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Why do arrange marriages have such a low divorce rate?
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:41 am
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:41 am
I read some where that divorce rate is around 5%. Arrange marriages are predominately from indian, Pakistani, Middle East and some asian cultures.
Some might say that it’s “not right to force a son or daughter to marry a stranger”. But I know of 2 couples in arranged marriages(both Indians) and they seem happy. And their parents were arranged also. So there’s is some legitimacy in this method.
In the West, we are taught to find the “one true love”. But divorce rate is sky high. Are young people not good at selecting a future spouse?
I guess parents arrange marriages put less emphasis on appearance and sex? Maybe they look for stability, commitment to stability, loyalty? I’m not sure. But it seems like their life experiences play a big part in selecting a successful life partner for their son/daughter.
And not all arrange marriages is 100% decided my the parents. There are some hybrid systems where the potential mates are set up by the parents but the kids decide to go forward or not.
Some might say that it’s “not right to force a son or daughter to marry a stranger”. But I know of 2 couples in arranged marriages(both Indians) and they seem happy. And their parents were arranged also. So there’s is some legitimacy in this method.
In the West, we are taught to find the “one true love”. But divorce rate is sky high. Are young people not good at selecting a future spouse?
I guess parents arrange marriages put less emphasis on appearance and sex? Maybe they look for stability, commitment to stability, loyalty? I’m not sure. But it seems like their life experiences play a big part in selecting a successful life partner for their son/daughter.
And not all arrange marriages is 100% decided my the parents. There are some hybrid systems where the potential mates are set up by the parents but the kids decide to go forward or not.
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Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:41 am to PeteRose
The women are scared to leave them? This seems like such an easy answer. I hope the rest of my day goes like this.
This post was edited on 3/27/18 at 6:43 am
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:42 am to PeteRose
Because if they say no they get beat with bats
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:43 am to PeteRose
If they aren’t allowed to choose their spouse why would they be able to choose to divorce their spouse.
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:44 am to PeteRose
If I remember correctly the vows are "to have or to hot oil"
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:45 am to PeteRose
Because the cult would banish them from society or kill them if they did divorce. No choice in or out.
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:46 am to PeteRose
Nothing like the threat of being stoned to death to rekindle the romance.
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:46 am to DavidTheGnome
quote:Well, these aren’t Muslims.
The women are scared to leave them?
Indians are not the same.
Scruffy does know many who seem to be in arranged marriages and are very happy.
Yet to meet one that isn’t, but Scruffy does know they exist.
This post was edited on 3/27/18 at 6:47 am
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:52 am to Scruffy
It's kinda bs that we don't practice arranged marriages. Pick out some chick with traditional values in my socioeconomic strata? And when she screws up I can tell her paw paw and the family will straighten it out? Hell yeah
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:52 am to shinerfan
Well shite, Scruffy was unaware that honor killings were a thing in India.
Guess that is the benefit to knowing the best and brightest that comes here.
Guess that is the benefit to knowing the best and brightest that comes here.
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:57 am to el Gaucho
quote:
"to have or to hot oil"
A little hot oil in the bedroom can enhance a marriage. Just saying.
Posted on 3/27/18 at 6:58 am to PeteRose
quote:
arrange marriages
Twice! Can't blame a typo!!
Posted on 3/27/18 at 7:11 am to PeteRose
My wife has a co-worker who is from India and he was given in marriage to an Indian woman without meeting her first. Eventually, he went to India for a month and got married. She now lives with him here in the U.S.
He continues to frequently visit strip clubs and regularly haa boys night outs with his male Indian relatives.
My wife asked him what his wife thought about it and if he was worried she would divorce him for said actions.
He said there was no chance and that divorce was culturally shunned and almost never sought by Indian women.
He continues to frequently visit strip clubs and regularly haa boys night outs with his male Indian relatives.
My wife asked him what his wife thought about it and if he was worried she would divorce him for said actions.
He said there was no chance and that divorce was culturally shunned and almost never sought by Indian women.
Posted on 3/27/18 at 7:20 am to Scruffy
Setting aside honor killings, there is still a lot of familial/societal pressure against divorce in those communities.
If your whole family would shun you for getting divorced, you would think twice about it too.
If your whole family would shun you for getting divorced, you would think twice about it too.
Posted on 3/27/18 at 7:29 am to Scruffy
quote:
Well, these aren’t Muslims.
Indians are not the same.
Scruffy does know many who seem to be in arranged marriages and are very happy.
Yet to meet one that isn’t, but Scruffy does know they exist.
Scruffy isn't stupid, but this is a stupid Scruffy post.
Posted on 3/27/18 at 7:32 am to DavidTheGnome
quote:
The women are scared to leave them? This seems like such an easy answer. I hope the rest of my day goes like this.
I'm not sure that's the real answer though
You have to consider some males may be unhappy with the arrangement also
Posted on 3/27/18 at 7:34 am to PeteRose
Because
Posted on 3/27/18 at 7:37 am to PeteRose
Because they value the family structure. And also being associated with proven families. They don't believe in bullshite fairy tale Hollywood version of Love.
Posted on 3/27/18 at 7:37 am to PeteRose
Same reason plantations in the 1700s had low employee turnover.
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