re: Does anyone else not mesh well with their dad when hunting/ fishing?

My dad never really did hunt and barely ever fished it was my grandfather and uncles on my moms side that took me. Now that I have kids my son who has killed a few deer is not a deer hunter but likes to fish and my daughter loves everything about deer hunting.
Even though I love deer hunting with my daughter sometimes I want to hunt by myself and get in a climber in a certain spot we can’t get in when she’s with me and sometimes I get aggravated.
Well one day about 2yrs ago it dawned on me she’s fixing to hit the teenage years and will prolly have better things to do than hunt deer with ol dad and I should plan on and cherish a certain amount of hunts with her while I can.
Since your venting, just do like I do and chalk up these hunts/fishing to time spent with him and not your own agenda cus as others have said and even with my daughter those days are numbered...

We had our respective spheres of influence. My Dad shot for the Navy way back when. There was no competing with him. He was easily the best shot I’ve ever seen. Dad also fished for bass as though it was a religion and he was a top water priest. I, on the other hand, specialized in fly fishing for trout. Late in life he took it up. Teaching him to cast and to fish a trout stream was one of the greatest pleasures of my life.

Whose boat are you in? If it’s your boat, you have the say so in how y’all fish. If it’s his boat, he has the say so.

That’s how my father, rest his soul, taught us. He never objected to any of our tactics unless we weren’t catching.

I love my dad but God damnit I hate that man. We are way too much alike, hard headed, selfish, egotistical, and have a short fuse. We have been in more screaming fights than I can count and a few physical fights to back it up. We both get mad way to quick at each other, it's not an abusive thing. I can't stand working with him or even being around him in close proximity for more than about 3 days at a time.

Even with all that I'm so glad I have him, we go fishing nearly every week. It's some of the best memories I've made in my life. He's really easy going when we are on the water since I know much more and do my research. We have an absolute blast every trip. I can't wait until my son is old enough to share these memories with us. Enjoy every moment you have with him.

Just last weekend we caught 24 sheepshead, 3 drum, 2 monster white trout, 1 spec and a blue cat!

Checking in.

I love cleaning fish and stuff with my dad, but we’ve almost gotten in fist fights in the boat.

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Yep. But I long ago accepted when I am hunting with my Dad, he is correct.

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yep, just do this.
it ain’t about the killing or catching, as any man who has lost his dad can tell you.

letting your dad be dad is the best gift you can give him

Loved fishing with my dad and he loved fishing with me. He had many invites to go fishing with "the guys" but always turned them down when they said "no kids". The night before Christmas and the night before fishing with him were always sleepless with anticipation. He died at 43. That being said, he taught me everything I know about fishing, so I don't think we would be disagreeing on much, and if he was around still, I'd appreciate the fact and he'd never know I disagreed.

I can relate to this a bit. Love my dad and get along with him pretty well in normal life, though that wasn’t always the case. My dad taught me how to fish and hunt as a kid, but it became clear when I was a teenager that I was far more into than he had ever been. I took it a lot more seriously and it was really important to me that I learned to be good at successfully targeting whatever fish or animal I was after. I’ve gotten a lot more laid back with it as I’ve gotten older.

My dad doesn’t really like to hunt anymore but he enjoys fishing. He always defers to me on planning just because I’m in the marsh a lot more often than he is and frankly I just know more about it than he does. I know that sounds egotistical but see first paragraph and that’s not my intent. The issue I’ve got is that my sad has developed a habit of complaining a lot and not helping me with anything. Doesn’t want to wake up early, doesn’t like the weather, doesn’t like the conditions, the list goes on. I’ll pull up to a dock and instead of hopping on the bow to grab the dock line, my dad just sits there . It’s gotten to the point where fishing with him has become stressful and I don’t really enjoy it like I used to. I still do it because I value the time spent with my dad and I know he won’t always be here, but doing literally everything to ensure a successful/productive fishing trip (i.e. guiding) only to have him complain the entire time and not lift a finger to help me with anything is definitely not relaxing. I guess I’m also a bit sour because once you experience the negatives of running fishing trips, it’s not exactly something you want to do without getting paid.

Like I said, I love my dad and feel feet fortunate that he is still around for me to spend time with, but I do wish I enjoyed fishing with him more. Maybe it’ll change. Either way, we’ll keep going.

There’s always time to try both. Especially fishing moving shallow for an hour then move deeper for an hour. Make it a part of the process of figuring out the fish that day. Bragging rights at stake.

I used to get mad as hell at my dad because he would walk a lot while deer hunting, whereas I am a treestand guy.

He died 13 years ago.

I would love to see his orange vest coming down a ridge now.

Now I have a little 5yo baw of my own who started hunting with me some this year.