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What to do when asked to be a reference for someone you don't want to refer?
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:42 pm
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:42 pm
An intern I had a couple years ago just emailed me and wants me to be a reference for some new job. I specifically remember him not being very good at his job, poor work ethic, and just sloppy all around. I don't want to lie and vouch for this guy. What would you do? Ignore the email?
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:43 pm to SUB
"Look I fired you for a reason"
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:44 pm to SUB
Tell him to go for it.
If anyone calls to ask about said intern, be honest that he wasn't very good at his job, had a poor work ethic, and did sloppy work.
If anyone calls to ask about said intern, be honest that he wasn't very good at his job, had a poor work ethic, and did sloppy work.
This post was edited on 5/2/18 at 12:45 pm
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:44 pm to SUB
There's a delete button on your email account. Just click it.
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:44 pm to SUB
Tell them corporate policy doesn't allow for personal references, only that you can confirm employment
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Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:45 pm to SUB
Tell him you can only verify dates of employment.
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:45 pm to SUB
Send a reference but only with the details of his employment.
Xxxxx worked here from ____ to ____ his job description was as follows.
Sincerely,
SUB
Xxxxx worked here from ____ to ____ his job description was as follows.
Sincerely,
SUB
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:45 pm to SUB
A) Tell him you aren't comfortable being a reference (truth)
B) Suggest your employer doesn't allow references (could be true)
B) Suggest your employer doesn't allow references (could be true)
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:45 pm to SUB
You reference that he wasn't very good.
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:46 pm to SUB
“I will pass on my experience with your internship while at my company to your prospective employer.”
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:47 pm to SUB
If he is using you as a reference he obviously must think you think well of him. Why does he not know he was bad at his job? Did anyone of authority convey this to him?
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:48 pm to SUB
I'd tell him to go ahead and use me... then I'd let him know that I'd tell his prospective employer how big of a piece of shite he was.
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:52 pm to SUB
Just confirm that he worked there and decline to comment any further. You don't want to open yourself up to any possible liability or if it were me I simply wouldn't want to send any negativity out there. Keep any answers to questions factual and leave opinion out of it. Or maybe if you feel really strongly about it you can decline his request to be used as a reference.
This post was edited on 5/2/18 at 12:57 pm
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:55 pm to SUB
quote:
An intern I had a couple years ago just emailed me and wants me to be a reference for some new job. I specifically remember him not being very good at his job, poor work ethic, and just sloppy all around. I don't want to lie and vouch for this guy. What would you do? Ignore the email?
Confirm only dates of employment.
Posted on 5/2/18 at 12:57 pm to SUB
quote:
An intern I had a couple years ago just emailed me and wants me to be a reference for some new job. I specifically remember him not being very good at his job, poor work ethic, and just sloppy all around. I don't want to lie and vouch for this guy. What would you do? Ignore the email?
You say,
"Hell Yea I'll give you a reference, buckaroo. But it seems that bottle of Johnny Walker Blue I was expecting via FedEX is running a bit late. Can you check on that while I whip up your recommendation letter?"
This post was edited on 5/2/18 at 12:58 pm
Posted on 5/2/18 at 1:01 pm to SUB
quote:
What would you do?
I think the folks with advice saying to confirm employment might have it right.
Though, one could fault him for not asking if you'd be a GOOD or POSITIVE reference for him, rather than simply a reference.
Don't necessarily want to bash someone. You could just say you don't want to do it.
Posted on 5/2/18 at 1:09 pm to SUB
My policy is to verify employment only. In some cases, if I'm asked if the person is subject to rehire, I may say "no", but I will not give any other information. That's enough.
Posted on 5/2/18 at 1:13 pm to SUB
"I don't think what I would say about you would help you get the job. Maybe you shouldn't use me as a reference."
It's as easy as that.
It's as easy as that.
Posted on 5/2/18 at 1:29 pm to SUB
Sure. Tell them, “You would be very lucky to get my old intern to work for you.”
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