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re: Would you reach out to your son’s friend’s parents after something like this?
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:42 pm to StringedInstruments
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:42 pm to StringedInstruments
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We wouldn’t have dared to leave anyone out because we have an ounce of empathy. Apparently that’s laughable these days based on the majority of responses to this thread.
I don’t think anybody is saying having empathy is laughable. But most are saying it sucks for your kid but is a good learning experience of rejection, and telling you to stay way the frick out of it with the other parents.
Does it suck? Of course. But that’s life sometimes. And I’d just file it away in your memory next time it’s time to invite kids to something for your kid….with the decision ultimately being left up to your kid. If he wants to invite that kid then let him. But I’d just remind him that he wasn’t wanted at that birthday party and see what he wants to do.
I feel bad for your kid. But he’ll get over it and be fine.
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Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:42 pm to StringedInstruments
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:42 pm to StringedInstruments
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Not at all.
General “getting picked on” things that occurred at school.
Then JeffDad is probably right and it's one of the other kids keeping him out and not his friend. It happens. If him and the birthday boy continue to have a good relationship, then it was one or more of the other kids pushing him out. At that age for this shite to start.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:43 pm to StringedInstruments
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I’m just confused why we as a society can’t form communities where we know and respect each other enough to communicate. Let us know about it instead of pussyfooting around the issue.
Expectation management, my friend - you seem like a nice guy and all that - stop expecting others to be the same. Most of them are not.
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We wouldn’t have dared to leave anyone out because we have an ounce of empathy. Apparently that’s laughable these days based on the majority of responses to this thread.
Teach your son to be like that, but also teach him not to expect it of others.
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I won’t contact the dad.
Good
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Glad to know my son can know where he stands. He’ll surely be happy to learn from this moment while his best friends go have a great time fostering their friendships.
Tell your son that he's not losing what he thinks he's losing. These kids sound more like VD than great friends - life will be better without them.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:44 pm to CocomoLSU
First time your kid gets left out is tough. Especially if you have to watch it happen and watch them cope.
Gotta be there for the kid, but not rescue them from life every time it gets tough.
Or take part of the puzzle that little bitch was working on so she can never complete it.
Gotta be there for the kid, but not rescue them from life every time it gets tough.
Or take part of the puzzle that little bitch was working on so she can never complete it.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:44 pm to StringedInstruments
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Would you reach out to your son’s friend’s parents after something like this?
No, I'd end all contact and let them figure it out. Tell the boy to go home and he's not welcome anytime he shows up.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:46 pm to imjustafatkid
Also don't underestimate the chances that the parents don't like you or your wife. Or that your kid is someone they don't want their kid around for various reasons.
It isn't always the other person.
It isn't always the other person.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:46 pm to HoustonChick86
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worked with my son on his birthday party invite list today and I said he could invite 11, because with him that's an even 12 and you have to pay per child. It took him time to pick who and he also wished he could invite everyone but realized he couldn't. You've got to remember this child could also have family, classmates etc.
Exactly. Birthday boy could have a few close school friends and a few close cousins and can only invite X people and your son just missed the cut. It’s really not a big deal if you don’t make it one.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:47 pm to DCtiger1
This is some major league helicopter parenting dude. He didn’t get invited. It sucks but it is what it is.
You’re going to look absolutely pathetic calling the dad and asking why.
You’re going to look absolutely pathetic calling the dad and asking why.
This post was edited on 1/2/25 at 5:48 pm
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:49 pm to StringedInstruments
quote:listen to your wife.
My wife says not to contact them.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:49 pm to StringedInstruments
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What say the OT?
If your son doesn't go to the party gluten that kid's arse next time he mooches from your fridge.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:49 pm to StringedInstruments
Out of curiosity how old is your son?
Maybe they need an equal number
Maybe mom said “3 friends and that’s it”
(I’ve set a number before due to cost of event or space)
It totally sucks … however there are times in life that this happens and everyone would be better off learning how to handle it.
Maybe they need an equal number
Maybe mom said “3 friends and that’s it”
(I’ve set a number before due to cost of event or space)
It totally sucks … however there are times in life that this happens and everyone would be better off learning how to handle it.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:50 pm to StringedInstruments
quote:Look, all kids mature and evolve differently. I have three, all different, one that has many buddies and gets invited to everything one that is more to herself and not as social, and one that is in the middle. Life has a way of sorting this stuff out, your kid may be an a-hole, the others may be....but I would not worry about it longer than 5 minutes. It may be a great thing that he is exculded, sometimes it shows the kid is doing the right stuff. And tell your wife good advice, but leave out the narcissist part, there is no need to disparage folks.
My son has experienced some social issues off and on at school, and the neighborhood has always been a safe place.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:50 pm to StringedInstruments
nah frick them, this is a great opportunity to teach him just how caddy people can be.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:50 pm to StringedInstruments
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My wife says not to contact them. She thinks their mom might be a narcissist and get off this kind of stuff.
1. Totally understand why you would be annoyed by this, but your wife is right. Your son will be upset but will move on. Sounds like your sons friend is being controlled by his mother which is unfortunate.
2. Your wife won’t take her own advice and will eventually mention it. That’s when the fun starts for you.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:51 pm to StringedInstruments
From experience, my dad would take me fishing.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:52 pm to StringedInstruments
Stop making it so comfortable at your house for the little Celiac-ridden excluder. Maybe he only comes over for the snacks. Seriously, if he will do this, he isn’t such a great friend and you shouldn’t bend over backwards to keep him in your son’s life. He might be taking up space that could be occupied by a better friend.
When i was about that age my friend group did similar to me. Eventually i found another group of friends that i fit in better with and tbh they were cooler and did more fun things.
When i was about that age my friend group did similar to me. Eventually i found another group of friends that i fit in better with and tbh they were cooler and did more fun things.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:52 pm to StringedInstruments
Do- use it to teach your kid to be respectful but not to expect respect in return…. This is the world and he needs to know that.
Don’t- be a dick parent and shut the other kid out…. That would make you a petty little bitch.
Do- pretend like it never happened and let these kids figure it out…. It will resolve itself one way or another.
Don’t- Sugar coat this shite, allow your kid do draw his own real life conclusions
Do- go do something as a family. There’s more to life than fleeting friendships no matter what he’s feeling right now.
Don’t- be a dick parent and shut the other kid out…. That would make you a petty little bitch.
Do- pretend like it never happened and let these kids figure it out…. It will resolve itself one way or another.
Don’t- Sugar coat this shite, allow your kid do draw his own real life conclusions
Do- go do something as a family. There’s more to life than fleeting friendships no matter what he’s feeling right now.
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:52 pm to StringedInstruments
Need pics of all of the moms to give correct advice
This post was edited on 1/2/25 at 5:53 pm
Posted on 1/2/25 at 5:53 pm to StringedInstruments
So you want your kid to go to something where he is not wanted?
You think he is going to enjoy that?
You think he is going to enjoy that?
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