re: What was the lowest/darkest/toughest time in ur life & how did u pull yourself out of it?

I’ve been pretty lucky in life. I just tell myself that if it can’t kill me, it’s something that will pass in time and I can handle it.

You will make a difference to someone sometime.

Hang in there.

Set goals. Short, intermediate, and long term.

Enjoy each day. Do you best at whatever you do.

Was in NYC.
No decent grocery.
Apartment had two Windows.
One, you saw brick wall 4 feet away of next building.
No tv.

It all comes back to me now.
I saw a couple walking hand in hand and i exclaimed God is love!.

No thinking involved.
No drugs.


Went to chicago.
Co founded the edna schwartz memorial commune.
Party.

Many , many years ago, i married a woman who had 3 kids by different living and employed dads who refused to pay one penny of childsupport. So from toddlers to teens i paid for their every need and want as with my own child for over a decade.

Their mom was a chronic cheater but i loved the kids amd fully financially suported them and made sure they had what they needed/ wanted. i always took her back because i love the kidstook her back because of the kids. Their mon never worked so contributed no $$ for their care.

Once again, she cheated and this time her kids blantantly lied to me for her and denied it.

So i immediately cut off all utilities, terminated the lease and they were evicted in our home. She used the kids to call me to beg for the me to turn the light back on and let them keep the house. Request denied. She also stole my late mothers posessions.

Many many months pass and by accident ( or divine intervention) i met the wife of the man my ex was cheating with. We became friends.

We fell in love ,and have a great life together. Without our parasitic financial vacuums that are the exes, we have so much more money and are living a good life in our dream home on the water while the exes live in a 40 year old trailer

Nb4 the comment of trashy. We are thankful our exes did what they did because my wife and i would have never met without them. hilariously they are furious that we are so happy and they are so broke and unable to use us as their personal atms

The stepkids still hit us up for money and we remind them that they all have living fathers and a living mom. One kid totally ignored me and blamed me for his mom cheating but yet still expected me to buy him a $5000 truck.Request denied!!

So from the garbage they heaped upon us, we turned it into a great life and are thankful they cheated because it led us to a the the great life we have now.

Sometimes what seems to be the worst of times changes your life and only later you realize that it put you on a path to greater happiness

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Look at all the good things/people in your life and be grateful for each one. No matter how bad your life is, someone else always has it worse. Some mothers in the world have to watch their children die from starvation or disease and are powerless to prevent it.

Once you've hit rock bottom, the only place to go is up.

When I was 16 my grandmother on my Mom's side died. Three months later my father died after a short, brutal fight with Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma. Two weeks after my father died, my grandfather (my father's stepdad) died from a massive heart attack. I probably drank more than I should have for about the next five or ten years. I'm sure it was harder on my grandmother who buried her youngest child and her husband in less than a month. And my Mom who lost her mother and was now a widow with four children under the age of 18.

My worst time started in my 20's and is still going today. Indeed I had one of the worst experiences in just the past month. Didn't think I was going to make it.

Carry on.

my ex lost a baby just shy of5 months plus, it was a very messy miscarriage physically and emotionally it really took a toll on her ,DR's almost brought her in for surgery as not everything expelled quickly , which technically is a stillbirth ( and I wouldnt wish that on my worst enemy) this is really tough to even type

the loss resulted in a divorce about 6 month later, and I was still very much in love,, due to the divorce I also lost a stepdaughter whom I loved as much as any man can love a child

3 heavy losses in 6 months,, 10 to the final divorce decree

I still miss my stepdaughter, still imagine who my unborn child would be at every step along the way
every baby I see, I imagine what it would be like to hold my own

every toddler I see I imagine what it would be like to be greated at the door and play with them

every young kid I imagine the stupid funny things I would have taught my own and laugh at their behavior that I taught and encouraged

every first day of school, every Christmas, every Little league game, Disney movie opening.. ever day I miss what I never had and the step daughter I did have.

Im not over it, never will be I just try to not dwell on it, hope to meet my child in heaven and maybe one day get the chance to be a Papa or great Uncle and gain from that what I'll never have

The day my sister was killed it ruined me. For about 3 or so years. It was my way of dealing with it. Eventually I just got out of my funk and moved on.
It's been 8 years since.