re: Could use some prayers or advice

Well said Dude

I’m sorry you’re struggling with all this.

It seems you’re outward focused right now. Perhaps you should focus inward on things you can control. Make a list of personal goals that do not rely on others satisfaction or feedback. Gym goals, project goals, social goals, educational… start small and add one long term goal at a time. These are times of growth and you will find satisfaction and happiness from yourself instead of others until you move through this. Chin up. Everything passes.

Praying, seriously praying. We have all been there. Life comes at you fast. Whatever the problem, whatever it is, becomes a blip in time in the scheme of things. Keep up the good fight, you have broad shoulders to lean on, you must keep pushing forward.

I repeat the Lord's prayer over and over to get me through the tough times. Never give up, never ever give up. You are loved, believe me - you are loved.

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There is goodness in the in between.

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This is so true. We need to listen in the quiet times. I listen to a ton of music and find the most enjoyment I get is when an artist knows when to be quiet.

Focus on giving of yourself to other people that are worse off, i.e. since you are a Christian, volunteer at a prison ministry. Trust me, there are people out there hurting worse than you. Stop focusing on what you don’t have and count the blessings you do have. Pour yourself into something bigger than yourself. It’s when you quit focusing on yourself and zeroing in on WHY God put you here that you’ll start finding joy in your life. Praying for you! Don’t give up!

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Make an ACTS Retreat

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I second this idea. Highly recommend.

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I've honestly hit rock bottom and I don't know how to get out and I don't feel that I ever will.

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Spent quite a bit of time there with a pretty similar mindset.
There’s no single day that it will get better.
Not hearing someone tell you there’s an answer to make it better is devastating and will sort of make you quit reading.
Things do get better over time if you stick it out. That time can be months to years.



This sounds like bullshite. But it does get better.

I have been in your shoes. Lost, confused, miserable, and weary. Paralyzed by continuous loneliness with no end in sight. I was an emotional wreck. I did not trust myself to rise above my situation. So, I began to pray for God’s help to get through each day. I prayed for His help to fall asleep. I prayed and prayed some more. The best thing I ever did was to make the decision to trust God to intervene and save me. I read the Psalms and listened to Christian music and sermons on the radio (this was before YouTube which is an absolute treasure trove of music and sermons). I immersed myself in the Lord. And I exercised. It was neither easy nor a quick fix. But, I kept at it. Then, one day, I noticed that I was beginning to heal and the trials of life became easier to deal with. Windows of opportunity began to open. The bottom line is that God loves and values me and you. Keep reaching out to Him and trust Him to heal you. Don’t give up on Him. He won’t give up on you.

If you're drinking, stop. Clean up your diet and go to the gym. I'm not saying that will solve all of your problems, but it definitely won't make them any worse. No one has ever done those 3 things and regretted it later.

Face the Giants - Prepare your fields

Op. Please take the time to watch this 2 minute clip. Its point is similar to what you are saying about praying every day. God works on His time. He knows what is in store for us. We can pray everyday for him to work inside of us, but what are we doing to prepare for his response? On the video it talks about 2 farmers praying for rain. If one person is just praying, but the other person is preparing his field for that rain, who do you think is better to receive God's response?

We need to do more than just ask for help. We need to prepare ourselves knowing and having faith that God is going to help. Get in your Bible and even if it's a little everyday, you will be amazed how sometimes verses seem like it is written for you in that moment. If you are in Church, talk to your Priest or Pastor. And something that might sound taboo, but take to members of your church. That is what a church is. It's not a building. It's the people. A fellowship of Christians.

And if things seem too rough, set goals for the day. Win Today, not the week, not the year. Get some good habits going on and do them today. Do them tomorrow. Continue to win and get on a winning streak. Even if it's just doing something small, setting goals and maintaining them changes moods.

The last thing I want to tell you, and for anyone else who needs to here it. You are loved. You have a purpose on this world. And when you mess up or get angry, don't forget about God's Grace. Grace is something we get NOT because we deserve it, but because HE gives it out of love, patience, and forgiveness to us.