re: You ever feel like dating apps have ruined a generation?

I've used dating apps since about 2006 off and on. Dated on the apps and in person. I met my current gf 5 years ago on a dating app. She's old school which is what I love about her.

Dating sucks in general though. I'm glad I found my person.

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I can't help with getting girls to say yes to a date, but guys in the late 20s and up looking to date really should focus on learning how to do new things. The older girls get, the more they want a guy who can fix shite or build something. The more shite you can fix, the better IMO. Change your own oil, replace a hot water heater, diagnose why an outlet isn't working and fix it, patch drywall, build something. I have nephews in high school, friends all along the college age to their 30s and I have one really good friend who is hands on with the problems that go on in life. All the rest of them, none of them know how to do something as basic as plunging a toilet.

They'd rather pay someone to get their hands dirty than to actually risk breaking something. The girls on dating apps for the most part aren't the girls looking to date seriously. Become a regular at a coffee shop, take a college course, take up tennis or some other gender neutral sport, hell take a waiting gig at a champagne bar or something regardless of income if you're trying to meet girls.

If you're looking for an easy way to find girls, you'll only find the easy girls.

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Truly idiotic post

You don't use Dating Apps to have an actual relationship you use them to have sex with as many women as possible. They aren't for finding a 'soul mate' and most the women on there have been fricked over and over by tons of men and ghosted.

Get off the dating apps. Go meet people in real life.

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You ever feel like dating apps have ruined a generation?

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Not only dating apps, but all social media that came along with the technology has certainly changed the dating/commitment/marriage dynamic exponentially from the days of my youth. Each time I see this topic (or how can I succeed with the girl at my gym, etc.), and all the responses, I feel grateful to have experienced my dating life mostly prior to the internet.

From my personal observation, the glaring failures of many of the young generation stem from 1. lack of the social skills to approach a potential partner in real life (learn when to say "hello" dammit, and politely start a conversation) and 2. lack of ambition to become someone who is attractive to a potential partner (self improvement). I don't want to paint all young men with the same brush, but too many young men seem satisfied to while away their lives playing video games or consuming social media rather than living in the real world and interacting socially with others.

So there's my rant, from the perspective of a single parent who once dreaded the upcoming teen years of a quite beautiful daughter and only saw it fizzle into boredom because boys could never muster up the courage to ask her out. Didn't have a date for her prom. Back in my day guys would have been having a fistfight in her front yard to get to the doorbell first.

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Seems I struck a nerve and made you feel small and useless. Sorry you're useless.

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You said to get a second job as a waiter to try to meet women

If you do don’t leave a good enough 1st impression, for the girl “shut down her convo’s in the app”, then you haven’t closed the deal, that’s on him/you.

Step up the game/efforts to stand above the rest of the guys.
Or lessen your ambitions and go for the fat ones. Not everyone can out-kick their coverage.

I’m (50) and if we would have had dating apps being prevalent in our prime back in the day. It would have been like shooting fish in a barrel.

Dating apps make it way easier to find someone. Your buddy needs to figure out what he’s doing wrong.

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Dating apps make it way easier to find someone

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If it's someone you want to stay with, it's definitely not easy. I went through a few and almost gave up. God must have smiled on me because I accidentally hit a button that matched me with a woman almost 4 hours away. 5 years later we are still together. We have so much in common it's scary and the scary part is, some of that common stuff happened not long after we started dating. We can read each other without speaking. It's uncanny and I can only think something put us together. There's no other explanation.

But online dating is far from easy unless you just want to frick.

I’m almost 50 and could not disagree more with the post above that said it would be like shooting fish in a barrel. The dates will come but man I can’t stress enough that none of these women are of high enough quality for a relationship.

You can date younger but most of those women still want kids even on the other side of 40. And the ones who are older are not quality women. At least none I’ve encountered in south Louisiana. The drama & game playing are still there. I think there are numerous things at play here. The biggest I’ve seen is that this area is a shallow pool for men. These women are inundated with options which causes a lot of the behavior.

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Not only dating apps, but all social media that came along with the technology has certainly changed the dating/commitment/marriage dynamic exponentially from the days of my youth. Each time I see this topic (or how can I succeed with the girl at my gym, etc.), and all the responses, I feel grateful to have experienced my dating life mostly prior to the internet.

From my personal observation, the glaring failures of many of the young generation stem from 1. lack of the social skills to approach a potential partner in real life (learn when to say "hello" dammit, and politely start a conversation) and 2. lack of ambition to become someone who is attractive to a potential partner (self improvement). I don't want to paint all young men with the same brush, but too many young men seem satisfied to while away their lives playing video games or consuming social media rather than living in the real world and interacting socially with others.

So there's my rant, from the perspective of a single parent who once dreaded the upcoming teen years of a quite beautiful daughter and only saw it fizzle into boredom because boys could never muster up the courage to ask her out. Didn't have a date for her prom. Back in my day guys would have been having a fistfight in her front yard to get to the doorbell first.

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You never once considered your daughter could have her own issues.

You can always tell who has a daughter in these threads because they have nothing to say about women but everything bad to say about boys and men.


Boys would jump to be something if there was something real at stake. Theres nothing there anymore and even if you get it, its just your turn.