re: Who here is divorced with kids?

No lie, it cost me $350

She didn’t fight it. I got the house and the newer vehicle.
I think deep down she knew she did me dirty. I was far from imperfect but I never cheated on her, not even a little.
But shift work and being gone too long too many nights, and when I was off I wanted to do stuff and she didn’t. There would be days where the only interaction we had was me coming off shift right before she would get up for work. And I’d shower and lie down next to her, reach out and she’d turn away.

Inches between us, but they might as well have been an ocean.

I should have seen it sooner. But it was already too late. The only hard step is the first one. After that it’s a whirlpool that sucks you in and makes it hard to see the truth.

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He’s engaged, he goes now I know why your still single. You do as you want, when you want!

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Sounds like his marriage will last long!

Very true. It sucks going through it but things have been much better, especially for my kids.

I am very involved in my kids lives. Which is all that matters.

Caught her cheating. Had the evidence. She left and the kids stayed with me.

She pays me child support

Totally worth it.

Lol, what problem would that be? What stones did anyone throw?

Before you start spewing shite, you might want to get the facts.

Your response was moronic at best. Did it make you feel better? Are you harboring ill will towards anyone? Nothing more than a woe is me response.

Grow up, Peter Pan

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You can have a deep and meaningful relationship with your child after divorce.

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100%

It's nice to see a good father like yourself still involved after the divorce. Unfortunately there are still too many that aren't.

If the home with the wife is toxic and there is no chance of changing that, absolutely without question it’s worth it. You will be amazed what the kids pick up on and how much they understand. It’s unbelievable. Had I known that, I would’ve filed sooner. Don’t subject kids to constant fighting and tension. It’s not their fault. You can still be a great father without seeing them everyday. Make it a priority

As always, a classic retort from a race baiter

Perhaps be a masturbater, might help you relax.

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But is it really better to grow up in a home where one parent hates the other one?

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No it's not.

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a misguided sense of obligation.

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Wife and I reconciled. She filed for divorce, I moved out, and we separated for close to a year.

She grew up during the time apart and realized that the life we had together wasn’t nearly as bad as she thought. I am not a perfect husband, but I like to think she could do much worse in this world.

It doesn’t take much to make me happy. Being able to watch my daughter grow up daily and not worrying about some another man setting poor examples for my daughter every other week has absolutely been worth any personal/romantic happiness I could have found if I moved on and found someone else.

Life isn’t fair. Sometimes you have to play the hand you are dealt. Grind it out. Make the best of some tough times for the sake of being able to provide a stable home with good structure to those who need it the most. I am content with my sense of obligation, however misguided others may see it.