re: Another heartbreak, I'm just done with dating...

Wow, this thread is cringey as frick and I'm not just talking about the OP. A couple of the self-proffessed "experts" are even worse and I'm pretty sure the main offender is on crystal meth.

Gotta be someone that someone wants to be with. You're efforts to "find a wowan" are misguided and your probably coming off as desperate, even if subconsciously or inadvertent.

Focus on being the best AnarchySupporter you can be and some worthwhile will take notice.

Can't force this type of thing.

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I'm seriously considering just focusing on my interests, doing stuff I enjoy by myself, and shutting women out of my life completely

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This is what you should have been doing all along. The women will flock to a man who doesn't need one.

If you never go on a date, you can't be dumped. You have issues you need to work on. I say that to be nice. You need help.

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I think nugget is either on drugs or has some mental disorders. He went from being Captain alpha this and that to he would marry a girl with kids. That goes against everything he's been preaching on here.

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His video was an april fools joke

I think nugget went April Fools contrarian/troll there for a few days. He should be back to red pill alpha dog mode soon. I know people roll their eyes at internet diagnosis, but the dude has to be autist/Aspy's.

If OP is real, the only thing I can say for the poor bastard is online dating stuff is always a bit awkward before you meet the chick. They don't know if you're an axe murderer. You just have to get them comfortable enough with you to get a cup of coffee or a drink and let the charm take over when you meet them.

I didn't watch his video

OP, Did you go on dates during high school? I am just curious why you have had very little social interaction with girls in your life. Do you have friends that can set you up with someone they know? So many questions...

George: You can't break up with me. I've got hand!

Noel: And you're gonna need it.

OP, I haven't read this entire thread, but I'll put in my two cents from the outside looking in.

You try to hard, and I dont say that to be mean. I think with texting and stuff it's really easy to go on a great date and text the girl immediately when you get home. Dont do that. I've made the same mistake before.

Something I've been guilty of in the past, and I'm sure you are doing it, too, is finding someone you are interested in and latching on. Finding all of the good in them, but not knowing them long enough to understand, or recognize the bad. You put them on a pedestal, talk to them every waking moment, and push them away by coming off as desperate. If you are talking to them all the time how can they reasonable expect you to have hobbies, or other friends, or see you as someone they want to date. They know nothing about you other than that you are flooding them with all this attention, and have nothing else (better) going on in your life.

I've noticed that the less you care, the more interested they are. This is a fact. I'm not saying to never care, just dont seem, from the get go, that they are all you care about. I think the best advice you can get, is the bit you gave yourself. Worry about you, the things you enjoy, your hobbies, and dont go seeking women. Join social clubs/networks of your interest in your local area. Join a church, if religious, young professional organizations, etc. Get out of your comfort zone. When you go to a bar, or anywhere, force yourself to interact with people. Who cares if they dont like you, or if you get rejected. Are you any worse off than before you spoke to them? No, you are in the same place. I've done research on this when I was going through it, it boils down to self confidence, and being okay with just you. If you arent happy with youself, how can you possibly expect someone to be happy with you? Spend some time working on you, man. It wont be easy, but itll be worth it. Real books, have a positive mental attitude, and dont worry about the fact that you are single. The right girl will come along.

Think of the couples retreat scene where the asian guy talks about the cute bunny. When you have a cute bunny, you pet it, love it, but dont squeeze it so tight and so close that you kill it. You'll come out in a better place, and a few years down the road you'll eventually be happy that all the mishaps lead you to where you will be. Best of luck man.

ETA: If you are really feeling the way's you describe about yourself, I would definitely look into a therapist. I'm not saying that to be mean, it could really be beneficial to you. Mental illness is nothing to joke about, the sooner you seek help, the better.