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WWTOTD? “My nanny is threatening to quit if I don't fly her 1st class on family vacations”
Posted on 2/15/24 at 5:39 pm
Posted on 2/15/24 at 5:39 pm
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In her new agony aunt column, best-selling author Jane Green gives advice to a desperate parent who has been left horrified by his nanny's behavior
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For the past two years, my wife and I have employed a live-in nanny who helps us care for our young son, while taking care of a few chores around the house.
She has formed a wonderful bond with our three-year-old – so much so that we decided this year to invite her on our family vacations with us.
The deal was that we’d pay for her travel, her hotel room etc. and she could enjoy free time during the day while looking after our son in the evenings so my wife and I can enjoy some time alone.
We had three trips booked when we made this arrangement with her and she happily committed to all three.
However when we travelled to Costa Rica last month, she got incredibly upset to discover that we had not booked her a first class seat.
My wife and I were in first class with our son, and we booked our nanny a seat in Delta Comfort+. Apparently this was not to her standards.
As soon as we landed she asked to speak with me – and said that she felt incredibly uncomfortable with being treated in such a disrespectful manner, and that our decision to fly first class while leaving her in another section made clear how little we think of her.
She said that she could not commit to joining us on any other trips if that was our plan moving forward, and went as far as to suggest that she would rethink her working situation altogether if we didn’t agree to fly her first class.
Then she pretty much refused to speak with us about anything other than the baby.
I mean, what the heck?! Not trying to sound rude – or disrespectful – but we pay her a really good salary, we look after her incredibly well, and given that she’s getting several free vacations, I don’t think it’s unreasonable of us to book her in Comfort+.
We didn’t even book her in coach!
She and my son are so close, and she really is wonderful with him, so I can’t stand the thought of losing her, but it feels a bit like we’re being emotionally blackmailed by her.
Any thoughts about what we can do to resolve this without sacrificing all our boundaries!?
From,
Desperate Dad
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Posted on 2/15/24 at 5:41 pm to SPEEDY
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WWTOTD
frick the nanny
Posted on 2/15/24 at 5:42 pm to SPEEDY
My lear doesn't have comfort+ so this is a non issue.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 5:43 pm to SPEEDY
Posted on 2/15/24 at 5:43 pm to SPEEDY
It is shitty, I’d get another one but set her to mute.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 5:46 pm to SPEEDY
If you can afford a nanny, taking 3+ vacations a year and flying 1st class while doing so, you can afford to fly her 1st class given the excellent care and close relationship she has with the son.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 5:50 pm to SPEEDY
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As soon as we landed she asked to speak with me – and said that she felt incredibly uncomfortable with being treated in such a disrespectful manner, and that our decision to fly first class while leaving her in another section made clear how little we think of her.
If that wasn’t good enough I’d say, you’re fired, find your own way back.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 5:52 pm to SPEEDY
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WWTOTD? “My nanny is threatening to quit if I don't fly her 1st class on family vacations”
Ran into this last year with our nanny, made a compromise by moving her up to Comfort+
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How dumb do you have to be to think fricking the nanny is a good idea? That can only end badly
This post was edited on 2/15/24 at 5:54 pm
Posted on 2/15/24 at 5:54 pm to SPEEDY
Didn’t read but I’d kinda sympathize with the nanny if this is one of those crazy families
Mrs. S nannied for one of those families and she’d get told like the day before “oh btw we’re off to Rhode Island tomorrow. So pack a bag!” However they were mostly good people. Just a little out of touch with normality. It’s always the wealthy folks that think it’s their world and everyone else is living in it.
Mrs. S nannied for one of those families and she’d get told like the day before “oh btw we’re off to Rhode Island tomorrow. So pack a bag!” However they were mostly good people. Just a little out of touch with normality. It’s always the wealthy folks that think it’s their world and everyone else is living in it.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 6:05 pm to SPEEDY
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WWTOTD?
I don't know, act like a parent and take care of my own kids on vacation, thus remedying the nanny problem altogether?
Posted on 2/15/24 at 6:07 pm to SPEEDY
Raise your own kids
Posted on 2/15/24 at 6:24 pm to SPEEDY
The nanny needs to be sitting with the kid. I'd book her with whatever seats the rest of us are flying.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 6:37 pm to SPEEDY
Trust fund baby. No self made man would have an issue with this situation.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 6:40 pm to SPEEDY
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And yet, every time someone left, we found another, who was sometimes better, sometimes worse, usually entirely different, and almost always equally beloved by us and our children. Which is to say, no-one is irreplaceable, however wonderful she may be with your son
Jane with the solid advice.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 6:40 pm to SPEEDY
All I had to read was the title.
Tell her tough shite. Make her quit.
Tell her tough shite. Make her quit.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 6:43 pm to SPEEDY
Definitely a first world problem.
Now, fire that bitch. She can easily be replaced.
Now, fire that bitch. She can easily be replaced.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 6:43 pm to SPEEDY
I need pictures of the nanny before I render my decision.
Posted on 2/15/24 at 6:45 pm to SPEEDY
quote:Fire the nanny and either dad or mom actually takes care of the kid.
Any thoughts about what we can do to resolve this without sacrificing all our boundaries!?
Posted on 2/15/24 at 6:54 pm to SPEEDY
I would like to give you some serious advice on this issue, but I can't do it without pic's of the nanny. Full body, front and back.
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