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7 months, 2 weeks, and 1 day since my dad passed

Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:41 pm
Posted by toosleaux
Stuck in Baton Rouge traffic
Member since Dec 2007
9425 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:41 pm
And I'm still here at his funeral in my mind. Every single day. I'm supposed to be driving to a party right now but I stuck here sitting on the side of my tub. I can't believe he's never coming back. Sorry, just needed to type this out. Therapy helps, but you frickers seem to help more for some reason.
Posted by tigergirl10
Member since Jul 2019
10665 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:46 pm to
I’m so sorry. Loss of loved ones is never easy.
Posted by OysterPoBoy
City of St. George
Member since Jul 2013
42671 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:50 pm to
He must have been a good dad for you to think of him so often. I bet he’d want you to go to the party. Maybe get a little sloppy top.
Posted by UptownJoeBrown
Baton Rouge
Member since Jul 2024
6352 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:51 pm to
If he was alive, he would tell you to keep living. Go to the party.
Posted by duckblind56
South of Ellick
Member since Sep 2023
4285 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:51 pm to
My father passed away March 16, 1994 and I still think about him and miss him because he was a great man and father. Good thing is it doesn't hurt like it did for the first couple years, just a feeling of pride that he was my father.
Posted by JackieTreehorn
Member since Sep 2013
34611 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:52 pm to
We grieve to the extent that we loved. Take your time and don’t feel guilty for how much you love your Dad.
Posted by Bayou Warrior 64
Member since Feb 2021
723 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:53 pm to
Prayers for you brother. Take it one day at a time.
Posted by Higgysmalls
Ft Lauderdale
Member since Jun 2016
7583 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:53 pm to
Sorry you are going through it.

How old are you?

Was it Natural?

Yeah I miss my parents but they both lived good lives. It was there time . It was sad the first few days when they passed but I would say a month after funeral it never bothered me much. Only remember the good times.
Posted by BazookaJoe
Member since Apr 2010
39 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:53 pm to
Sorry for your loss. My dad passed in my early 20's, in my 40s now. We weren't very close, but I still think about him everyday. Just started therapy myself and she immediately recognized the loss and trauma. Trust the process, lean on those that are still with you and just know the days get brighter. Don't be afraid to talk about it with those you're close with. My kids had never met my father. They've always assumed my step father is my dad. Recently had a long talk with them about him and it took a load off my shoulders I didn't realize was there. Take your time grieving.
Posted by Higgysmalls
Ft Lauderdale
Member since Jun 2016
7583 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:54 pm to
Sorry you are going through it.

How old are you?

Was it Natural?

Yeah I miss my parents but they both lived good lives. It was there time . It was sad the first few days when they passed but I would say a month after funeral it never bothered me much. Only remember the good times.
Posted by WHATASHAME
Louisiana
Member since Sep 2009
717 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:56 pm to
Sorry buddy, it was 10 years before I could go a day without the same thoughts with my mother. Just try to get busy living…..
Posted by dupergreenie
Member since May 2014
8954 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:57 pm to
quote:

And I'm still here at his funeral in my mind. Every single day. I'm supposed to be driving to a party right now but I stuck here sitting on the side of my tub. I can't believe he's never coming back. Sorry, just needed to type this out. Therapy helps, but you frickers seem to help more for some reason.


It has been a little over a year since my mom died. The only thing keeping me from swallowing a bullet the hard way is my kids mom died not long after my mom died so she would have been orphaned.

Its hard.

If you need to talk about anything I am here for you. Seriously.
Posted by boosiebadazz
Member since Feb 2008
84252 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:58 pm to
It goes from a really crushing, sad thing to an appreciative, glad you had him while you did thing.

Lost mine over 20 years ago. Having to explain to a 5 year old and 3 year old where their grandpa is is bringing back some things I thought were healed.
Posted by dawgfacedmutt
God's Country
Member since Oct 2024
616 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:59 pm to
Go to the party and have a good time. That's what he would want.

He will always be with you.

Posted by UptownJoeBrown
Baton Rouge
Member since Jul 2024
6352 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 7:59 pm to
quote:

It has been a little over a year since my mom died. The only thing keeping me from swallowing a bullet the hard way


OP. Please don’t talk to this guy. Psycho talk.
Posted by dupergreenie
Member since May 2014
8954 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 8:03 pm to
quote:

Please don’t talk to this guy. Psycho talk.


My mom was my best friend and probably the only person I could talk to (without paying) that wouldn't judge me.

I am that person to my friends and they know that.
Posted by kayjay
Baton Rouge
Member since Dec 2007
398 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 8:15 pm to
January 2nd 2026 at 2:30 am will be 20 years since I lost my father. He was a good man. I think about him and miss him every day. He fought valiantly in World War II in the South Pacific on PT boat 220, squadron 16. Pray that you never forget thinking about him. That means he is looking down on you. Never let go of that. Don’t dwell on his passing, but remember all the good and love he showed by his life lived. That’s how he would want you to remember him. And now pass that on by being a good farther.
Posted by Sunnyvale
Member since Feb 2024
2155 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 8:19 pm to
A father is one of the few people in life, that want you to do better than them.
There aren`t many.


quote:

If he was alive, he would tell you to keep living. Go to the party.


I 100 % believe this.
Posted by drjett
Lake Chuck
Member since May 2012
975 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 8:20 pm to
Consider yourself fortunate. Very fortunate. My Dad died just before I turned 5 years old. Pancreatic cancer at age 49.

I never even got to really talk to him.

I'm almost 70, and I still wonder what if he had lived a normal life.
Posted by Crescent Connection
Lafayette/Nola
Member since Jun 2008
2294 posts
Posted on 11/21/25 at 8:25 pm to
It's been a year and a couple weeks since my Dad passed. My kids and family keep me busy and my mind off the loss most of the time. It's definitely a roller coaster of emotions that first few months. He was diagnosed with colon cancer and mets to the liver in 2017, and lived a very good life for almost 7 years until the last 3 months of his life. I was thankful for the time I had with him for all those years, and relieved when he finally passed that he was no longer suffering. I saved all of his voicemails since 2017, because I knew I would go back to them just to hear his voice.

If you have kids, try to be as good as a father as he was, or even better. That's how I honor him. If you don't have kids, find ways to keep his memory alive. I've been playing Crosby, Stills, and Nash, Beatles, Queen, and ELO frequently since he's passed. Those were his favorite bands.
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