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Not enough talent: Being honest with your kids.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:15 pm
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:15 pm
I have a stepson who will be 14 in a month. He plays travel baseball, and is usually on the B or C team. My stepson LOVES the game so much but he isn’t very big and is at best an average hitter. High school try outs for JV are next spring and there is little chance he makes the team. His dad (who’s a decent dude) will not have the conversation with his son about focusing on something else that he’d actually excel at, like track or swimming. He cannot be honest with the boy and keeps giving him false hope, getting him batting coaches 3 times a week, finding travel teams that have 14 yo teams (when the good kids are playing for their high school). My wife ( I have pics but not for you) wants the boy to realise he’s not going to be able to play forever, but if you asked the dad at some point he’ll be a Yankee, you’ve got to just keep pumping money into it and he’ll magically become 6’1” and 230 lbs and learn to hit. Do I:
Stay out of it and let his dad continue to avoid the truth to his son?
Talk to my step son and prepare him for the inevitable?
And before you make the statement, we're not poor, nor OT baller, I played high school and 1y at JC, and we're white and I still think he can make the track team (distance running of course).
Stay out of it and let his dad continue to avoid the truth to his son?
Talk to my step son and prepare him for the inevitable?
And before you make the statement, we're not poor, nor OT baller, I played high school and 1y at JC, and we're white and I still think he can make the track team (distance running of course).
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Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:16 pm to PCRammer
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focusing on something else that he’d actually excel at
Let the kid play the game he wants to play. No one said you had to be good at something to enjoy doing it.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:17 pm to PCRammer
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Do I:
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with your kids.
Mind ya business.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:17 pm to PCRammer
Why would he give up at 14? Look at all the guys that go play D2 and D3 ball and end up in the pros. Many of those guys didn't have the talent early on but had the love of the game.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:18 pm to PCRammer
Just continue to frick that guys wife
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:18 pm to PCRammer
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:19 pm to LNCHBOX
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Let the kid play the game he wants to play. No one said you had to be good at something to enjoy doing it.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:19 pm to PCRammer
I tell my son he doesn’t have the fight it takes, he’s got the talent. I figure it’ll either make him fight harder or it won’t...so I don’t have anything to lose.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:20 pm to PCRammer
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I have a stepson who will be 14 in a month. He plays travel baseball, and is usually on the B or C team. My stepson LOVES the game so much but he isn’t very big and is at best an average hitter. High school try outs for JV are next spring and there is little chance he makes the team. His dad (who’s a decent dude) will not have the conversation with his son about focusing on something else that he’d actually excel at, like track or swimming. He cannot be honest with the boy and keeps giving him false hope, getting him batting coaches 3 times a week, finding travel teams that have 14 yo teams (when the good kids are playing for their high school). My wife ( I have pics but not for you) wants the boy to realise he’s not going to be able to play forever, but if you asked the dad at some point he’ll be a Yankee, you’ve got to just keep pumping money into it and he’ll magically become 6’1” and 230 lbs and learn to hit. Do I:
Stay out of it and let his dad continue to avoid the truth to his son?
Talk to my step son and prepare him for the inevitable?
And before you make the statement, we're not poor, nor OT baller, I played high school and 1y at JC, and we're white and I still think he can make the track team (distance running of course).
you sound like an idiot and I have no desire to see pics of your wife.
the dad may be an idiot as well, but at least he's supporting his son by trying to help him improve in the game that he clearly loves. who the frick wants to go run track anyways? if he did, he'd already be doing it.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:20 pm to PCRammer
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Stay out of it and let his dad continue to avoid the truth to his son?
Your whole existence as a dad is encouraging him to pursue his dreams, not to tell him about reality
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:20 pm to PCRammer
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My wife ( I have pics but not for you)
Well, I have great advice. But not for you.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:20 pm to PCRammer
Why do you have to say anything? Let the dude try out...maybe he makes it.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:20 pm to baldona
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Why would he give up at 14? Look at all the guys that go play D2 and D3 ball and end up in the pros. Many of those guys didn't have the talent early on but had the love of the game.
The point is, he isn't going to even make his high school team. They make a run in the FLA state finals every couple of years, there're loaded and always are.
D2 and D3 guys still were able to make JV.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:21 pm to PCRammer
Let the kid do what makes him happy. Everyone thinking you have to get a scholarship or have potential to go pro. That's not what sports are about. That is for the select few.
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we're white and I still think he can make the track team (distance running of course).
:eyeballemoji:
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:21 pm to PCRammer
“Kid, you’re just not good enough to chase your dream.”
Yeah that’ll gain you some points when he’s grown up and remembers that. Good luck with that.
Let him try out and have him learn the life lesson his own way. He may become better for it. Ever heard of Michael Jordan not making his varsity team? And you’re worried about JV. He’s 14 and probably still has the athletic coordination of a baby giraffe. Don’t be such a downer.
Yeah that’ll gain you some points when he’s grown up and remembers that. Good luck with that.
Let him try out and have him learn the life lesson his own way. He may become better for it. Ever heard of Michael Jordan not making his varsity team? And you’re worried about JV. He’s 14 and probably still has the athletic coordination of a baby giraffe. Don’t be such a downer.
This post was edited on 10/22/18 at 3:23 pm
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:21 pm to PCRammer
quote:It isn't about the truth especially at 14, I wouldn't discourage him at all no matter how bad you perceive he is at playing. I feel he will get better along the way. Does he like playing baseball? If so, leave him be.
Stay out of it and let his dad continue to avoid the truth to his son?
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:22 pm to PCRammer
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he isn't going to even make his high school team. They make a run in the FLA state finals
He only has one option for HS ?
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:22 pm to PCRammer
It sounds like the youngster is, how do you say it, not your kid. So therefore it's, how do you say it, not your call.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:23 pm to PCRammer
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My stepson LOVES the game so much but he isn’t very big and is at best an average hitter. High school try outs for JV are next spring and there is little chance he makes the team. His dad (who’s a decent dude) will not have the conversation with his son about focusing on something else that he’d actually excel at, like track or swimming. He cannot be honest with the boy and keeps giving him false hope
Cant a 13 year old just have fun playing baseball? He has to be college material to play? He'll figure it out if/when he gets cut. Then have the conversation about finding something else to do, or let him still play summer ball if he wants. If he really loves the game, he might find other ways to be in baseball- coaching, scouting, front office, equipment manager, etc.
This post was edited on 10/22/18 at 3:25 pm
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:23 pm to PCRammer
The risk/ reward is just not in your favor here as the step-parent. Stay out of it. Support the kid in baseball, but gently suggest other sports too? Frame it as a well-rounded athlete argument.
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