re: Any males on here have a positive experience with a divorce?

My first marriage was fricked up from the get-go! We were both too young and immature to handle marriage and all I knew was to work hard and bring home the money to her to pay bills, take care of the kids, etc. She stayed at home and I was making plenty of money but about 7 years in she went nuts with lotto tickets and video poker. I found out about it when I went to get some cash for a trip to grand isle and the bank told me that I was very overdrawn and needed to take care of the mess. When I got to the bottom of it she had been writing checks from unopened checkbooks and was not even trying to account for the money, she was just hiding her habit.

In my divorce, we got joint custody, she had the kids every other weekend and two weeks in the summer and she had to pay me a couple hundred a month in child support. It was painful to go through the process but now 24 years later, I have been married to my current wife for 22 years and have never been happier or more successful. A good wife is a source of strength that you can lean on when times are tough and a constant source of love when you don't even love yourself

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My thoughts exactly. When reading these divorce threads there is never any accountability by the guy for putting on ring on the fingers of these chicks. This also goes for women who are always ragging on their ex's. They either didn't date long enough, overlooked the red flags or both and that's on you. Only one guy in this thread wishes his ex well. Not to be a dick but people need to choose better partners.

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You live and learn. I knew it was probably a bad idea at the time. I don't wish ill on her. I think she's remarried at this point. Hopefully she's happy. Different timing, different circumstances maybe it would have been different. People make mistakes and frick up. I bet even in the people who married well and are still together have some issues in some part of their life as well. We all just human.

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this is how whacked my ex was, we had a house on the water in so. fl. that we bought under market value, appreciated by approximately five times in under five years, I had people constantly making offers, when the divorce was inevitable, and she's bitching about needing money, she sabotaged about 4 deals to sell the house that would have been without realtor fees, judge finally forced "us" to list with a realtor and when the house sold we(I,) paid $96k in realtor fees, and the whole ugly process was permeated with examples like that, literally tried to sabotage and destroy everything because she could not have it all

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Nice subtle brag

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Your joke is actually my reality. Nice lady at the court house drew up the docs.

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It’s not a joke. It literally cost me three hundred and fifty dollars.


The hilarity of it only hit me recently actually. It was a family friend who did me a serious solid

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It sucked going through. I have my kids about 45-48% of the time (depending on how holidays fall). CS is no fun, but I am a better man and father because that situation is over. You can only be told how she no longer loves you so many times before it’s time to move on.

Process was awful, great now

To hell with a bitch. I won't tolerate a bitch.

well, at least my autistic personality will prevent me from ever going through any of this i guess

My divorce, even though I am the one that wanted it and we fought over nothing in the divorce still hit me very hard when this final papers saying it was done came in the mail.

I loved my wife dearly but she had health issues that were easily controlled and refused to do the most basic things to take care of herself.

After dealing with that for 10 years and realizing I couldn't save her, I had to save myself so I got out.

She died 5 years after the divorce because of a massive stroke. All because she wouldn't take care of herself.

It was tragic. Absolutely tragic.

So even though she didn't fight me and we agreed on everything in the divorce, it sucked horribly because I loved her dearly.