re: Would you take your wife back if she had a one night stand on a business trip?

Why would she tell you about it?

Like I've I always told mine. If you're gonna be a ho, please be a discreet ho

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always told mine.

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No way someone married you

Yeah it's pretty surprising. Then again I'm not a drug addict ex convict. So I've got that going for me.

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Disagree. I think this exact sentament is why marriages fail.

Marriage is always and should always be about you and your spouse. Your kids are the visitors to the relationship.

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While I don't think kids should be considered "visitors", I absolutely agree with the premise of your post. Marriage should be about the two partners first and foremost.

My wife told me laughingly the other day that she has heard from friends and cousins that they love their husbands because of what great Father's they are, but really can't stand them as husbands to them.

I looked back at her and told her that was the saddest thing Ive heard in a while.

Weren't you getting onto GtG a few pages back about posting about marriage and kids when he doesn't have them?

You are doing the same thing here (I'm guessing). You don't really know how you would react to your wife having a one night stand because she hasn't stepped out on you (I'm assuming, if I'm wrong... Lol)

And you really shouldn't act like it takes a saint to not cheat on their spouse. Not cheating is pretty easy and the act of cheating should be criticized and villified.

I would feel extremely betrayed but I'd think long and hard before I left.

We have built a pretty good life and I wouldn't throw it all away without trying to fix things.

Trust would take a long time to regain though.

At this point, with children involved, I wouldn't get a divorce. My focus would just shift towards getting even. I'd pound as much vag as needed to equal out to what she did, without her knowing. And I'd need a threesome as an apology as well, since the whole sanctity of marriage part would be dead as shite anyway. I think for the amount of vaginal (vuh-gine-ul) retribution needed, I'd have to figure out how much I have willingly passed on since we started dating, add 2 for the guy she did (1 for it, and 1 to grow on), and knock down that number to be even and all square.

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marriage is about more than yourself once you have kids. Everything you do is for them.


Disagree. I think this exact sentament is why marriages fail.

Marriage is always and should always be about you and your spouse. Your kids are the visitors to the relationship.

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My dad always told me if he had to choose between my mom or me and my sister he'd chose my mom in an instant. I believed him.

I don't have kids yet, but I can definitely understand what he was saying. And I feel the same way

This can be resolved with one question. Think back to the first day/night you met her. Did you frick her that night? A simple yes or no answer will suffice.

If the answer is no, then that means she gave it up for some other dude more easily than she did for you, so she must not think much of you and you should kick her to the curb.

If the answer is yes, then you knew she was a whore but you were apparently OK with it because you married her anyway, so why should it bother you now? Carry on and wait for the next time it happens, and the next and the next and so on. Keep your fingers crossed that all of her kids, present and future, are also your kids. As an added bonus, neither of you will have to buy any new underwear; you can just start wearing her panties and she can wear your boxers.

See? Easy to figure out.

Oh, and per your edit, I use "you" in the general sense and not meaning you personally.

I agree. my wife and i have discussed what would happen if she was in labor and something happened and the doctor said I basically had to choose to save the baby or the mom.

I would save my wife in that situation. it would be hard, but she is the one i actively choose every day to spend my life with.