Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?

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Let’s say she tells you a couple days before the wedding she wants to keep her own last name?

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Waiting only a couple days before to tell you seems suspicious.

I am older than most newlyweds and my current girl is a doctor, can’t blame her for not changing her name.

I don’t find it a big deal as long as my kid have my last name.

Wasn’t a deal breaker for me.

Yep. First sign of many problems to come. This belongs in that slippery slope thread.

I wasn't going to change mine, initially, just because it's a huge PITA, but then I realized that not changing it seemed very disrespectful to mfiwd. So, I got the SS card and license changed. Will eventually get the bank info updated, along with the passport. I updated my signature at work, but told IT, under no circumstances, change my work email (which includes my maiden name). Other women, who had their email addresses changed, said it was a nightmare.

TLDR - Yes, a woman should take her husband's last name.

My wife did not, but we got married in our 40s and she was well established in her field so that was why.

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Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?

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Yes.

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Let’s say she tells you a couple days before the wedding she wants to keep her own last name? Would you still marry her?

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No.

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Waiting only a couple days before to tell you seems suspicious

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Well maybe she just changed her mind about it or something.

There is only a few reasons why she shouldn’t take your last name
1. She is known by her last name in her profession (Doctor, published author, etc)
2. She’s famous
3. Her family has a business or something they built on the family name

Otherwise it’s suspect

Yes it would be a deal breaker. Good sign the marriage will not work.

She can always change her name back if she divorces her husband so I don’t understand the big deal.