Does the thought of love depress you?

sandos baw

Have you tried this with men yet?

Forever alone...

Jesus dude you sound like such a bitch

I hate to say this, but is it possible that you are feeling this way because you are already expecting it not to last? Sometimes our intuitions tell us things before we acknowledge them to ourselves. Maybe you are already expecting to get hurt. Or, maybe it's because you've been hurt badly before by someone else, so you're just afraid to fall too hard for someone and taking that risk again. If that is the case, just go for it anyway. All love is risk, and you don't want to go through life not loving again, do you? The pain if it doesn't last is really tough, but having loved someone is worth it in my opinion. Time always heals anyway.

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Does the thought of love depress you?

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The notion being that things won't work out, leaving you with an enormous, unfulfilled yearning that tears away at you?

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Sounds more like the thought of failing at love. And if that's your mindset you're doomed to failure.

All I want is at least an OT8 who is cool and into a lot of the same shite as me. Doesn't bitch. Has no kids, drama or annoying family.

Moreso the idea that that love slowly starts to fade away, whether from the fights or something else..and self fulfilling prophecy takes its course

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I hate to say this, but is it possible that you are feeling this way because you are already expecting it not to last?

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In fact, this is not how I feel. I recall many years ago being frightened of love, of the desire for someone else. And it wasn't rejection I feared–quite the opposite.

What do you say if someone says to you, "I like you a lot. I think you're a special person. I love you." Holy shite: the flood of emotions, the confusion, the ensuing mental chaos!

But that was all in the past, more than 40 years ago. I started this thread in connection to another one, because that thread brought the question to mind.

The overwhelming consensus is that fear of love, and the resulting depression, is a product of mental and emotional weakness, an enormous, even repulsive, deficit of personality. There's certainly some truth to this, at least in my case. I mean, what I know about love you could shove up a gnat's arse with room to spare. So it is.

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In fact, this is not how I feel. I recall many years ago being frightened of love, of the desire for someone else. And it wasn't rejection I feared–quite the opposite.

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I've actually never felt what you describe, so I'm not sure how to help. I'm very open to love when I find the right person. I love deeply, and wholeheartedly. I do fear loss though, although I refuse to chase anyone if they want to go away. A huge part of love is risk and vulnerability.