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re: Anyone else not on speaking terms with a parent?
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:18 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:18 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
Before he died, my dad forged my name on some legal documents associated with a lawsuit that broke him. Obligated me to pay his debts. Had to find out from his attorney who called me to ask a question.
My options, send him to jail, or get with the other attorneys and settle out. Which btw cost me every cent I had saved and then some. Called me and completely went off on me. Almost never spoke after that.
I was in my 40’s, starting over at that age is no fun, but my wife and I did it. He died broke, and I paid to bury him.
My options, send him to jail, or get with the other attorneys and settle out. Which btw cost me every cent I had saved and then some. Called me and completely went off on me. Almost never spoke after that.
I was in my 40’s, starting over at that age is no fun, but my wife and I did it. He died broke, and I paid to bury him.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:18 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
I minimize contact with my mom because she is a certified loon who has undiagnosed BPD because “she doesn’t need help”
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:20 am to LNCHBOX
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How she's robbing you of her money?
Shes been remarried for over 30 years.
Insurance policy was for spouse + children.
He was divorced from his 2nd wife at the time that he passed away.
She contacted the policy holder the day that he died. I only found out because they contacted me to verify some old information. When I told them that "Mrs. Smith" was no longer married to Mr. Smith, they changed how the funds were to be dispersed.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:20 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
My father chooses not to be in person with me or my sister. He’ll be polite on the phone but doesn’t want to be around us. I’m pretty sure he’s bipolar. It comes in waves. He’ll love being around us for a few months and then wants nothing to do with us for a longer period of time.
Edit: I hate that all of you are going through some stuff, but it makes me feel better that I’m not the only one.
Edit: I hate that all of you are going through some stuff, but it makes me feel better that I’m not the only one.
This post was edited on 5/7/24 at 10:26 am
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:24 am to carhartt
Also, my Mom was almost giddy when my Grandma passed away because it meant she could use her inheritance to pay off her house.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:25 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
My dad didn't talk to his mom for a few years over money. He didn't even go see her when she was on her death bed. He cried like a baby during the funeral and regrets not telling her goodbye.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:25 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
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Shes been remarried for over 30 years.
Insurance policy was for spouse + children.
He was divorced from his 2nd wife at the time that he passed away.
She contacted the policy holder the day that he died. I only found out because they contacted me to verify some old information. When I told them that "Mrs. Smith" was no longer married to Mr. Smith, they changed how the funds were to be dispersed.
Yikes, that'll do it. Sorry you're going through that. My dad didn't talk to me for over a year at one point over politics of all stupid things. Luckily we were able to mend the relationship, but that year plus sucked.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:26 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
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Haven't talked to my mother in almost 2 years after she got her feelings hurt when I caught her trying to rob me of my father's inheritance.
Was she successful? I like rich broads...
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:26 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
Not technically on no speaking terms but I’ve limited my mom and sister to about 10% access. Just couldn’t handle the constant drama anymore. Life is too short.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:27 am to Porter Osborne Jr
my mom left when I was 17. I am 53 and have not spoken to her since I was 17
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:27 am to Cregg
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try not to think about him but just can't help it.
Try this drill: When you think about him and all the things you wish you could say, or wish you had said, write him a letter. Wrote down everything you're feeling and want to say. Address it, seal it up, and then burn it.
It eventually rewires your brain and the intrusive thoughts will begin to disappear.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:27 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
Depressing thread this is
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:28 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
I dont talk to my stepmom after my dad died. She always tried to tell me I was just as important to them as her 4 biological kids which I always thought was BS. Now I know it was BS.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:31 am to Relham10
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Depressing thread this is
Sorry...I know
Its just really been bothering me a lot lately.
There is a multitude of things though that changed our relationship.
Shes almost 80 now
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:34 am to Relham10
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Depressing thread this is
Sure is but apparently this is very common.
Hate that so many people are going through what I went through and apparently much worse.
I’ve gotten to the point where I choose to remember the good things about my dad, he taught me professionalism, how to use a lawn mower, how to change my oil. There just isn’t enough there to maintain a relationship and I’m at peace with that.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:34 am to EmperorGout
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Oh boy would you be wrong. You have no idea how many extremely successful people come from fricked up backgrounds. Anger is one of the purest motivators there is
I don’t talk to my dad. He’s been an opiate addict since I was 10 and I had to grow up with that shite. He also has untreated bipolar and is narcissistic. I finally cut ties completely 1 year ago.
Can confirm successful ppl coming from fricked up backgrounds, I’m a doctor married to a doctor
This post was edited on 5/7/24 at 10:35 am
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:39 am to Relham10
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Depressing thread this is
It is depressing. But it’s also very liberating. Coming to the decision to cut ties with a toxic family member is really hard to do. But once you do it and get over the initial heartache you feel like a weight has been lifted and you can actually enjoy living your life.
It’s surprising how the wrong person can affect your life without you realizing it or without them physically being around you.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:40 am to Master of Sinanju
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They kept asking me to pay back some loans I had borrowed from them. It became uncomfortable and I kept changing the subject, but they persisted.
This my friends is why you never loan money to anyone. Especially family members.
My grandmother was bad about this. She loaned my parents money to buy their first home. They divorced when I was 10 and things got ugly. My grandmother wound up suing my dad. I don't have all the details because I was a kid, but she wound up losing the suit and they hated each other till the day they died.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:41 am to NatalbanyTigerFan
My mother and I have a pretty fragile relationship. As long as my dad was alive she would only agitate me a limited amount. Since he passed away, we will have weeks or months we barely speak when she is being difficult. When she plays nice, we get along okay until the next meltdown. What makes it complicated is that we are both part of a family owned business. She primarily does the payroll while I run the day to day operations. She is north of 80 so I don't see her changing anytime soon. I just deal with it because I know she won't be here forever and despite her having the ability to be an absolutely toxic person, I will miss her when she is gone. After all, she raised me and took care of me when I was too young to take care of myself.
Posted on 5/7/24 at 10:41 am to Jake88
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This is a joke, right?
pretty sure it is, baw
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