re: What to send to a friend with cancer in the hospital

I don't know about stomach cancer due to not being able to eat as said, but I'd think some gift cards for places that deliver food is a great idea. Do the apps that deliver food have gift cards? Don't use them so I don't know, but I'd assume so.

if you cant visit in person, all i can think of that would be "useful" is, if he doesnt have it, a netflix or movie service subscription

he will not feel very good and spending many hours in boring hospitals and some form of entertainment distraction will be the best gift.

short of that maybe hire a maid service to help the wife take care of the house while she is busy dealing with everything else and trying to care for him.

When my mom had cancer and was in the hospital for a while, friends and neighbors all sent us a ridiculous amount of food. It was wonderful but we had so much at one point we had to start giving some of it away


But food helps and brings comfort for sure, not just for the patient but it helps out the remaining family as well. We got gift cards as well to restaurants to pick up food. Hospital food is pretty bad.

My mom likes to read so I bought some other books she enjoyed, it helped distract from what was going on

Best present is to spend time with your friend. Chat, play cards, whatever. Your presence means much more than materials and it helps take their minds off the pain temporarily.

A longtime girlfriend of mine passed away from pancreatic cancer after a 17 month battle. Her favorite gifts were Under Armour sweatshirts and sweatpants. She also like plush animal stocking caps that we found at Walgreens. Anything that helped her stay warm.

It also may be a good idea to organize a fundraiser because cancer destroys finances.

Not food, won’t be able to taste it anyway. I hear chemo makes everything taste like metal.

An average sized framed photo of the both of you on a good day if you have one and a sincere, short card that lets him know he’s very special to you and in your thoughts. Shouldn’t imply any questions about the cancer being terminal. Obviously if they’ve ever mentioned anything they enjoy that’s possible to when low energy or bed ridden. Inspirational books, headwear (possibly a favorite sports team beanie or hat but only after later on they mention losing their hair), chemo jokes t shirts, etc. are all too common and people want to take their mind off the shite

Edit: I also agree with offering to do or hire some else to do the typical male tasks at home. Illnesses can cause quite a few relationship hurdles because of the gender rolls not being fulfilled on either side, luckily it’s usually harder when the wife is ill

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I’ve been rewatching the Sopranos; give him an envelope full of money.

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Apparently you skipped the episode where he sent a big tits hooker to visit his friend in the hospital. That sounds better.

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A visit

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This. I'd do your best to send yourself. What the frick would I want with some materialistic shite, if my days are numbered?

Maybe a nice print to decorate his room with?

Electric razor which I had one.
You want the one that will not cut your face.
Once chemo hits which will take a few weeks he will lose ability to clot from a cut.

Yes, he will eventually lose some of his hair as mine went in patches.
Then lose facial hair and then eye lashes.

If he has port in the chest those plastic things to cover it when he takes a shower would be nice.

A hat or bandana to cover his head would be nice also.

Book bag to put his meds in and a notebook to write down doctors instructions.

Even a travel pillow to lay down in the chair when waiting for out patient appointments and small blanket.

The food they got that covered.

At MD Anderson once I got use to the chemo a couple of us would sneak out and play wheel chair basketball on the children’s side of the lymphoma section.

Food you could order basically almost all day.

Man they had cool old dude who was a nurse he explained everything like how to put the needle in your leg to give yourself the self injections while out of the hospital. He was great he would do a good job cleaning around my port and explain how to do it.

Then they had a hot but really not nice oriental nurse man I would hate to be married to her. She seemed like a hot mess.

Chemo medicine can be $4-10k per dose. Wire him so money