re: What is your relationship with your dad like?

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My Dad And I had a very rocky relationship when I was a teen but it has gotten much better and now we can just hang out and talk about anything.

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Pretty much this. I thought he was a hardass when I was younger, and now I have nothing but respect for the way he raised me and how hard he worked.

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yeah see i have none of that. my dad basically didn't raise me outside of teaching me baseball

my parents divorced when i was in 5th grade and by that point i already made power plays over him (i didn't call him dad i called him by his first name, even in front of other kids). when i was in middle school, i was more mature and less irrational-emotional than he was

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i would say that my dad raised me the right ways, but with no emotion or passion. guy taught me baseball, football, etc. never missed a game or track meet. hell he went to my DEBATE meets everytime he could. who does that?

but emotionally he just wasn't there in any way shape or form.

i'll share a story that explains how i feel about him:

when i was 9 he and my mom were out for a walk. we live in the country so not a lot of traffic. through a twist of fate, my 16 year old neighbor looked down as she was passing them and hit my mom going 60 mph. she was declared dead onsite, revived and lived in a coma for 6 months. i remember a lot of calls where my dad would hang up angry, but i didn't know what was going on. then a guy showed up at my house and talked a bunch of legal stuff and my dad got mad and started charging at him and running him off our property in a fit of profanity. never seen him that mad

come to find out, every lawyer in town was trying to get him to sue our neighbors and it pissed him off to no end. we were a small town so it was pretty much known by everybody. guy actually showed up at our house with paperwork to get him on a suit and he refused to do that.

mom came out of the coma as a 13 year old mind and he stayed with her and stuck it out.

meanwhile i've never seen him show an ounce of affection to mom or myself before or after the accident. never heard him say "i love you." or even "i like you."

so that's my dad. guy who does the right thing all the time without an smidgeon of emotion or kindness. the only thing we have in common to talk about is the Rangers.

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How so? Because mine is too. I only put up with him because I hope to get a big inheritance someday down the road.

My dad isn't a bad person, he's just very difficult to get along with.

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I could write a book on this. I will give you an example - everytime my father eats out, he tells the server its his birthday so he gets a free drink/appetizer/dessert. He does shite like this for everything.

And he is an alcoholic. Last time he visited, he got drunk at lunch every day he was here. he was fall down drunk by 9am on Christmas eve. Just not fun to be around.

He also lies a lot. He has the same personality disorder trump has - NPD. And behaves like trump does. Everything is some else's fault and he will lie to get what he wants.

I killed him in a dream as he was stabbing me in the stomach. True story.

We have a good relationship. Not extremely close, but Our convos are always in good spirits and when I'm in BR we'll go play tennis, or take the boat out or something. I don't talk to him too often, maybe every few weeks or so, and don't see him too often since I live across the country which sucks. He's a pretty lively guy to be around and people like him. Some might say he's kind of a character.

Some of my fondest memories are of him reading Calvin and Hobbes books to me, and laughing so hard that he could barely finish reading the strip. Also he used to read berenstein bears books to me as a kid, but instead of reading the print, would do voiceovers, usually making the family seem dysfunctional and argumentative I just remembered that. Used to think it was hilarious.

Pretty dang good. Hes my best man in my upcoming wedding. He can get a little caught up in his religious beliefs but that is only mildly annoying.

I was very close with my Dad. He was my best friend and most respected advisor. He's disabled now though, and it's kind of impossible to have a real relationship. He can only be cared for.

Distant. He passed away Aug. 2015, I have some regrets. I think he was in turmoil about what he wanted and what he thought he had to do as a father.

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He also lies a lot. He has the same personality disorder trump has - NPD. And behaves like trump does. Everything is some else's fault and he will lie to get what he wants.

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you have trump on the brain syndrome

dude - your stalking is getting a bit weird.