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Sorry, I have to disagree with this statement. You're 29, all you have to do is put the phone down, get out, do your daily thing and just be approachable, and/or approach women. I talk to women all the time, all throughout the day and most women, at least the ones I engage with, enjoy a conversation. They feel it's refreshing. I'm not trying to date them all but if I see a woman I want to speak with I just strike up a conversation in the context of the moment.

I do all of this, and quite frequently. No luck yet. It isn't for lack of trying on my part. I have no issues talking to women. Off the top of my head, over the last year I've asked out ten women I met in-person or know in-person that weren't obviously in a relationship when I asked them. One who actually was single politely declined. The other nine were all flattered I asked them out, but said they had boyfriends. Maybe a few of them were lying to be nice, but I now know for a fact at least six of them are in a relationship, so they weren't lying to me. Some of y'all don't understand how much social media has changed the dating game. The majority of the women you would want to date, especially in their 20s, just aren't single, period. And when they are, it's usually for a very short time, unless they're voluntarily staying single.

I hear Hinge used to be great for finding a good match, but they changed the algorithm a few years ago and maybe I’ve only ever experienced the bad algorithm. In my personal experience, Hinge is the app I’ve had by far the least success on. It seems to have the highest concentration of quality women, but good luck ever getting a response if you’re an average guy. I’m not exaggerating when I say I’ve probably messaged 300 different women on Hinge over the last three years, and I’ve never gotten a single date from it. I’ve only even gotten two responses and one agreement for a first date, who then flaked on me last minute. I’ll just delete my profile and try again in a year. Not worth the money for me.

I’ve had a bit more success on Bumble, with a few dates over the years. But even Bumble sucks, now that they’ve changed the system so that women don’t have to message first anymore. Bumble is also especially bad with catfish and bot accounts. And most of the women on there use heavily filtered profile pictures.The app I’ve the most success on is CatholicMatch, believe it or not. I met my last girlfriend on there. The women on there tend to be much more serious about finding a relationship, but they can often be immature and shallow, as well, just like on any other app. I don’t use Tinder, because the type of woman I’m trying to find would never be on there. I’m looking for a serious relationship, not a hookup.

There are studies that suggest the number of single men aged 18-29 is roughly double the number of single women, and as crazy as that seems, I absolutely believe it. In my experience, the quality young women who are worth dating are pretty much never involuntarily single. And when they are, it’s not for long, so you have to get lucky with your timing. It just hasn’t happened for me yet. Obviously, there are some quality young, single women out there looking for a husband, but I never seem to meet them when they’re single.

I think dating apps have had the biggest impact on “average” men and women. For the most part, I think really ugly people and really attractive people know where they stand.

But dating apps can make average men feel like garbage and give average women an inflated ego with seemingly endless options. It's been demoralizing, I’m not gonna lie. But I just try to remind myself that I’m not a failure, and that most young men are going through the same struggles I am to find a good woman. I know a ton of good guys that are in the same boat.