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re: Tried to talk my son out of getting married. It didn't go well.
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:37 pm to Slippy
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:37 pm to Slippy
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He is standing in the middle of a highway and an 18 wheeler is coming straight at him.
1. Is she abusive?
2. Does she engage in high risk/criminal lifestyle?
3. Are they under 18?
If these answers are 'No', drink your Makers and be supportive of your son, you ole ornery goat.
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Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:37 pm to Slippy
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Oh, and did I mention the wedding is in Tuscaloosa?
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:38 pm to Slippy
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Not really much to say. She is from California. Her parents are kooky
Im as conservative as most on here, but political leanings of her parents should concern you zero percent....wtf
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:39 pm to IAmNERD
Has anyone asked for pics of this broad?
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:41 pm to fightin tigers
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Has anyone asked for pics of this broad?
Yeah, not enough bandwidth.
This post was edited on 12/18/17 at 8:42 pm
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:41 pm to Slippy
Well fact is you gotta let people make their own mistakes.
Only way they'll ever learn.
Tough when it's someone you love but it is what it is.
Only way they'll ever learn.
Tough when it's someone you love but it is what it is.
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:42 pm to LCA131
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Yeah, not enough bandwidth.
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:43 pm to Slippy
Yeah, he's definitely doing it wrong. At this rate, he won't get Medicaid. Knock her up, and they can even live together, but use different addresses. Almost everything is free. Getting married really throws a wrench into things.
I know you would rather see him maybe establish himself career wise, possibly even start his own business, own a home, and responsibly get married before raising a family.
But, for what? So he can pay for private education in addition to public to give his children the best chance to grow up and pay for 20 people that didn't give a shite about their responsibilities.
Nah, Slippy. You're definitely right. Don't let him miss out on the LA Purchase Card and all the benefits of democracy. Paying for the birth of his kids and all their needs, even supporting the parents, is just too good of a deal to pass up.
I know you would rather see him maybe establish himself career wise, possibly even start his own business, own a home, and responsibly get married before raising a family.
But, for what? So he can pay for private education in addition to public to give his children the best chance to grow up and pay for 20 people that didn't give a shite about their responsibilities.
Nah, Slippy. You're definitely right. Don't let him miss out on the LA Purchase Card and all the benefits of democracy. Paying for the birth of his kids and all their needs, even supporting the parents, is just too good of a deal to pass up.
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:43 pm to Slippy
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Her parents are kooky and are not paying for the wedding
Hope you're not, then
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:44 pm to LCA131
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Yeah, not enough bandwidth.
So the son is a chubby chaser. Worse crimes in this world.
At least he will always have snacks in the house.
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:47 pm to LCA131
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At this point, if you cannot recognize AND appreciate what they were doing out of love for you, you haven't grown up much. Sorry for the truth bomb, but they were right and were trying to help you.
You clearly don’t understand the extent of their meddling.
And I fricked up and got her pregnant, so there was no way I wasn’t marrying her. The extent of their meddling pretty much killed any chance of a successful marriage. In the end, I got custody of my kid. If I hadn’t, I still wouldn’t be talking to my parents.
This post was edited on 12/18/17 at 8:49 pm
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:47 pm to Slippy
How about introduce him to a new level with God and let God guide him.
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:48 pm to TigrrrDad
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You clearly don’t understand the extent of their meddling.
Agree. I'll never understand people who don't consider moves like OP's to be a massive overreach. My mother has told me herself that they'd never meddle in our relationships as long as it isn't abusive/illegal. It simply isn't another adult's business.
OP - If your son has gone back and told his wife-to-be, your relationship is pretty strained at this point. I would have a hard time coming back from something like that if I were her.
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:49 pm to fightin tigers
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At least he will always have snacks in the house
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:52 pm to Slippy
Sometimes you just gotta let them go.
We have a son (he’s my step son - I’ve know this kid since he was 10) that is 35 and continues to make stupid mistakes- most hard headed person I ever met. He’s been struggling since he was 12 or so. I continue to show patience (or try to) - we’ve tried tough love, you name it we’ve tried it. We hoped when he moved out that this would help him grow up, but he just drags others into his victim situations.
I feel bad for his children- but once again the divorce wasn’t his fault - bullshite.
We have a son (he’s my step son - I’ve know this kid since he was 10) that is 35 and continues to make stupid mistakes- most hard headed person I ever met. He’s been struggling since he was 12 or so. I continue to show patience (or try to) - we’ve tried tough love, you name it we’ve tried it. We hoped when he moved out that this would help him grow up, but he just drags others into his victim situations.
I feel bad for his children- but once again the divorce wasn’t his fault - bullshite.
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:54 pm to Slippy
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Oh, and did I mention the wedding is in Tuscaloosa?
There is a nice new sanctuary (or whatever catholics call it) that has been built at Holy Spirit in Tuscaloosa. If that is where they are getting married, perhaps that should put your picky arse at ease, at least on this part.
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:55 pm to Slippy
Sounds like you need to hire him a naked maid?
Posted on 12/18/17 at 8:58 pm to LCA131
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At this point, if you cannot recognize AND appreciate what they were doing out of love for you, you haven't grown up much.
Sorry for the truth bomb, but they were right and were trying to help you.
I can tell you from experience - things done "out of love" are often short-sighted and misguided.
If you took these kids, married them, and cut off access to their parents/siblings, I bet their marriage would have a better chance of surviving. Family members meddling in relationships/marriages cause far more strain than they alleviate.
Posted on 12/18/17 at 9:00 pm to SpicyStacy
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naked maid
This post was edited on 12/18/17 at 9:01 pm
Posted on 12/18/17 at 9:04 pm to LouisianaLady
Just cause your mom won't doesn't mean everyone should do the same.
If my son was marrying a woman that i felt like had serious issues/could cause problems for my son then i would try to talk him out of it too. Abuse isn't the only issue in a marriage, she could cheat on him for example
If my son was marrying a woman that i felt like had serious issues/could cause problems for my son then i would try to talk him out of it too. Abuse isn't the only issue in a marriage, she could cheat on him for example
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