re: Would marriage rates plummet even further if young guys knew the reality of married life ?

Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all. Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last but feelings come and go. And in fact, whatever people say, the state called ‘being in love’ usually does not last.

If the old fairy-tale ending ‘They lived happily ever after’ is taken to mean ‘They felt for the next fifty years exactly as they felt the day before they were married,’ then it says what probably never was nor ever would be true, and would be highly undesirable if it were. Who could bear to live in that excitement for even five years? What would become of your work, your appetite, your sleep, your friendships? But, of course, ceasing to be ‘in love’ need not mean ceasing to love.

Love in this second sense — love as distinct from ‘being in love’ — is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriages) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself. They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be ‘in love’ with someone else. ‘Being in love’ first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. it is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.”

-C. S. Lewis Mere Christianity

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Factually incorrect .

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FYI, I don't do """factually incorrect"""

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Are you a female, or trans ?

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No.

Simply an intelligent male, who made good choices, understood what a partnership involves, and what civil contract is.

You sound scarred.

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How is dating multiple women at a time lonely ?

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It’s lonely because you don’t really have a relationship with any of them.

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Go to Target on a Saturday and look at how many good looking wives who are married to total fat slob husbands.

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Or a woman popping out a kid and stop giving a shite. I've seen that movie countless times.

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Filing for divorce does not necessarily make you the reason the marriage failed.

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I quit doing family court work years ago because it destroys your faith in people and society as a whole. I cannot imagine what it's like now with the social media explosion the last 10 years. Men are generally much more willing to try and work out a marriage imo. I saw a ton of situations where the women checked out years prior and were just waiting for that 10 year anniversary, which in SC was the threshold for a presumption in favor of alimony.

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Go to Target on a Saturday and look at how many good looking wives who are married to total fat slob husbands.

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The trope of SEC couples is real. Some real trolls snag Quad 10s because they rushed the right frat and majored in accounting.

My wife likes my pipe after 7 years

I don’t have these issues with my wife.

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And once you marry her she loses respect for you because she now knows that she holds all the cards, she has all of the power.

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bullshite. If she is disrespectful then call her on it. There’s been a couple times I felt disrespected by my wife and I let her know how I felt. She didn’t mean it, and we were fine after. I’ve disrespected her and she called me out and I made it right. Nothing goes 100% perfect there will be bumps in the road and we all have faults but if you choose a good woman you can have a happy marriage. The biggest thing is don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. Be a man, tell her what you want, what you expect, and what you need. And be understanding and respectful of her wants and needs.

Is the OP a Slippy alter?