re: Will you ever remarry?

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LRB1967

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That's a long journey to marriage... I'm glad you found your partner!

Do you fantasize about me?

You keep saying this in various threads

It’s weird

I became a widower at 51 and will never remarry. My two oldest kids are off on their own and my youngest will graduate in 2028. I'll be retiring at 54 in a pretty comfortable financial position. I've become accustomed to opening my closet, pantry, and fridge and seeing only my belongings. Plus, like you said, I have complete freedom to go where I want, when I want with no explanations. Think about the reasons that we get married anyway:

1. Companionship
2. Regular access to sex (for men)
3. Combining of financial resources
4. Having children

I've already got my kids, so that's out. I'm in a good financial position, so I don't need to combine resources to live comfortably. Sex, while still important, isn't as important (at least in terms of frequency) at 51 as it was at 25 when I first got married. That just leaves companionship. I'm also at the age where I desire the companionship less than I once did. Plus, I plan to do quite a bit of traveling when I retire, so I'd have to find a woman that didn't work AND had enough money to not be a financial burden slowing me down.

Fortunately, I've found myself in the perfect position. I have a female friend that I've known since high school. She lost her husband to a heart attack at 49. I knew him and they had a great marriage. For her, he's simply not replaceable. Knowing that my wife had passed, she reached out and said "I'm not looking to ever get married again and don't even want a boyfriend, but I'm tired of sitting at home by myself or being the 3rd wheel with my married friends." She lives about a half hour away and is very busy as a corporate professional, so her time is just as limited as mine. Still, we text, send each other funny reels, and go to dinner or an event a few times a month. It's the perfect amount of companionship with no real commitment in terms of time, emotions, or resources. She would absolutely be wife material.....if I wanted a wife, but I don't. Our running joke is that we're just being "lonely together".

Lost my dear wife last October. Was with her 30 years. I just can’t see myself getting that close to someone again. Her death took a lot out of me.

Thank you. Better late than never.

i love my wife, and am glad to spend every day with her. i am 43 now.

if something happened to her and she wasnt there anymore, even if it was in the near future, i dont think i would remarry.

If anything ever happens to my husband, I'll never remarry.

Only if she has more money than me and no young kids.

Never. I am 73 soon to be 74. My wife died 16 years ago and I made a conscious decision to never marry. I have no regrets. Have a travel companion with their own home. Keeping it that way. I enjoy my freedom to do what I want when I want