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re: Who here is divorced with kids?
Posted on 4/23/20 at 10:53 pm to Chef Free Gold Bloom
Posted on 4/23/20 at 10:53 pm to Chef Free Gold Bloom
I am, 8YO girl and 10yo son. She initiated it and blames me for everything. I wanted to work it out. Hope it was worth it to her. I don't think she'd admit it if it wasn't.
This post was edited on 4/23/20 at 11:30 pm
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Posted on 4/23/20 at 11:05 pm to CMBears1259
Going through the motions since January. Two kiddos.
I initiated it after she did a myriad of fricked up things.
I can’t tell you it’s worth it yet but I’m starting to see the light on the other side. Quarantine has made it a lonelier process than normal but I’ve been able to face this mess head on without distractions, which has been healthy.
It’s probably worth it to give reconciliation everything you have, but when it isn’t working we have to know when to cut bait and do the uncomfortable.
I initiated it after she did a myriad of fricked up things.
I can’t tell you it’s worth it yet but I’m starting to see the light on the other side. Quarantine has made it a lonelier process than normal but I’ve been able to face this mess head on without distractions, which has been healthy.
It’s probably worth it to give reconciliation everything you have, but when it isn’t working we have to know when to cut bait and do the uncomfortable.
Posted on 4/23/20 at 11:16 pm to noon0707
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If the home with the wife is toxic and there is no chance of changing that, absolutely without question it’s worth it. You will be amazed what the kids pick up on and how much they understand. It’s unbelievable. Had I known that, I would’ve filed sooner. Don’t subject kids to constant fighting and tension. It’s not their fault. You can still be a great father without seeing them everyday. Make it a priority
This!!!
At some point we both ended up bringing a level of toxicity to the marriage. We had different expectations and had different communication styles. We were raised very differently. Her parents are still married (purely out of convenience) and mine divorced when I was about 3. I think it made me a better person. Her dad worked at Dow for 20-30 years. He worked every OT/holiday OT/every shift he could and was rarely home. The ex-MIL has the spine of a jelly fish and raised an entitled brat (picture Veruca Salt from Willy Wonka) who routinely steamrolled her mother.
I wanted to work on our marriage when we separated and every time I'd go to our house she would start shite up in front of the kids.
Unfortunately, life continues to be a nearly constant battle. She moved out to Prairieville and I stayed in BR and we're having to work out school issues with my son while keeping my daughter at her school.
I should have listened to my mother, but I have 2 beautiful children that I love dearly.
This post was edited on 4/23/20 at 11:19 pm
Posted on 4/23/20 at 11:46 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
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I wonder how many of the people here that are constantly shitting on black people for fatherless homes are divorced themselves
You are a race-baiting, piece of shite, douchebag. The world would be better without you in it.
Posted on 4/23/20 at 11:55 pm to Chef Free Gold Bloom
Son born 2007, divorced 2011. I filed because she was a whore.
Remarried 2015. 2nd son born 2019.
Remarried 2015. 2nd son born 2019.
Posted on 4/24/20 at 12:11 am to CMBears1259
How does split custody work when Mom and Dad live in 2 different cities? In your case it’s still a short drive, so that’s not toooo bad is it
Posted on 4/24/20 at 12:13 am to Chef Free Gold Bloom
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This is where I’m most concerned. But is it really better to grow up in a home where one parent hates the other one?
Is there really hate in your relationship?
Posted on 4/24/20 at 12:16 am to crazyatthecamp
quote:I don't know you or your situation, but I wouldn't wish this on any man. Hope this changes!
My soul is lonely
Posted on 4/24/20 at 12:18 am to Chef Free Gold Bloom
Very few men initiate divorce because they fell out of love.
Posted on 4/24/20 at 12:20 am to crazyatthecamp
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crazyatthecamp
Dude
This breaks my heart for you. Life is so, so short. I hope you are able to find whatever it is that gives you happiness. Please know you aren't required to live a miserable life here on earth just for the sake of saying you tried.
Posted on 4/24/20 at 12:29 am to Chef Free Gold Bloom
She did 100%.
No. 5 years later one of my daughters still cries about 1/2 the time when I drop her back off at her moms. Hell, I still nearly cry just thinking about it and the pain the kids are going through.
Read a book - The lasting legacy of divorce before you go any further.
No. 5 years later one of my daughters still cries about 1/2 the time when I drop her back off at her moms. Hell, I still nearly cry just thinking about it and the pain the kids are going through.
Read a book - The lasting legacy of divorce before you go any further.
Posted on 4/24/20 at 12:31 am to GreatLakesTiger24
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I wonder how many of the people here that are constantly shitting on black people for fatherless homes are divorced themselves
Big difference between divorced and fatherless. I’m in my kids life on an almost daily basis or was until isolation. Plus the divorce wasn’t my wanting and I hate it.
Posted on 4/24/20 at 12:54 am to crazyatthecamp
Look...real talk,
Being with a woman who doesn’t love you isn’t being with her,
And your kids know it at some level.
Either you make it work, (which takes 2) or you don’t, but if you don’t there’s no reason to put your kids through that misery.
Breaking free is a hard hard road, but in the end you usually find yourself a better person for the journey. Learn what didn’t work in your old relationship and learn your lessons. As long as you are growing then the journey is worth knowing.
Being with a woman who doesn’t love you isn’t being with her,
And your kids know it at some level.
Either you make it work, (which takes 2) or you don’t, but if you don’t there’s no reason to put your kids through that misery.
Breaking free is a hard hard road, but in the end you usually find yourself a better person for the journey. Learn what didn’t work in your old relationship and learn your lessons. As long as you are growing then the journey is worth knowing.
Posted on 4/24/20 at 1:51 am to Chris P Bacon
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Everyone on here is a hypocrite. That's what makes it so much fun!
The fun part is that they are too stupid to realize their hypocrisy.
This place is slap full of idiots.
Posted on 4/24/20 at 6:16 am to Love me some Les
It blows my mind so many people get the biggest decision in their life wrong.
Posted on 4/24/20 at 6:44 am to Paul Allen
Lies. It’s not cheaper to keep her.
This post was edited on 4/24/20 at 6:45 am
Posted on 4/24/20 at 7:19 am to Privateer 2007
quote:social disintegration like you read about. cultural Marxism has won.
Nothing wrong with divorce if you stay a good, involved Dad.
Posted on 4/24/20 at 7:23 am to rrboy
Most people just don’t realize it at the time.
Marriage is hard. Pretty sure they tell you that but it’s one of those things you don’t truly realize till you’re in it.
Marriage is hard. Pretty sure they tell you that but it’s one of those things you don’t truly realize till you’re in it.
Posted on 4/24/20 at 7:41 am to GreatLakesTiger24
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social disintegration like you read about. cultural Marxism has won.
Still wondering why you brought race into the discussion for any reason other than click bait.
What was your motivation? That's a pretty simple question to answer, right?
Posted on 4/24/20 at 7:43 am to TSLG
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The fun part is that they are too stupid to realize their hypocrisy.
This place is slap full of idiots.
Literally the pot calling the kettle black
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