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Why do people cheat?
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:42 am
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:42 am
No judgment for anyone who has, just wondering what reasons were behind the action. Ego, not in love, or enjoyment of the thrill? If you have cheated on someone did you regret it? If you have been cheated on did you stay?
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:44 am to RaeMac22
because you touch yourself at night
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:44 am to RaeMac22
Starts out just opportunity arse...but the thrill and the high are what keeps you doing it.
It's the rush. The taboo nature of it. It starts out small...there are the little things, the flirting, the "oh no, we shouldn't"...
Next thing you know you're in each other's arms and kissing and the chemistry is exploding. It's an incredible high. A damn drug.
Then the sneaking around, what a rush.
And sure it's Stupid
But it's exhilarating. And every time you swear it's the "last time"
That "we can't do this anymore".
But everything stemming from the dying relationship at home simply serves to reinforce the bad behaviour. To drive you to your lover's arms in a stolen embrace, in a secret place.
And my God is it hot.
Because it isn't real. It's a fantasy. And it only ends in tragedy but while you are on it the ride is incredible.
The only hard step is the first one.
After that it's as easy as can be. The excuses flow like wine.
And people in the throes of a torrid affair will do damn near anything to protect and continue it.
Even when they're caught. Even when they've been damn near busted in the act, they'll try and weasel their way out of it.
Behaviour not unlike a junkie.
They are in a fog. They either refuse to see or just don't care about who they hurt because it feels so damn good. And there's no cure. Relapse is high.
The best advice is not to start. Because you'll fall in that hole no matter how "careful" you try to be
This post was edited on 4/19/18 at 8:47 am
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:45 am to Zanzibaw
Hmmm.. so does that mean i’m cheating with myself or on myself
This post was edited on 4/19/18 at 8:57 am
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:46 am to RaeMac22
Because sex feels good and people enjoy variety.
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:47 am to RaeMac22
We need a Jody/cheating board at this point.
This post was edited on 4/19/18 at 8:48 am
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:47 am to RaeMac22
I got a new love you see, she does new things to me.
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:47 am to RaeMac22
Because our natural instincts are difficult to control.
It's easy to cheat. It's difficult to stay committed.
It's easy to cheat. It's difficult to stay committed.
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:47 am to RaeMac22
they want the security of relationship and the excitement of new and dangerous
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:49 am to fr33manator
I feel like you type that every week
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:50 am to RaeMac22
There are three types of cheaters. At least when it comes to guys.
There's the ones in a shitty relationship that they just don't have the balls to end.
The ones that are secretly so insecure that they're always looking for their next score to make themselves feel better,
And the ones that don't chase it, but just can't say no when offered.
There's the ones in a shitty relationship that they just don't have the balls to end.
The ones that are secretly so insecure that they're always looking for their next score to make themselves feel better,
And the ones that don't chase it, but just can't say no when offered.
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:51 am to fr33manator
So basically if it happens once, chances are it’ll happen again? Is it just me or do you notice that a lot of people that cheat have smokin wives and slum it with the nastiest thing that crawls out of a gutter?
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:51 am to NIH
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I feel like you type that every week
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Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:52 am to RaeMac22
I read on the OT its only cheating if you cheat in the bed you sleep with your spouse on.
Only been cheated on one time and I dropped her like a hot potato.
Only been cheated on one time and I dropped her like a hot potato.
Posted on 4/19/18 at 8:52 am to RaeMac22
You can't always place the blame on the third party, often times known for women as Chad or Joey.
It's usually something that is perceived by one individual as broken or missing within the committed relationship that allows the person who is doing the cheating to think that an option outside of the relationship is better than the option inside the relationship.
I'm not excusing it. I wouldn't do it. And I would never want someone to do it me. But it happens. And it will continue to happen. Mostly because their is a communication and expectations breakdown in the main relationship. And most of it can be fixed by doing this simple thing: listening. Not listening with the intent to fix it immediately. But just listening.
Unfortunately, most of us think our opinion matters more than another's opinion - so this is where the "listening" part becomes difficult for many. When you stop listening and talk over another person, you're essentially telling them that your opinion doesn't matter to me and you are damaging their pride in the process. However, if you would just use your two ears and one mouth appropriately, Joey and Chad would most likely find another "victim" in a relationship to give attention to and not yours.
It's usually something that is perceived by one individual as broken or missing within the committed relationship that allows the person who is doing the cheating to think that an option outside of the relationship is better than the option inside the relationship.
I'm not excusing it. I wouldn't do it. And I would never want someone to do it me. But it happens. And it will continue to happen. Mostly because their is a communication and expectations breakdown in the main relationship. And most of it can be fixed by doing this simple thing: listening. Not listening with the intent to fix it immediately. But just listening.
Unfortunately, most of us think our opinion matters more than another's opinion - so this is where the "listening" part becomes difficult for many. When you stop listening and talk over another person, you're essentially telling them that your opinion doesn't matter to me and you are damaging their pride in the process. However, if you would just use your two ears and one mouth appropriately, Joey and Chad would most likely find another "victim" in a relationship to give attention to and not yours.
This post was edited on 4/19/18 at 8:58 am
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