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Another travel ball post
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:47 am
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:47 am
Ok here it goes and hope I don't get banned. It's my first weekend of travel ball starting tomorrow. I have fought it as long as I could, but finally gave in. We are going to be "those parents" that does not associate with all of the other travel ball parents on the team. I have stood back and watched my friends become such a cult with this stuff and I refuse to. We are staying at different hotels and not hanging out like a big fraternity every second we aren't playing. We are here for business only and try to get Trevor to improve his game playing with better competition. In your honest opinion am I taking the right approach or being a dick doing this? I just refuse to make this become my lifestyle 24/7.
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Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:51 am to JonHarbaw
This will affect your kid negatively. Either do it, or don't.
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:52 am to JonHarbaw
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am I taking the right approach or being a dick doing this?
Dick Move
We had one mom that did this and no one paid attention to her, we just thought she was a bitch.
It's easier to have fun and laugh, get to know the other parents. You will be spending a lot of time together, all weekend at the park, going to lunch, maybe traveling and staying in hotels together.
We live in a small community in the suburbs of DFW, most of our friends we made through baseball.
This post was edited on 3/7/25 at 8:01 am
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:54 am to JonHarbaw
Don’t be the dick that nobody wants around; enjoy the company and hope that your kid improves and has fun doing it
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:55 am to JonHarbaw
Honestly I would not isolate from the other parents and your kid from the other kids. They are kids. "Just business" is going to ruin this for your kid and make it a lot less fun for you. You will be spending weekends with the other parents for the next few months. Have fun, make friends, and enjoy it.
Obviously up to you and your wife, but I know I wouldn't intentionally isolate myself and my child knowing how much I will be around those other kids and parents. I'm saying that as an introvert who generally likes to be away from people if I can help it.
Obviously up to you and your wife, but I know I wouldn't intentionally isolate myself and my child knowing how much I will be around those other kids and parents. I'm saying that as an introvert who generally likes to be away from people if I can help it.
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:55 am to JonHarbaw
No. I stay away from parents hang out in the outfield by myself and drink beer and watch my kids play.
Now the wife (no pics) on the other hand has different ideas.
Now the wife (no pics) on the other hand has different ideas.
This post was edited on 3/7/25 at 7:58 am
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:56 am to JonHarbaw
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In your honest opinion am I taking the right approach or being a dick doing this? I just refuse to make this become my lifestyle 24/7.
You are over thinking this. Don't put on an act and be someone you're not. If you are already a dick in real life then let it shine. All honesty....just go with it and have fun for your kid.
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:57 am to JonHarbaw
You sound like a fun guy to hang around.
Geezh. Enjoy it. It's a lot of fun and my kid made friends with kids he is still friends with today. We did the same with many of the parents.
It's a great time to bond and spend time with your son over SPORTS.
Or, he can sit on his arse and eat cheetos watching tick toc.
There were parents like you around at the games. They were miserable. I am glad that stuck to themselves.
Geezh. Enjoy it. It's a lot of fun and my kid made friends with kids he is still friends with today. We did the same with many of the parents.
It's a great time to bond and spend time with your son over SPORTS.
Or, he can sit on his arse and eat cheetos watching tick toc.
There were parents like you around at the games. They were miserable. I am glad that stuck to themselves.
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:57 am to JonHarbaw
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We are staying at different hotels and not hanging out like a big fraternity every second we aren't playing. We are here for business only and try to get Trevor to improve his game playing with better competition. In your honest opinion am I taking the right approach or being a dick doing this? I just refuse to make this become my lifestyle 24/7.
This is what I would do, but I'm pretty okay with people thinking that I'm weird or a dick. If you are good with it, who cares? You have no obligation to eat lunch and socialize with these people. The people who push you to do that are community minded folks. You need to look inward and make a decision on if you can handle being the weird a-hole.
If you can't handle being an outcast, I'd join in.
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:59 am to JonHarbaw
We did it with our oldest daughter for a couple of years. I guess you could say that we got lucky because most of the other parents were good people and fun to hang out with. The other kids on the team were good kids and my daughter made some new friends. She had fun playing the game early on and it was mostly low pressure - did not travel far from home more than once or twice a year and the coaches placed their emphasis more on fundamentals and teaching the game. That started to shift once they got older and into 12U and my daughter just decided that she wanted to do other things. I could see the stupidity start to creep into the team as a few players and families left and a few more came. Long story short - it is what you make it and the other parents can certainly make it a better experience. If they are good people and good families, then hang with them and make new friends and let your child expand and make new friends - no harm in being social with the other parents, unless they are just crazy people.
Posted on 3/7/25 at 7:59 am to JonHarbaw
Hanging out w/ other parents while you're at a tournament isn't becoming your lifestyle, guy 
Now hanging w/ them on off weekends is. Let your kid have fun, make new friends and stop being a douche canoe.
Now hanging w/ them on off weekends is. Let your kid have fun, make new friends and stop being a douche canoe.
Posted on 3/7/25 at 8:00 am to JonHarbaw
So you’re the all business guy.. have fun with that. If you can’t enjoy hanging out with people drinking some beers and being social then you should probably just stay away because you’re the fricking loser in all this..
Most teams have 11-12 families..being unableto find a few decent families says a lot more about you than the cult of travel ball.
Most teams have 11-12 families..being unableto find a few decent families says a lot more about you than the cult of travel ball.
This post was edited on 3/7/25 at 8:02 am
Posted on 3/7/25 at 8:00 am to JonHarbaw
Your kids will make friends with his teammates, and then because you’re a dick, he’ll be the one that gets left out or misses out when his friends get together.
Posted on 3/7/25 at 8:01 am to JonHarbaw
At this point, you're in, might as well jump in with both feet
Posted on 3/7/25 at 8:01 am to JonHarbaw
If you’re not swapping wives, lil Trevvy will never crack the rotation and will be stuck platooning the corners, hitting in the 7, 8, or nine holes.
This post was edited on 3/7/25 at 8:06 am
Posted on 3/7/25 at 8:01 am to JonHarbaw
I do the same when traveling for work with a group. I spent the whole day around everyone, the last thing I want to do is go sit around a table afterwards having a 2 hour meal at a restaurant with everybody.
I stay somewhere separate and go for a run when the day is over or hit the hotel gym. Meet back up in the morning.
I stay somewhere separate and go for a run when the day is over or hit the hotel gym. Meet back up in the morning.
Posted on 3/7/25 at 8:02 am to TROLA
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So you’re the all business guy.. have fun with that. If you can’t enjoy hanging out with people drinking some beers and being social then you should probably just stay away because you’re the fricking loser in all this..
Why do people get so mad when someone doesn't to join in and prefers to hang out by themselves?
I'm actually asking, because I don't understand it. I don't take any offense when someone doesn't want to hang out with me. If anything, if there was a weird guy who didn't seem to like me, I wouldn't be badgering him to join me.
Posted on 3/7/25 at 8:07 am to JonHarbaw
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Ok here it goes and hope I don't get banned. It's my first weekend of travel ball starting tomorrow. I have fought it as long as I could, but finally gave in. We are going to be "those parents" that does not associate with all of the other travel ball parents on the team. I have stood back and watched my friends become such a cult with this stuff and I refuse to. We are staying at different hotels and not hanging out like a big fraternity every second we aren't playing. We are here for business only and try to get Trevor to improve his game playing with better competition. In your honest opinion am I taking the right approach or being a dick doing this? I just refuse to make this become my lifestyle 24/7.
You’re being a dick. You can be sociable and personable with your son’s teammates without it defining who you are.
I think you let the internet’s idea of what travel ball parents are tint your outlook, and in doing so are lessening the fun your son will have. The best part about travel ball is all the kids being together and being kids. Why purposefully stunt that opportunity?
Also, how old is your son and why is this “Business only”? That sounds absolutely insane
Posted on 3/7/25 at 8:07 am to JonHarbaw
quote:
Ok here it goes and hope I don't get banned. It's my first weekend of travel ball starting tomorrow. I have fought it as long as I could, but finally gave in. We are going to be "those parents" that does not associate with all of the other travel ball parents on the team. I have stood back and watched my friends become such a cult with this stuff and I refuse to. We are staying at different hotels and not hanging out like a big fraternity every second we aren't playing. We are here for business only and try to get Trevor to improve his game playing with better competition. In your honest opinion am I taking the right approach or being a dick doing this? I just refuse to make this become my lifestyle 24/7.
i mean sounds like you are trying to make your kid the outcast because you want to be the outcast. If you are going to do it, atleast have fun, frick dont make yourself miserable trying to prove a point
Posted on 3/7/25 at 8:08 am to JonHarbaw
quote:
We are staying at different hotels and not hanging out like a big fraternity every second we aren't playing. We are here for business only and try to get Trevor to improve his game playing with better competition. In your honest opinion am I taking the right approach or being a dick doing this? I just refuse to make this become my lifestyle 24/7.
Why would you deprive Trevor of the opportunity to make memories with his friends?
Don't buy into the select ball hate that fills this board. You can enjoy select ball, give your kid the best opportunity to grow his skills and love for the game --- ANNND let the be a positive growth opportunity for him socially.
Yeah, you're being a dick. Not a big dick, mind you... but a sagging and shriveled up with ball sack hanging lower dick.
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