re: Woman Goes Viral for Almost Divorcing Husband Over Chores

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Heard a podcast calling for an 80/80 marriage instead of 50/50. Each seek to do 80% of tasks. This prevents scorekeeping like 50/50 encourages

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Marriage is 100%-100%. Unless you want to be miserable.

Sounds like a woman got married, had kids, and then mashed the off switch once she had her claws sunk deeply enough in the man to have confidence he wouldn't tell her to frick off and leave

A tale as old as time.

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One of the weirdest phenomenons I have seen is women around 33-45 literally cheering on women to get divorced out of normal, functioning marriages.

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See my post below yours.

Misery loves company, and the most influential demographic on this planet is the American female. My lawyer told me he loves when a woman contacts him for divorce. Women file 75% of the time in male/female relationships and 80% of that is due to a friend's influence. My ex wife had a friend that encouraged, cheered, and coached her on how to maximize our divorce.

One of the many things that caused me to consider marriage again was that my current fiancé stopped talking to a friend after a few months of dating me because her friend started to imply that our relationship would crash because she was currently miserable. My fiance was like "nope, not going to allow her misery to infect my happiness". I got a winner fellas.

Husband needs to PIIHB

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Hell I remember when Jim Carrey acting like a tranny on Living Color was funny, now that who act is reality, and if you don't buy into it, you are a nazi that should be canceled.

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It all started when Peg emasculated Al Buddy on married with children. Women watched and learned. The culture was changed.

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I’ve been married 43 years. We never had a plan, we saw what needed to be done and do it. Throughout 43 years our roles changed multiple times, naturally. No contract, no arguments, just got on with it.

When I worked, things ran differently than when I was a stay at a home mom and then homeschooling for 7 years. Then I worked 4 to midnight many years and that changed the dynamic. We adjusted.

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Been married 30 less years and I agree 100%. When we first got married I was managing restaurants and worked long hours and lots of nights. Wife was finishing up nursing school. Then my wife started working 3 days a week and I started staggering my schedule so we could have a day off together each week. Then she went from 3 x 12s to only Saturday/Sundays so she could spend more time with our young children and we saved money on daycare and bought a house. I left restaurants behind and starting working in the Supply Chain 8 year ago and now I work a hybrid schedule and she works 4 days a week in the OR. The dynamics have changed time and time again. Sometimes an easy transition and other times it absolutely sucked. I'll share this info with this board broadly but I can't imagine starting a blog or Youtube channel on our daily life and the dynamics of our marriage. I didn't talk about cleaning up all the vomit, piss and shite and the screaming/yelling fights that come with severe stress and sleep deprivation brought on by young children. That's our business and I'm just glad it's behind us.

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Didn't watch the video, but I assume this woman read the below and that's where she got all this from.

You Should've Asked

It's okay of a concept in theory, because there really ARE mongoloid men out there that exactly mirror dopes like Everybody Loves Raymond or King of Queens.

But it seems like women like the one in OP are married to otherwise competent, good men and running with this sort of nonsense for no reason.

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We're the same at our house. If something needs done, do it. Don't worry about who does what. Don't keep score or use it as leverage. Be a good team player, and understand when your partner is over-burdened and you need to pick up some slack for a bit.

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Same. I'm floored by the number of posts I see on Reddit where people have "assigned" chores.

We've never had to formally discuss household duties because neither of us tolerates living with dirty dishes or a full trash can, so we just naturally do it as it needs to be done.

We both grew up in households so clean you could eat off the floor if you wanted, which I think is a big reason we are both like that as adults. I hear friends nonchalantly talk about doing the dishes in their sink when they get home, or having to clean the stove this weekend, and I'm baffled by that. Dishes are cleaned as they are used in our household. The stove is taken apart and 409'd down every single time we cook as part of regular kitchen cleanup.

Different strokes, I guess. Marry someone with your same intolerance for mess.

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Men will sacrifice their happiness for the sake of their family. Women will sacrifice their family for their own perceived happiness

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FIFY