re: Why is it that almost every transgender, non binary, gender fluid

quote:

---

Bc liberalism is a mental disorder

---

quote:

---

I’d assume being marginalized or different or disliked by large portions of society could cause depression and anxiety.

---

quote:

---

because its NOT a mental disorder.

---

quote:

---

Bc They are a freak of nature.

Let that sink in.

---

quote:

---

I’ll actually answer your question.

I’m transgender, I’m 45 years old and two years into my transition and not even close to being done with this whole thing.

I’ve didn’t come out until I was 42, because I was scared of destroying my life/marriage/career, etc. Furthermore, I wasn’t exactly demure and I’m on the bigger scale size-wise, so I never thought I could go through with this. So think about that for a second, from the time I was 7 years old, I wanted to be a girl, but I couldn’t. Physically, I couldn’t transition, because the times were different, people like me weren’t given the green light from Dr’s to transition (because of gate-keeping), as an Army officer, DADT was in place, so I had gut it out and take every bit of this pain and depression and stuff it down inside myself. That’s a damned good way to develop a serious drinking problem, which is what eventually happened to me.

But I am now three years sober, I also quit smoking. I no longer have this massive deep-dark secret to keep and I decided to transition. After two tours overseas, I finally figured out that life was too short to be unhappy.

This sh*t is hard. No lie, Transition is difficult. I’d say months 16-24 are a swift kick in the teeth. I’d wager that I am correctly addressed with “ma’am” about 95% of the time, even though I don’t pass a whole bunch (I don’t look like a man in a bad wig, being taller and bigger framed is just the cards I was dealt and have to live with that). People can still be weird, like no one bats an eye wherever I go, but Costco seems to bring out the Staring Olympics from every middle-aged man around town for some reason. Fortunately, I haven’t been subjected to any negative comments. But you read a lot of the comments from Posters here at TD and it starts to grate on you at times. Look, I’m not made of Teflon and don’t have a “don’t give a sh*t” personality. I wish I did. But I’m learning to not try and let it affect me anymore, because this is the only life I have and there isn’t another option with this whole thing.

I was just want to live my life in happiness, just like everyone here. This journey is mentally exhausting at times, so it’s one foot in front of the other. Maybe it’s because I’m a little bit older it seems like I’m more even-keeled.(shrug)

---