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Thanks Sandusky ... I had to discuss pedophelia with my 14 yo son
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:24 pm
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:24 pm
He was reading over my shoulder (bad on my part) and saw the post titled "has your opinion of Joe Pater no changed" and he said "no".
That was it ... Without thinking I asked if he had any clue about what was going on. He knew that "something was going on" over there but not really so I discussed it in general terms.
Hope that I didn't fighten the crap out of him ... he has basketball practice this afternoon. And oh, my, he's an altar server also.
God bless this world ... it's gotten to be a sick place.
That was it ... Without thinking I asked if he had any clue about what was going on. He knew that "something was going on" over there but not really so I discussed it in general terms.
Hope that I didn't fighten the crap out of him ... he has basketball practice this afternoon. And oh, my, he's an altar server also.
God bless this world ... it's gotten to be a sick place.
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Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:25 pm to tiger91
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I had to discuss pedophelia with my 14 yo son
your kid is 14 and doesn't understand (1) sex and (2) old people shouldn't be fricking him? how?
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:26 pm to tiger91
seems like you should ahve already had a talk with him warning of this kind of behavior if he is 14
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:26 pm to tiger91
While it's never a good discussion to have with a child, 14 seems like a mature enough age to be able to have a decent understanding.
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:26 pm to SlowFlowPro
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:26 pm to tiger91
I dont think discussing this with him is a bad thing.
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:26 pm to tiger91
Better for him to find out from you rather than Sandusky....
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:26 pm to tiger91
OMG a 14 year old!!!!! OMG OMG!!!
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:27 pm to tiger91
My brother-in-law, 10, was watching ESPN with me this morning. He had no idea why I changed the channel so fast.
I love the little guy. Started to tear up.
It's good that you talked with him though. You can't hide these things. Knowledge of these sorts of things can help prevent them in the future.
I love the little guy. Started to tear up.
It's good that you talked with him though. You can't hide these things. Knowledge of these sorts of things can help prevent them in the future.
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:27 pm to tiger91
How fricking sheltered is he that you had to explain this to him at 14?
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:28 pm to The Mick
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I dont think discussing this with him is a bad thing.
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:28 pm to tiger91
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That was it ... Without thinking I asked if he had any clue about what was going on. He knew that "something was going on" over there but not really so I discussed it in general terms.
Also, he probably knew. I played dumb with my parents at 13 for the sex talk. I think they only did it out of obligation, anyway, assuming I knew what needed to be known.
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:28 pm to tiger91
By age 9 kids should be talked to about the fact it is wrong for older people to touch them in inappropriate ways in my opinion. Most know about sex by then anyways in today's world.
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:28 pm to tiger91
Younger children should know about "no-no squares" or whatnot.
I think by 14 I knew about the birds and the bees anyway.
I think by 14 I knew about the birds and the bees anyway.
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:31 pm to SlowFlowPro
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:32 pm to Stewie Griffin
I'm sure he did know before we ever discussed it ... yes we've discussed this before.
Before I finished talking I flat out told him that the "retired coach" had sex with this boy his age ... he looked freaked out that that could even happen. When you were 14 did you ever think about rape/sex between 2 people of the same sex?
Again, I ask how many of you are parents and have had the explicit discussion with your kids? Did it not cut your heart when you read the grand jury report that it could have been your child?
Before I finished talking I flat out told him that the "retired coach" had sex with this boy his age ... he looked freaked out that that could even happen. When you were 14 did you ever think about rape/sex between 2 people of the same sex?
Again, I ask how many of you are parents and have had the explicit discussion with your kids? Did it not cut your heart when you read the grand jury report that it could have been your child?
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:33 pm to tiger91
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When you were 14 did you ever think about rape/sex between 2 people of the same sex?
yes
now if he was 6, i'd be worried
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I ask how many of you are parents and have had the explicit discussion with your kids?
i haven't, but i had sex explained to me at 5 or 6 so that (1) it wasn't a big deal and (2) so that i'd know if i was being preyed on
i fully admit that was probably too early, but by 8-10 they should know. 14 is post-puberty. he's prolly at least gotten something by now
This post was edited on 11/10/11 at 3:34 pm
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:34 pm to NATidefan
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By age 9 kids should be talked to about the fact it is wrong for older people to touch them in inappropriate ways in my opinion. Most know about sex by then anyways in today's world.
Yes and we have ... you just don't tend to discuss that everyday.
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:34 pm to tiger91
That discussion should've happened years ago. I've read a book (age appropriate) to my 7 year old that talks about good, bad and secret touching and that there should never be secret touching. This happens in churches, by babysitters, neighbors and it's been going on forever. I love how it's a modern day era thing - nope just because you started reading the internet doesn't mean it wasn't going on before.
Posted on 11/10/11 at 3:38 pm to bisonduck
OK ... let me clarify. We did talk in age appropriate terms ... years ago. What I had to explain today was what was going on at Penn State and why people's perceptions had changed of JoePa. I'm not an irresponsible mother.
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