re: Achieving peace and tranquility

Quit that job and start exercising for starters.

The shakiness is very normal when your stress hormones are on overdrive like yours seem to be. It’s normal to see an increase in tremors in your hand, feel jittery, feel like it’s hard to breath, and wake up quickly amongst others. Just know that nothing is REALLY wrong.

I had a panic attack at 35 after my second child was born. I wasn’t sleeping at night due to the baby, I was working super long hours because my coworker had torn his Achilles , and I had a dying family member back home. Went to a physical and the PA said some of my labs were off and it just set off a cascade for a few weeks.

It definitely took a few months to kind of break out of the cycle and about a year before I was completely back to normal. Lifting heavy weights again and exercising in addition to sleeping more is what broke me out of it. I changed my work schedule and remembered to just chill and take some breaths.

You can break out of it without meds but you have to reduce the source of your stress.

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For those of you who have grasped this, what have you done and/or have taken?

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I'm not saying I've totally achieved these things (I'm not sure anyone ever does), but I have made strides.

For me it started with a potential life ending disease,which I survived through a transplant after being pretty sick for a long time. After I recovered I went from a profession in which most projects were zero sum type conflicts (law) to one where they weren't (education). They are both challenging in different ways, but the latter is infinitely more rewarding for me.

For the past 4-5 months, I've been dealing with another potentially life threatening medical issue, but I'm thankful they have treatments and grateful for good news when it pops up.

Bottom line I think is have gratitude and, like someone above said see what you can do to help others.

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Any tips or suggestions to find personal peace and to counteract anxiety? Religion?

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Helped me a bit.

At some point, and I cannot pinpoint exactly when, this happened:



If I knew exactly how I got here, I would give you directions.

You have to cut out the negatives you don’t really need - if that’s your job - then find a new one

If it’s people - tell them to take a hike

Deal with things as they come and don’t put anything off

Exercising and quiet time of reflection (whether this be religious or not is up to you) helps a lot too

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Really don't want to yet. Only negatives so far are weight loss (this bothers me) and some tiredness. Its not a "curable" cancer, its chronic so treatments will be periodic and permanent.

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Best of luck to you. Keep that positive attitude. That is a big plus factor.

Mine is bladder, and the treatments are once a week for 6 weeks followed up by regular checkups and additional treatment if necessary.

To the OP: Upshot of all of this is: Enjoy life. Be thankful for the things you do have - health, family, etc. There have been some great recommendations throughout this thread on things like exercise, quiet time, etc. Try those and I hope everything works out great for you.

It would be hard for me to take advice from a guy with a neck tatt.

I wasn't suggesting it for you.

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I wasn't suggesting it for you.

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It was just a general comment. No offense intended.

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Any tips or suggestions to find personal peace

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I went to rehab and stopped hating my father and being terrified of becoming what he is. I'm a year sober and wrote him a final letter when in rehab. He's spending the rest of his life in prison and I am not him.