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Grandparents....how did you handle birth of first grand?
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:41 am
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:41 am
Our oldest and his wife are having our first grandchild today...got word mom is in labor this morning.
My wife is/has been flipping out about this grandbaby since she got the word he's coming. She's cancelled our plans for the weekend and I get the impression she thinks we should be at the hospital when the baby boy is born.
I'm excited, of course, but I'm not a baby freak. I'd rather wait for them to invite us or give us word they want us at the hospital. That said, I'm worried the wife will kinda force this invite to happen.
Were y'all at the hospital when your first grand was born? Were you asked to stay away until invited? I need advice on how to handle this with the wife. Probably should've had this convo before today...oh well.
My wife is/has been flipping out about this grandbaby since she got the word he's coming. She's cancelled our plans for the weekend and I get the impression she thinks we should be at the hospital when the baby boy is born.
I'm excited, of course, but I'm not a baby freak. I'd rather wait for them to invite us or give us word they want us at the hospital. That said, I'm worried the wife will kinda force this invite to happen.
Were y'all at the hospital when your first grand was born? Were you asked to stay away until invited? I need advice on how to handle this with the wife. Probably should've had this convo before today...oh well.
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:42 am to mmmmmbeeer
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mmmmmbeeer
This thread is going to go well
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:43 am to mmmmmbeeer
Surprised your perverted arse isn’t watching the crown emerge.
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:43 am to mmmmmbeeer
nb4 bought a celebratory cream pie
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:43 am to mmmmmbeeer
What sort of plans of yours is this getting in the way of?
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:43 am to mmmmmbeeer
Personally, I think you ask your son what he and his wife would like. If they want ya'll there, go, if they say wait till we are ready, then you know what to do. Let it be the new parents decision and do what they ask.
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:43 am to mmmmmbeeer
Seems like a simple text message could clear all of this shite up, boomer.
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:45 am to mmmmmbeeer
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I get the impression she thinks we should be at the hospital when the baby boy is born.
you should, even if you don't go into the room at any point. just let them know you're there for support and in case they need anything.
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:45 am to mmmmmbeeer
Do whatever the baby's mom wants. Tell your wife to remeber its their day, not yalls.
I'd call your son and get their wishes from him and then try to help manage your wife. If she "bullies" her way in there and its not wanted, it'll cause issues.
I'd call your son and get their wishes from him and then try to help manage your wife. If she "bullies" her way in there and its not wanted, it'll cause issues.
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:45 am to MotorbikeMike
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I think you ask your son what he and his wife would like.
Really don't want to bother them...this is their day, a big day.
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:46 am to MotorbikeMike
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Personally, I think you ask your son what he and his wife would like. If they want ya'll there, go, if they say wait till we are ready, then you know what to do. Let it be the new parents decision and do what they ask.
Exactly.
No offense to your wife OP, but many women do not want their MIL up their arse for childbirth.
Others, welcome it with open arms.
I’d ask your son which is preferred. Some families want it to be a special moment between parents and child. Some view it as a family day for all parties.
This post was edited on 6/6/25 at 9:49 am
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:47 am to mmmmmbeeer
Both my wife's parents and my parents were at the hospital when my son was born, and they live 3 and 6 hours away.
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:48 am to mmmmmbeeer
Seeing how it’s not your daughter having the baby, but your DiL. I would assume that her mother will be there at delivery and helping her the first few days home from the hospital.
I don’t think you and your wife would be out of bounds for visiting them briefly in the hospital, meeting the baby, saying congrats, bringing them a gift or flowers. And then after that giving the new parents a bit of space and telling your son to please let them know how you both can help or provide some relief in the weeks after.
Just my perspective as to how my parents handled the birth of our children.
And congrats grandpa!
I don’t think you and your wife would be out of bounds for visiting them briefly in the hospital, meeting the baby, saying congrats, bringing them a gift or flowers. And then after that giving the new parents a bit of space and telling your son to please let them know how you both can help or provide some relief in the weeks after.
Just my perspective as to how my parents handled the birth of our children.
And congrats grandpa!

Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:48 am to mmmmmbeeer
Not by visualizing the conception.
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:48 am to mmmmmbeeer
You didnt force an abortion?
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:48 am to mmmmmbeeer
So you're saying the creampie Finished baking?
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:49 am to mmmmmbeeer
we are expecting our first grandchild in December and if there is any way possible my son and DIL want us there for birth. i say if it is possible for you to be there and you will be welcomed to go and experience this once in a lifetime moment with your child.
Posted on 6/6/25 at 9:51 am to mmmmmbeeer
When the first grandchild from each of our children came, it was a holy event. Angels sang on high from heaven and light was emitted from the very presence of the child. Hands had to be washed, masks worn, safety precautions out the wazoo...absolutely nuts. Pictures galore.
When the second came it was not much of an event and almost from the start, they would virtually passed the kid to us like it was a football. They'd even let the garbage truck driver hold it if he'd gotten out of the truck.
When the second came it was not much of an event and almost from the start, they would virtually passed the kid to us like it was a football. They'd even let the garbage truck driver hold it if he'd gotten out of the truck.
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