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re: Veteran Suicide
Posted on 5/13/25 at 5:30 pm to TigerRoyale
Posted on 5/13/25 at 5:30 pm to TigerRoyale
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While I don't want to make this about me, I've pretty much shut down. I'm struggling knowing that I was not there. People who know me have withdrawn from me as well. Business associates I've been kind to and have known me for years not only have stopped contact with me but speak ill of me due to my recent change in demeanor.
Sadly, one thing that we have learned about suicide is that it is contagious. People don't know how to deal with being the friend of someone going through the despair. When the friend goes through with it, their own feelings of guilt make the despair real and they start to run down that road.
Go to therapy.
Fight for your therapist to take you seriously and get the help you need.
Don't go into a shell. Please. Let people see that you are vulnerable. Learn who your friends are, and don't limit yourself to fewer-and-fewer of them.
We don't want to lose you.
Thorny
USAF retired, Afghanistan vet.
This post was edited on 5/13/25 at 5:35 pm
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Posted on 5/13/25 at 5:39 pm to TigerRoyale
I am sorry for your loss. It's natural to be sad after something like this. Therapy also won't hurt and I can recommend a great one in Natchitoches if you like.
Posted on 5/13/25 at 7:20 pm to TigerRoyale
Hey brother. Too many of us are suck starting a pistol. Don't be one of them, have you tried some of the mushroom therapies? They are not official, bit look into it.
Remember, more people want you in this world than you think. When it gets dark, remember it can always get worse. (ok that is a little vet/dark humor).
Don't let the assholes win.
Remember, more people want you in this world than you think. When it gets dark, remember it can always get worse. (ok that is a little vet/dark humor).
Don't let the assholes win.
Posted on 5/13/25 at 7:22 pm to TigerRoyale
Sorry to hear about your friend, not to bring up politics but this is one of the things I do love about Trump, he's not gonna get us into any conflicts that don't have to be fought.
He's actually a peacemaker.
He's actually a peacemaker.
Posted on 5/15/25 at 8:39 am to TigerRoyale
Unfortunately, many of us have gone through what you're going through. Several times at that.
After one of my troops did that. I talked with a chaplain and got some help. The thing that helped me the most was a statistic that let me know there really wasn't anything I could do. Here it is:
When someone decides to end it. You have 2 minutes to stop them. They won't be on the phone, so you have to be in the room with them. As others have said, this isn't on you.
For myself, I'd say, honor the fallen by taking care of yourself.
After one of my troops did that. I talked with a chaplain and got some help. The thing that helped me the most was a statistic that let me know there really wasn't anything I could do. Here it is:
When someone decides to end it. You have 2 minutes to stop them. They won't be on the phone, so you have to be in the room with them. As others have said, this isn't on you.
For myself, I'd say, honor the fallen by taking care of yourself.
Posted on 5/15/25 at 8:45 am to el Gaucho
quote:Missing future Marvel movies for me would be considered a benefit of checking out.
When I have dark thoughts I think about all the future marvel movies I would miss
Posted on 5/15/25 at 8:56 am to TigerRoyale
Therapy/counseling/mental and emotional treatment for former military should be mandatory, and it should be from highly qualified counselors. There is a stigma to therapy among former military that needs to be broken. The government should also fulfill an obligation to these women and men long after they leave the service to ensure the wars they fight don’t kill them after they return home. Post service suicide is one our country’s great tragedies.
This post was edited on 5/15/25 at 3:12 pm
Posted on 5/15/25 at 9:08 am to TigerRoyale
I hope you can find peace in God that you are not responsible for someone else’s mental illness.
Him getting the help he needed, spiritual and medical, to try and prevent what happened is not under your control.
Him getting the help he needed, spiritual and medical, to try and prevent what happened is not under your control.
Posted on 5/15/25 at 9:15 am to TigerRoyale
My oldest son just went through this with his college roommate and best friend. To say I was concerned for him is an understatement but he sought help and it did wonders. You need to do the same and eventually you will learn to trust others and yourself again.
Posted on 5/15/25 at 9:57 am to TigerRoyale
Not sure what area you are in but there are many organizations that will help you and yes, get into therapy asap!
It’s normal for you to feel the way you are feeling. Grief is one thing but grief from suicide is drastically different and you need some help getting through it. Check out NAMI for some help or call 988!
I hope this helps.
It’s normal for you to feel the way you are feeling. Grief is one thing but grief from suicide is drastically different and you need some help getting through it. Check out NAMI for some help or call 988!
I hope this helps.
This post was edited on 5/15/25 at 10:16 am
Posted on 5/15/25 at 12:53 pm to TigerRoyale
I’m so sorry for your loss. It seems like whatever you’ve already gone through is probably sharpened and maybe even worsened by your friend’s suicide. I don’t know if you’ve already tried it, but microdosing psychdelics and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) are increasingly being used for PTSD. I have friends who have treated with each of these, and it worked well for both of them. (Neither of them were diagnosed with PTSD, though).
I hope you find an avenue to help you through this time just as you’ve helped others. I’m praying for answers for you.
I hope you find an avenue to help you through this time just as you’ve helped others. I’m praying for answers for you.
Posted on 5/15/25 at 2:45 pm to TigerRoyale
Sadly, veteran suicides are under reported. Rest in peace to your comrade.
Posted on 5/15/25 at 4:45 pm to TigerRoyale
Not a vet but a close friend committed suicide during my first year of residency. I had been there for him a lot at the end of med school but just didn’t have as much time starting training so we kind of lost contact. Then I got the news. There’s still a hole there, a sort of emptiness and regret. It gets better but I don’t think it ever goes away. Take care of yourself friend. Therapy helps.
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