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7 Reasons to Tell Your Kid the Truth About Santa
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:46 pm
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:46 pm
7 REASONS TO TELL YOUR KIDS THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA (AND STILL KEEP THE MAGIC IN CHRISTMAS)
At a time when everything about Christmas has become commercialized and kids seem to care only about how many gifts they can receive, I think it's refreshing to see parents who recognize and promote the true reason for the season. Telling children the truth about Santa can be an incredible opportunity to instill lasting values that will enrich not just their lives, but everyone around them. God bless you all and Merry Christmas!
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I'm calling into question the long standing Christmas tradition of telling kids about Santa, especially the part about “if you aren’t good, Santa won’t bring you any gifts”.
When I was two years old my parents told me that Santa Claus didn’t exist. Most people I tell this to, let out a long sighing, “Ohhhh!” as if I just told them that my dog died. Yet growing up while knowing the truth about Santa didn’t destroy the magic of Christmas. And we did the same thing with our own kids when they were young.
The “you be good this year otherwise Santa won’t give you any gifts” aspect of Christmas is a little problematic for parents, like you and me, who choose to raise their kids knowing that they are loved unconditionally.
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1. HISTORICALLY THE STORY OF SANTA IS ACTUALLY ABOUT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE; IT’S THE STORY OF SAINT NICHOLAS
Nicholas, an early Christian, secretly gave money three separate times for three sisters whose father didn’t have enough money for a dowry for them to get married. Nick gave to this family unconditionally because of his love for God.
2. THE MODERN STORY OF SANTA IS ABOUT SURVEILLANCE, STUFFING YOUR FEELINGS DOWN, AND NOT EXPRESSING YOUR EMOTIONS
“He sees you when you’re sleeping, he knows when you’re awake, he knows if you’ve been bad or good so be good for goodness sake . .” Those lyrics are just creepy! I think that kids need to have privacy, space away from adults, freedom to fully express their feelings.
3. WE WANT OUR KIDS TO KNOW THAT WE LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY
I don’t like all the things my child does, but I always love her, for everything she is and everything she isn’t. In that loving space, I find ways to teach her to be more of who she is meant to be.
4. BEHAVIORAL SCIENCE TELLS US THAT WE GET MORE ENJOYMENT FROM BEING KIND TO OTHERS WHEN WE DON’T GET ANYTHING IN RETURN
When our kids act kindly out of the goodness in their hearts, not because of threats or bribes, it is naturally reinforcing. Kids that get rewarded for doing something experience less enjoyment, and are less motivated to do that behavior again!
5. TELLING KIDS LIES–ABOUT SANTA OR ANYTHING ELSE–DOESN’T HELP BUILD A TRUSTING RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM
Kids trust us fully and need us to help them make sense of the world. They rely on us to be truthful. They rely on us for security and safety. I know kids who have gotten angry with their parents after hearing that “Santa isn’t real”. I also know kids who are frightened by Santa. I know a little girl who was so scared...finally her parents convinced her that it was actually a Christmas bunny who would deliver the gifts (a lie on top of a lie).
6. IF GIFTS ARE UNCONDITIONALLY GIVEN, A CHILD DOESN’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT WHETHER HE’LL GET GIFTS ON CHRISTMAS AND HE IS FREED UP TO THINK OF GIVING TO OTHER PEOPLE
Christmas is about giving, not receiving, right? A problem occurs when parents use gifts as a reward for “good behavior”; it distracts kids from their focus on giving. If gifts are conditionally given, kids focus on themselves. If gifts are given unconditionally, kids can focus on others, giving unconditionally to them as well.
7. TELLING KIDS THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA DOES NOT TAKE AWAY THE MAGIC OF CHRISTMAS
The fun of Santa is playing the “Santa game”: writing a letter to Santa, leaving out cookies and milk, having the gifts appear magically overnight! You can still play the “Santa game” (I did and I still do!) and have all the magic of Christmas without lying to your kids. Kids can handle the duality of knowing that Santa is/isn’t real all at the same time. They will still believe in magic! You won’t be taking anything away from them.
At a time when everything about Christmas has become commercialized and kids seem to care only about how many gifts they can receive, I think it's refreshing to see parents who recognize and promote the true reason for the season. Telling children the truth about Santa can be an incredible opportunity to instill lasting values that will enrich not just their lives, but everyone around them. God bless you all and Merry Christmas!
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:47 pm to Pecker
Didn’t read. You hate your kids.
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:48 pm to Pecker
Oh good Lord. The holidays have made you kind of a SJW, Pecker. I'm disappointed.
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:48 pm to Pecker
You and Volod should hang out and just discuss your terrible threads together.
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:49 pm to Pecker
Or, just don’t raise your POS kids to be bad all the time.
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:49 pm to Pecker
The world is shitty enough. Let your fricking kids think there is SOME magic for the first few years of it's life. I hate miserable fricks like this.
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:49 pm to Pecker
We teach our kids about the magic of giving and as Papa Bear explains to Sister Bear in “Santa Bear” by Stan and Jan Berestain, Santa has the best job of all.
I’ve been impressed by my son’s willingness to think of others during the Christmas season. Only troubling part is American consumer culture, which my mother is unfortunately heavily influenced by.
So frick your reasons.
I’ve been impressed by my son’s willingness to think of others during the Christmas season. Only troubling part is American consumer culture, which my mother is unfortunately heavily influenced by.
So frick your reasons.
This post was edited on 12/26/18 at 1:50 pm
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:50 pm to Pecker
OMG, you sound like my SO who I have threaten with bodily harm if he tells my future grandchildren.
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:50 pm to Pecker
it always struck me as odd that you would lie to your kids. Obviously you have to keep some hard truths from your kids as they grow up, but to flat out lie seems to be setting a bad example.
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:50 pm to Pecker
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7. TELLING KIDS THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA DOES NOT TAKE AWAY THE MAGIC OF CHRISTMAS
The fun of Santa is playing the “Santa game”: writing a letter to Santa, leaving out cookies and milk, having the gifts appear magically overnight! You can still play the “Santa game” (I did and I still do!) and have all the magic of Christmas without lying to your kids. Kids can handle the duality of knowing that Santa is/isn’t real all at the same time. They will still believe in magic! You won’t be taking anything away from them.
He lost me here....either he thinks kids are stupid or he expects them to perpetuate a lie they are specifically told is a lie.
This post was edited on 12/26/18 at 1:51 pm
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:51 pm to Pecker
Watching a sleepy 6 year old run down the stairs at 6:00 am on Christmas morning to see what Santa brought is one of life's little treasures.
Though, it is kind of nice when they don't believe anymore and you get all the credit for gifts purchased.
Though, it is kind of nice when they don't believe anymore and you get all the credit for gifts purchased.
This post was edited on 12/26/18 at 1:52 pm
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:52 pm to Pecker
I’m fighting the person that tells my kids Santa isn’t real.
That includes the little shitheads in his class.
That includes the little shitheads in his class.
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:52 pm to Pecker
quote:Which is why the kids get gifts regardless.
1. HISTORICALLY THE STORY OF SANTA IS ACTUALLY ABOUT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
quote:Happiness isn't an emotion?
THE MODERN STORY OF SANTA IS ABOUT SURVEILLANCE, STUFFING YOUR FEELINGS DOWN, AND NOT EXPRESSING YOUR EMOTIONS
quote:See 1.
WE WANT OUR KIDS TO KNOW THAT WE LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY
quote:Do away with birthday presents, too, while you're at it.
WE GET MORE ENJOYMENT FROM BEING KIND TO OTHERS WHEN WE DON’T GET ANYTHING IN RETURN
quote:Trust is built year round. Reinforcing someone who is imaginary doesn't break that trust unless you just suck as a parent in general.
TELLING KIDS LIES–ABOUT SANTA OR ANYTHING ELSE–DOESN’T HELP BUILD A TRUSTING RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM
quote:Funny that anyone thinks a child doesn't have the mental capacity to think of giving to others if he or she believes in Santa.
IF GIFTS ARE UNCONDITIONALLY GIVEN, A CHILD DOESN’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT WHETHER HE’LL GET GIFTS ON CHRISTMAS AND HE IS FREED UP TO THINK OF GIVING TO OTHER PEOPLE
quote:It can if they believe in him.
TELLING KIDS THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA DOES NOT TAKE AWAY THE MAGIC OF CHRISTMAS
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:53 pm to Boudreaux35
Is he one of the people that show up to the mall just to let kids know there is no Santa
Posted on 12/26/18 at 1:54 pm to Pecker
Then you should have kids and raise them however you want. Until then, mind your own business.
This fricking guy.
"Eat your catfish skin or go to bed hungry and cry all night until you get strep throat, you ungrateful little shite. And by the way, there is no Santa. It is all a lie."
This fricking guy.
"Eat your catfish skin or go to bed hungry and cry all night until you get strep throat, you ungrateful little shite. And by the way, there is no Santa. It is all a lie."
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