re: Solo travel advice for widower

Get a small travel trailer and just start driving. You end up where you end up. Just get on your phone and find the coolest thing to do wherever you are, then move on to the next place and repeat.

Yeah buddy. Not how I drew it up for sure. I had the life I always dreamed of. Perfect wife and family. Now I’m barely hanging on raising 4 by myself. Miss her like crazy.

With regards to your travel- not sure about you, but I hate being alone. Not trying to discourage you, but I think if I went alone somewhere for a week I’d lose my mind. Too much time to think. My advice is to take a buddy. Take a cousin, parent anything. At least for me I need the distraction

My uncle was in the same boat, after my aunt died

He grabbed an Airbnb for 30 days in France and used a rail pass to explore. He had a regular cafe he would go to everyday, and just decided to work on his French by talking to folks at the bakery or cafe etc

Then last year he did the same but in Italy.

This year he’s headed to Argentina

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he did say solo. You lose your shite or it gets stolen you better have a backup plan.

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I've got 1MM across six continents, and not safe ones (as an adult, not including the Space A flights as a kid.) But I've never had to go to this level.

South Effrica was limited to Joburg, downtown, but it wasn't your goon shite, I just knew it had the potential to be.

It sounds like everyone is on the "Africa, are you sure?" train.

I still want stories.

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Jump in the car or buy a small RV and just drive America or maybe up to Alaska. So much out there!

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I won’t pretend to be the most traveled person in the world, but I’ve seen a lot of the world.

America is an amazing country with a diverse topography.

I’d love to start in Alaska and work my way down the pacific for the first part of the year in an RV and then hit all of the continental US. Finish up in New England in the fall and fly out to Hawaii for the winter.

If money wasn’t an object and I was reflecting on a life well spent, that would be my dream trip in my 60s.

I support Tigris here, but I will explain why.

There is a class of people that make massive amounts of money, but take their kids to Mexico and to Wyoming. You know, where the weirdest people they meet are from Alberta.

Go weird places that are a little inconvenient. You can fly to a lot of places in Europe as cheap as you can fly to the Caribbean.

If you're not into talking to people on accident (my Irish comments earlier) Barcelona also qualifies. If you're Star Alliance, route through FRA. The "Four Points by Sheraton Barcelona Diagonal" is a fantastic location in the spring/summer. You have 1km of cafes and pubs between you and the beach, and you can people watch all day long. There is also a grocery store on the promenade.

The breakfast at the hotel will make you need to take a nap, FYI.

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LemmyLives

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Are you drunk?

I know how to enjoy traveling, but I don't know how to travel while grieving, as I pointed out, bro.

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Grief counseling

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I won’t hesitate if I think it’s needed. Right now I feel like I’m handling it pretty healthily. Excellent support system through his illness and after his death. I started going to a Grief Share group, but I felt like I was already intuitively doing what’s right for me, I cook, but mostly things we didn’t eat together. I started taking guitar lessons because he built guitars during the last few years of his life and I’d like to play them. He didn’t know how to play, either; he just loved to build them. Our sons and daughters in law have been amazing. One son added me to their Life 360 and the other one wanted me to get Life Alert; I text him in the morning to let him know I’m alive and that seems to have worked. I got really sad watching baseball because we always high-fived after home runs, but now my brother in law texts me a high-five emoji. I feel surrounded by love, and God hasn’t broken a single promise.