re: Why have modern women become so narcissistic?

Simps

Mom isn't speaking to me because she told me Dad might have something to tell me, but it was his to share. I guessed he had cancer and she affirmed. I sent him a short text wishing him well. She texted, angry that I told him I knew. Stupid games.

While they were at Mass, I left her yellow roses and a card on their car.

My mom is a complete narcissist while being very charitable (to make up for her earlier mistakes). Dad never cared, a phone call was enough. I don't expect gifts, or even desire them. I learned how not to be, from my mom.

One of my bday presents (we are in to music and 42 is a tough one)

This quote demonstrates female solipsism, narcissism’s distant third cousin which is baked into the human recipe:

quote:

---

“Women have always been the primary victims of war. Women lose their husbands, their fathers, their sons in combat. Women often have to flee from the only homes they have ever known. Women are often the refugees from conflict and sometimes, more frequently in today’s warfare, victims. Women are often left with the responsibility, alone, of raising the children.” – Hillary Clinton

---

If that doesn’t say it all about how women view the world.

Narcissism is a different animal . It’s clinical, it’s a pathology, it’s a destroyer of human beings. It’s a sickness and it has no mercy. Mental health professionals know that it’s a growing epidemic primarily due to social media.

But the other thing is just as important. Female solipsism is just part of the deal here on planet earth. It’s not inherently bad, it serves a purpose and it’s just life. When a woman feels things, shares her feelings, gets those feelings affirmed by her romantic partner, she feels alive. She’s growing. A man just wants to enjoy his cheeseburger and avoid her constant deep- dive into her own mind, which he views as self- indulgent.

Feeling it is not enough for a woman, she must also share it , ruminate on it, build on it, continuously throughout her life. Men just want to live out in the world and experience things. Women want to experience their emotions and thoughts. They don’t understand that men see this as self- absorbed and annoying. They don’t know it drives men crazy, because being all up in their feels is the whole point for women. Men just want to watch the ball game.


I’d say men see it as “ I think therefore I am “ whereas women would say “ I emote therefore I am “.

I don't agree with your Mother's Day point (haven't noticed any extra Mother's Day "press" this year), but I will say that Instagram has caused a lot of people, but I would say majority women (since I'm guessing that's the majority of active users on Instagram) to become more self-centered.

I look at some of these pictures of people in beautiful locations mugging to the camera for an Instagram pose, and I'm just thinking to myself, "Go and enjoy the beautiful scenery. Don't worry about putting it on social media so your 'followers' can see how much 'fun' you're having."

My belief is that if you're actually having that much fun, you wouldn't be so focused on posting on social media during that supposedly "fun" time.

quote:

---

No one really gives a crap about Father’s Day.

---

This isn’t true. You are expected to grill food for everyone.

Made me smile. It is super unfair.

quote:

---

A 9 dude banging a 6 woman doesn't make her a 9, but you'll never convince her of that.

---

So so true

quote:

---

My friends told me that their wives have been reminding them constantly that Mother’s Day is this weekend and that they need to do something special for their wives and mothers.

---

I don’t care for Hallmark holidays it’s silly -my husband shouldn’t have to be told to do something special for me (or me for him) or the kids or whomever

BUT a lot of women and men get caught up with having to keep up with whatever the trend is, and TBH - many men would never think of doing something special without being told

Think about it- men seek alignment with their external world. Women seek alignment with their internal world. It looks like narcissism to men, but it’s really a hardwired biological difference. Women have to deep dive their feels . Men see our feelings as important but secondary to truth. To women, their emotions are the truth of what they deem most important; themselves. Men find the external world more important. Men know since childhood that we are disposable and we just get on with things. Women get on with their feelings. We are at a basic level, totally different in our approach to life.

quote:

---

I think it’s generational. Older women ( say over 45 ) aren’t likely to be narcissistic like younger women, having grown up in a more traditional era with healthier assumptions. 20 something women are freaking crazy. And Instagram is ground zero for their craziness.

---

I have noticed it's mainly younger women on Instagram posting about their trips and acting like they're celebrities.

I think some of it has to do with how we've shifted to a materialistic society, in general. For the most part, gone are the days where it didn't matter where you went, it was just about the people you were on the trip with.

Nowadays, it's about trying to make it seem like you are having having the most luxurious vacation in the most beautiful spot.