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It’s time that we had a discussion about modern American weddings
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:45 am
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:45 am
What’s the purpose of weddings in the minds of young non-religious, non-traditional couples these days?
The last 10 non-church weddings that I have been to were so devoid of meaning and seriousness that I wondered what the hell they were spending all that money for. They seemed to be grasping weakly for meaning and purpose but it was all a big joke.
The majority of the “presiders” (wedding officials) were just a close friend (best man) or a parent, and they stood up there with no prepared words other than the “I do’s”. They quickly turned into a toast/roast of the couple, and usually juat the groom (can’t make fun of the woman, only the man).
Some would oddly rope in some church symbolism, like a reading from the Bible, or saying the Our Father, even though both of the couple were avowed atheists/agnostics.
In all cases, the couple had been living together for years and many had children already. Some owned a house together. Many of the cohabitating marital couples were gay, but in “open relationships”.
Can some of you guys who are in this demographic give me some insight into what’s going on? Is this just a random reason to throw yourselves a big party and a big vacation?
Even the vows are watered down. Gone is any mention of “for better or for worse”, or “til death do you part”. It’s tacitly understood that the vows are actually, “until you decide to divorce”.
The last 10 non-church weddings that I have been to were so devoid of meaning and seriousness that I wondered what the hell they were spending all that money for. They seemed to be grasping weakly for meaning and purpose but it was all a big joke.
The majority of the “presiders” (wedding officials) were just a close friend (best man) or a parent, and they stood up there with no prepared words other than the “I do’s”. They quickly turned into a toast/roast of the couple, and usually juat the groom (can’t make fun of the woman, only the man).
Some would oddly rope in some church symbolism, like a reading from the Bible, or saying the Our Father, even though both of the couple were avowed atheists/agnostics.
In all cases, the couple had been living together for years and many had children already. Some owned a house together. Many of the cohabitating marital couples were gay, but in “open relationships”.
Can some of you guys who are in this demographic give me some insight into what’s going on? Is this just a random reason to throw yourselves a big party and a big vacation?
Even the vows are watered down. Gone is any mention of “for better or for worse”, or “til death do you part”. It’s tacitly understood that the vows are actually, “until you decide to divorce”.
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Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:46 am to Jimbeaux
Yeah we need more evangelical style weddings since those marraiges last.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:46 am to Jimbeaux
considering over half end in divorce I am of the thinking it's just a big party
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:48 am to Jimbeaux
You go to trashy wedding, which means you surround yourself with trashy people.
None of the weddings I go to are like this
None of the weddings I go to are like this
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:52 am to Mingo Was His NameO
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None of the weddings I go to are like this
I went to a wedding recently that skipped the whole "in good times and in bad, for better or for worse, til death do us part" part of the vows, it was the first time I recall that being skipped. Pretty sure they wrote their own vows.
Definitely wasn't a trashy wedding, it was at the Ritz.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:52 am to Jimbeaux
quote:You a preacher photographer or caterer?
The last 10 non-church weddings that I have been to
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:53 am to Jimbeaux
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Many of the cohabitating marital couples were gay, but in “open relationships”.
You've gone to multiple gay swinger weddings?
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:53 am to Jimbeaux
Tell the pretty girl you are planning on tying the knot with that you don't need a wedding ceremony because you think it's pointless and report back how it goes.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:54 am to Jimbeaux
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In all cases, the couple had been living together for years and many had children already. Some owned a house together. Many of the cohabitating marital couples were gay, but in “open relationships”.
Sounds like this has more to do with the people you surround yourself with than anything else.
I've obviously attended some "non-church" weddings in my day, but nothing like you're describing.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:55 am to Jimbeaux
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The last 10 non-church weddings that I have been to
quote:
In all cases, the couple had been living together for years and many had children already. Some owned a house together. Many of the cohabitating marital couples were gay, but in “open relationships”.
With the amount of Political Talk posts you have, I'm inclined to think that none of this happened, and this is just for attention.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 10:59 am to Jimbeaux
No it's not
Posted on 6/4/25 at 11:01 am to Jimbeaux
Get better friends
Posted on 6/4/25 at 11:02 am to Jimbeaux
quote:
The majority of the “presiders” (wedding officials) were just a close friend (best man) or a parent, and they stood up there with no prepared words other than the “I do’s”. They quickly turned into a toast/roast of the couple, and usually juat the groom (can’t make fun of the woman, only the man).
As someone who's both officiated and been to friend-officiated weddings - when the friend is prepared and does it right, it blows away normal weddings where the priest has met the couple 2-3 times and spews some boilerplate recycled shite
I've officiated 3 weddings, all were emergencies where I was asked solely bc I'm a good public speaker and they needed someone last minute due to illness, car accident, etc. One of them was for a guy in a gambling group chat. His officiant got in bad car accident day of the rehearsal and he was saying he was fricked, I was like "oh I can do it if you want." LMAO
I wrote all my scripts based on how the couples wanted the ceremonies to go - shortest was 15 minutes, longest was 35. I slipped in a few roasts for both bride and groom in each, but the bulk of the scripts were sincere and heartfelt.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 11:02 am to Jimbeaux
quote:you sound like a crazy old man. and oh yeah...bc the religious marriages last so much longer .
Jimbeaux
Posted on 6/4/25 at 11:05 am to Jimbeaux
Without religion, it's just celebrating a financial contract between two individuals. Which I agree seems weird.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 11:06 am to Jimbeaux
Just like many other things, weddings are evolving.
When’s the last time you left somebody a note that was handwritten in calligraphy?
When’s the last time you left somebody a note that was handwritten in calligraphy?
Posted on 6/4/25 at 11:08 am to Jimbeaux
“Avowed atheists” lol
Posted on 6/4/25 at 11:09 am to facher08
Goodness, almost every response has been a complete dodge. I guess that’s what a get for posting this on the OT. So vapid.
Are you all ignoring the massive turn away from religion and traditional values over the past few decades? Yes, there’s been a slight return to religion and tradition for some in the past year, but the demographics clearly indicate a population that is majority non-religious.
Not only non-religious, but reactive against tradition. So why would those people bother with a wedding, and what type of wedding would they perform?
I come from a large, active Catholic family. I’m at the age were my nieces and nephews, and the children of my friends are all in and around marrying age, so I guess I have more weddings to go to than you whippersnappers.
Despite their upbringing in the church, the majority of the weddings have been non-religious. And I partially blame you fools who are their contemporaries who have created an irresistible pool of secular values and relativism in which they reside and operate.
Are you all ignoring the massive turn away from religion and traditional values over the past few decades? Yes, there’s been a slight return to religion and tradition for some in the past year, but the demographics clearly indicate a population that is majority non-religious.
Not only non-religious, but reactive against tradition. So why would those people bother with a wedding, and what type of wedding would they perform?
I come from a large, active Catholic family. I’m at the age were my nieces and nephews, and the children of my friends are all in and around marrying age, so I guess I have more weddings to go to than you whippersnappers.
Despite their upbringing in the church, the majority of the weddings have been non-religious. And I partially blame you fools who are their contemporaries who have created an irresistible pool of secular values and relativism in which they reside and operate.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 11:09 am to Jimbeaux
quote:
Is this just a random reason to throw yourselves a big party and a big vacation?
Yes.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 11:10 am to Jimbeaux
quote:
Are you all ignoring the massive turn away from religion and traditional values over the past few decades?
Every wedding I go to has religion in it, what you’re failing to understand is this is a you problem. You surround yourself with trash so the weddings your invited to are the nuptials of trash
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