grade). He works from home and we live a mile from the school so he heads out, has lunch, and is back in half an hour or so.

Our daughter loves it and he sits with the kids and talks with them, chats with the teacher, the lunch ladies, the principal and gets lots of intel. It connects a lot of dots from the incomplete stories we get out of our daughter each day. He enjoys seeing her interact with her friends.

How long he will continue depends on our daughter. When she doesn't want him to come anymore, she will tell us. She doesn't mind shooting straight with us.

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It's likely due to the lack of parental attention. So they ridicule those kids who are receiving the attention they would like to have. And you go along with it because it helps to justify your selfish behavior.

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All of this. I eat with my daughter at school once every few weeks. She loves it. I sit and talk with all her friends and we crack jokes and whatnot.

I feel bad for the kids who have hardass parents. They will grow up to be bitter just like them.

This has been a thing for awhile even when I was in elementary school. fricking chill out dude