re: What is the real norm these days?

Boys and girls living together just pumping out kids and then splitting. No real relationship required. Welcome to the new norm.

1)live together
2)engaged
3)get married
4)have kid
5)divorce
6)rinse and repeat

This is how I did it

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What is the real norm these days?

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"It's a dog-eat-dog world and I'm wearing milk bone underwear."

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Because us Non ballers of the OT get stuck footing the bill for these people that can't even take care of themselves, let a lone the 3-5 kids they have.

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And then everyone else has to pay for the non-baller's 3-5 kids to go to college and the cycle continues. Best to cut out the entitlements all around.

In my case it was kid first... didn’t marry then married the wrong person.. so basically the norm is people suck

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40% of children are born out of wedlock. So it would seem to me most people get married first.

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That’s everyone, and still pretty horrible, but I’m talking about young adults only

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In a study tracking the first wave of millennials to become parents, a team from Johns Hopkins University recently found that 64 percent of mothers gave birth at least once out of wedlock. Almost one-half had all of their children without ever exchanging vows. The findings echo a separate study from 2012, which found that, among women under 30, more than one-half of all births happened outside of marriage.

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Why does it matter?

It matters, morality aside, because children from single parent households have a very very likely chance of living in poverty. When you consider the fact that 71 percent of all black births are to single mothers and considering the poverty they rarely ever escape from, it kind of drives the point home that the vicious cycle is what keeps them bound to it.


Now true, vows mean less than they ever have in society, but no vows at all certainly don’t help matters one bit.

Living together before getting married is pretty normal. Gotta make sure living together works first. But the kids before marriage part is almost always not planned.

i think whatever works for the individuals involved.
i never liked the term "normal."
who is to say what is normal or not normal?
it's 2018. no need for antiquated constructs.


live and let live.

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Honest question, What difference does it make?

Me personally I live my life for me and with the intention of not harming other people. I don't concern myself with how others are living their lives if it does not directly harm me. Regardless of whether or not I agree with their live choices.

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This is the correct response.

Society changes. Do people expect everyone to live life like it is 1954? You get married, have kids, the dad works while the mother stays home and everything seems perfect, but in reality the mother hates her life, the husband is miserable and the kids act the way they were taught how to act.. In front of their parents, but when they grow up they don't want to live the perceived perfect life because they realized it is all complete bullshite.

Everyone is different, every situation is different. As long as someone doesn't impact your life, who really cares how they live?

It used to be the white oakleys but that may have changed. I'll have to ask Lonnie Thibodeaux or Chad Toups the next time I see them.