re: Should I escalate a feud with my neighbor?

Don't do it, man. You and your wife sent a clear message that you think he has been a dick. You implied that when they transgressed with the fence, you ignored it, but when you had a much more minor transgression with the debris they were pricks. Message sent!

Now, go out of your way to be nice when you see them. Maybe they will rise to the occasion. If they are jackasses again I would smile at them and ignore them.

Dear Boosie,

If it were me I would fix my own fence even if it was their bone-head son that damaged it. It's the neighborly thing to do. I would also offer another apology for stacking my junk in his yard and thank him for pointing the property line out to me....

My advice to you? Tear your fence down, get some dirt work done to have everything drain to his yard, go to a garage sale and buy a bunch of useless shite and stack it exactly 1.5" from the property line and make a V with your fingers and stick your tongue through and wiggle it every time you see his wife.

You're Welcome....

You know what you must do.

Handful of rye grass in his flowerbeds should do it.

I have lived with good neighbors and bad ones. A lesson I learned was :
Life is much easier when you get along with neighbors.
IMHO

11 pages and Nobody's said "Good Fences make good neighbors"?

So, fix the fence.

Dude, I totally agree with you neighbor being a darsh for getting upset about the "pile of debris", but do not create an unnecessary argument with your neighbor. You literally have to see them everyday. Sometimes being the bigger man means biting your tongue and moving on. You will always know you are in the right. I'd save this for another day, like when the dumb kid inevitably parks in your yard rutting it up or some shite like that. Fixing a fence and a demand letter is pretty petty.

The best way to feud (or another f word) with a neighbor is to be ridiculously nice to them whenever you see them, but don't ever do anything they ask you to do.

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asked us to fix our fence so their dog doesn’t get out

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Wait, what? I didn't read the rest of that wall of text but you are not required to have a fence unless you have a pool. The normal neighborly thing to do is to split a shared fence 50/50 but you can let them know that you are thinking about taking it down.

Pick your battles carefully, tell him to do the same