re: Updated** 11/29 8:38am. Cheating and forgiveness

I went thru this, at least at some level. My wife left me for an old high school boyfriend. We had been married for 4 years, she was in nursing school, and I worked 2 jobs with the plan to give up one job when she finished school.
She finished school, which my 2 jobs helped pay for, and less than a month later I came home and found a note on the door that she was "tired of living for everyone else, and wanted to live for herself", and basically the house was empty, and so was our bank account.

I went through all the normal emotions a man might go through from sorrow to anger to depression to anything else. In 2 months time, I went from 168 lbs to 118 lbs.

But I guess I'm old fashioned, I took my vows seriously, and determined to see if we could somehow work things out. It took about a year of off again, on again talking, but finally she told me she wanted a divorce, and so she filed and that was that.

I never regretted trying to work it out, I always felt like I owed it to myself to try, and I have a clean conscience over the effort I made.

Life got better, and I learned a lot from the experience. Been married now for 19 years to a great woman, and have no regrets for my previous marriage.

So I get what your nephew is trying to do, really only him and her know the full extent of it all. I just hope she is sincere and doesn't hurt him again. Best of luck.

Believe it or not, I’ve seen worse situations get redeemed.

Not saying that he should take her back, but I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad idea.

It is a bad idea to move her right back in though.

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Don't do it

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This. My bet is she found out her new man was cheating or something or he got rid of her. Leopards never change their spots. Your "nephew" must be one huge cuck.

He's not a man. He just has the outward appearance of a man. No one who knows this story would consider him a man. You should tell him these exact words.

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Anyway, last weekend he gets a call from her, she wants to come back home and after several hours on the phone, he decides to take her back. He rents a U-Haul, dumps his kids off on his parents for a couple of days and drives to Tennessee to move her back. I don't have a problem with forgiving her for cheating, but I sure as hell wouldn't take her arse back. For me, it all boils down to whether or not she'll do it again

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That guy needs to be slapped.

This woman sounds like Ginger, Sharon Stone's character from Casino. Spoiler alert, it didn't end well.

EDIT; actually, this woman is worse than Ginger. At least Ginger didn't abandon her kid.

after the first time cheating becomes easier and easier.

nah frick dat

Why is he not already divorced and established as the custodial parent with primary if not sole custody. If he let's her back in and she decides not long after that she wants a divorce...hes basically wiped away all she did in the courts eyes at that point. Your nephew in law is a dumb cuck boy....I guess as long as it doesn't cost you much.. kick back and enjoy the show.

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Not to hijack the thread but y'all were right. she played me for 2 years. She talked shite to the wrong people and they told me.

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