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Does my wife have an eating disorder?
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:13 pm
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:13 pm
I understand that at first this will look obsessive. I just needed a second opinion. This is a list of things she will not eat or drink. Mind you this is not comprehensive, just what I jotted down in 10 minutes:
Beer
Coffee
Any cocktail except margarita and mailbu
Mayo
Mustard
Cocktail sauce
Tarter sauce
Sriracha
Seafood dip
Hot sauce
Tomatoes (in any form)
Eggplant
Peppers
Any condiment on a hamburger (meat and bread only)
Any condiment on a hotdog
Ham
Roast beef
Any fat on a steak (cuts around it)
Red beans
Gumbo with sausage
Jambalaya
Pastalaya
Smoked sausage
Breakfast sausage
Fried egg
Poached eggs
Eggs Benedict
Pickled eggs
Pickled vegetables
Sushi
Sashimi
Pho
Tom yum soup
Egg drop soup
Thai food (any)
Egg rolls
Sweet and sour sauce
Indian food (any)
Oysters (in any form)
Any veggie from a seafood boil except corn and potatoes
Poke bowls (will only eat with snow crab and edamame)
Grilled or sauteed fish
Baked beans
Black beans
Chicken salad
Egg salad
Tuna salad
Muffalata
Brats
Instant ramen
Eggnog
Frappachino
Kombucha
Orange juice
Apple juice
Energy drinks
Any beverage not coke or water
Stroganoff
Swedish meatballs
Chicken marsala
Shawarma
Gyros
Burnt ends
Cheese steak sandwiches
Lobster rolls
BBQ sauce
Chimichurri
Chili unless it's on noodles
Bone-on fried chicken
Chicken sandwich (includes Popeyes)
Guacamole
Chicken or shrimp sauce piquante
Shrimp spaghetti
Beer
Coffee
Any cocktail except margarita and mailbu
Mayo
Mustard
Cocktail sauce
Tarter sauce
Sriracha
Seafood dip
Hot sauce
Tomatoes (in any form)
Eggplant
Peppers
Any condiment on a hamburger (meat and bread only)
Any condiment on a hotdog
Ham
Roast beef
Any fat on a steak (cuts around it)
Red beans
Gumbo with sausage
Jambalaya
Pastalaya
Smoked sausage
Breakfast sausage
Fried egg
Poached eggs
Eggs Benedict
Pickled eggs
Pickled vegetables
Sushi
Sashimi
Pho
Tom yum soup
Egg drop soup
Thai food (any)
Egg rolls
Sweet and sour sauce
Indian food (any)
Oysters (in any form)
Any veggie from a seafood boil except corn and potatoes
Poke bowls (will only eat with snow crab and edamame)
Grilled or sauteed fish
Baked beans
Black beans
Chicken salad
Egg salad
Tuna salad
Muffalata
Brats
Instant ramen
Eggnog
Frappachino
Kombucha
Orange juice
Apple juice
Energy drinks
Any beverage not coke or water
Stroganoff
Swedish meatballs
Chicken marsala
Shawarma
Gyros
Burnt ends
Cheese steak sandwiches
Lobster rolls
BBQ sauce
Chimichurri
Chili unless it's on noodles
Bone-on fried chicken
Chicken sandwich (includes Popeyes)
Guacamole
Chicken or shrimp sauce piquante
Shrimp spaghetti
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Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:14 pm to STrugglin
Slow day at work?
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:15 pm to STrugglin
Yes
Your wife eats like a child
Your wife eats like a child
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:15 pm to STrugglin
I feel sorry for you
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:16 pm to STrugglin
sounds more like a mental disorder of sorts more than an eating disorder
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:18 pm to Salmon
quote:
sounds more like a mental disorder of sorts more than an eating disorder
ARFID?
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:19 pm to STrugglin
Is she a normal, healthy weight? Does she have any vitamin deficiencies or health complications from her eating choices? If no to both, then I wouldn’t term her likes/dislikes as an “eating disorder”, but rather as a person with a finicky palate.
The larger question, to me, is why her food choices bother you to the point of posting about it on a message board. Is she forcing her choices on you? If not, then this is a matter better explored with a marriage counselor than a message board. You’re supposed to have her back, and support her, not expose her to ridicule or encourage others to do so.
The larger question, to me, is why her food choices bother you to the point of posting about it on a message board. Is she forcing her choices on you? If not, then this is a matter better explored with a marriage counselor than a message board. You’re supposed to have her back, and support her, not expose her to ridicule or encourage others to do so.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:22 pm to hungryone
quote:
The larger question, to me, is why her food choices bother you to the point of posting about it on a message board
Because I cook normal, everyday food for my family, and almost every night she throws a portion in the garbage. It doesn't set a good example for my kids when I want them to learn to eat like regular people.
I mean she won't eat red beans or chicken and sausage gumbo. It's getting a little ridiculous.
This post was edited on 8/13/20 at 1:24 pm
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:24 pm to Salmon
quote:
sounds more like a mental disorder of sorts more than an eating disorder
Bingo. We have a winner.
Along with the other poster who said she eats like a kid. I've known a lot of kids who want to live on pizza, burgers and boxed Mac & Cheese, all washed down with sugary sodas.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:25 pm to Rouge
quote:
Your wife eats like a child
I hate to say it OP your wife is just a picky eater. If she is a normal weight then no she doesn't have an eating disorder. I have an aunt that will only drink coors lite (alcohol wise I mean) and eat like 4 things, and its like pizza, doritos, and a handful of others. She is skinny and smokes for some other random tid bits.
Honestly I think a lot of it comes from how people are raised, to never try new things and they just get locked in to being boring.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:26 pm to hungryone
I didn't know Dr. Laura posted on TD!
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:29 pm to STrugglin
What are some dishes she actually enjoys?
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:32 pm to STrugglin
quote:
when I want them to learn to eat like regular people.
quote:
I mean she won't eat red beans or chicken and sausage gumbo. It's getting a little ridiculous.
ETA: Seriously, just sounds like an incredibly picky eater.
This post was edited on 8/13/20 at 1:34 pm
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:33 pm to STrugglin
quote:
Because I cook normal, everyday food for my family, and almost every night she throws a portion in the garbage. It doesn't set a good example for my kids when I want them to learn to eat like regular people.
Is she not part of “my family”? Are the kids not her kids too? You should divide the cooking duties so she makes dinner half the time and fixes things everyone can like. You do the other half and make things everyone else likes, and she can adjust/modify as she wants.
No one should be throwing food away. Why does she put it on her plate if she won’t eat it? Nor should you be loading up her plate with things you know she won’t eat. She can fall back on the things she likes without making a huge deal out of it. ( or without you making a huge deal out of it)
Food preferences are about control, mostly. You’re trying to force her to eat things she finds abhorrent....and there is plenty of solid food-avoidance research on taste perceptions to give solid scientific support that some people are “supertasters” more sensitive to particular tastes or textures. What one person finds delicious, another finds disgusting.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:38 pm to hungryone
I got a buddy who's wife only eats chicken tenders, fries, and cheese quesadillas. It's fricking sad to see.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:39 pm to hungryone
quote:
You should divide the cooking duties so she makes dinner half the time and fixes things everyone can like.
I tried that. It was a disaster. She can't cook. I tried to teach her but she has too much pride.
quote:
No one should be throwing food away. Why does she put it on her plate if she won’t eat it? Nor should you be loading up her plate with things you know she won’t eat. She can fall back on the things she likes without making a huge deal out of it. ( or without you making a huge deal out of it)
Food preferences are about control, mostly. You’re trying to force her to eat things she finds abhorrent....and there is plenty of solid food-avoidance research on taste perceptions to give solid scientific support that some people are “supertasters” more sensitive to particular tastes or textures. What one person finds delicious, another finds disgusting.
Ok, so I don't cook foods based on what my kids want. I cook normal foods and my kids either eat it or don't eat dinner. Mind you I'm not cooking anything weird or out of the ordinary.
My wife is the way she is because her parents gave her whatever she wanted. So basically she eats like 5 things. I dont want my kids to have the same fate, and so far it's working fine.
This post was edited on 8/13/20 at 1:42 pm
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:41 pm to STrugglin
The "what restaurant do you want to go to?" conversations must be miserable in your house.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:41 pm to STrugglin
Good lord. My wife can be a picky eater, but not sure I could live with someone that picky. It'd be exhausting.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:45 pm to Salmon
quote:
sounds more like a mental disorder of sorts more than an eating disorder
We took our daughter to counseling because of her picky eating, mostly because we didn't want it to turn into an eating disorder. The list of things she'd eat was maybe 10 things. It was a struggle, but 3 months into it she had a breakthrough and now she wants to try everything in the world.
I don't know that the therapist even pinpointed what her hangups were, but I guess having someone other than me and the wife badgering her to try new foods worked.
Posted on 8/13/20 at 1:50 pm to STrugglin
quote:
tried that. It was a disaster. She can't cook. I tried to teach her but she has too much pride.
Oh, cmon....even people who can’t cook can make nice sandwiches, or boxed macaroni or a side she will eat. It sounds like a power struggle that she is winning, frankly. Do you sit down and meal plan for the week (or month) together? Who does the shopping? There’s a fine line between raising non picky eaters (which I applaud) and undermining/disparaging her, even subtly, in front of the kids. That’s some toxic shizz. You don’t need your kids seeing her be judged or put down about her food habits every damn night until they move out of your house.
Did you not know how picky she was before you married her? Did you think it would magically disappear?
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